chemical pregnancy advice please

[Newmama93]

Hi everyone

i posted yesterday that my 12DPO test was lighter than my 11DPO test, today I did one FMU at 13DPO and this is it compared to my 10DPO one. Is this a definite chemical? Am I ruled out yet? It is a bit darker maybe but for 3 days not a lot and I’m having back ache. I’m so sad as this will be my second loss in a row. I’d expect a bigger change at this stage.

This is the comparison, whereas yesterday’s was slightly lighter than 10DPO. I’ve never read about this ending well with this little progression.

For 3 days progression is not good so might lose hope for this ome

I would say it’s too little information to be able to predict the future from. As hard as it is to do; wait and see. Keep busy in the meantime, do happy things, time will pass.

I can remember feeling like you!!! Oh the tears but its really too soon to know. Praying for you!

Thank you. I’m so all over the place I’m so sad. 13dpo line is ok it’s just that yesterday’s was lighter and it’s not a lot darker. So so stressful.

Its so stressful, I’ve had a few chemical pregnancies and I’ve had different outcomes, I could get a degree in line spotting!

At the moment it’s so early

If you can, try to test every other day.

Fingers crossed x

Thank you, does mine look similar to chemical lines?

I’m so sorry I cant really say, I really wish I could.
I had so many variations really dark then really faint, almost the same depth of colour everyday, darker then lighter. It’s a complete head f*

What I will say is that even though it’s only a small difference they are darker and you can see a difference. You are still very early and most women might not have even tested at this point.

Be gentle with yourself, sending you so much love and a huge amount of luck.
xxxx

I don’t think that’s a chemical for what it’s worth. I’ve had quite a few chemicals and lines were never that strong. With my successful pregnancies I actually found frers slow to get decent lines even though I know they’re supposed to be very sensitive.

I think the test line is stronger than the control line at Day 13, so I reckon it means you are even more pregnant.

At 14dpo my test lines were still really faint. I am now 7 months pregnant 😊

Thanks so much!

my worry is yesterday’s at 12DPO was lighter than 10DPO but today’s (13dpo) was darker so holding onto that hope.

Please stop stressing about the lines, they are lighter and fainter for many different reasons and are no indication of the validity of your pregnancy. I tested positive with strong lines all through the first 12 weeks - I tested a lot! - and I had a missed mc which hadn't progressed past 6 weeks. I continued to test strongly positive for many months after. It's honestly so much more to do with urine concentration than anything else. Book an early scan, try to relax, stop testing! Wishing you the BEST of luck x

Thank you SO much. All the threads where the line was light and didnt progress it never ended well so it did give me a lot of anxiety with yesterday’s being lighter and today not a lot of difference but I’ll try my best to relax and I’m not testing anymore, I just had bloods. Cramping isn’t good though!

I’ll let you know the outcome thanks again

I had cramping for implantation so you never know

I would’ve already implanted with my test being positive but hope it’s everything stretching

Hi OP.
I think your lines are nice and dark. The stretching is normal is early pregnancy.
Bleeding can also be normal. I had a lot of miscarriages and I bled in some of my successful pregnancies. I hope it works out well for you.

Thank you. I guess I got into a panic as all the threads on here with lines not progressing a big amount or lightening ended in a chemical, I’m all over the shop since my loss. Preying though and I’ve stopped testing!

Have I not seen this post a number of times already today?

There are lots of posts where lightening lines ended with a baby and not a miscarriage. I posted one of them! You're looking for information that confirms your anxiety and not the reality.

I would suggest if this pregnancy continues for you (as it is looking likely to do) that you seek support for your anxiety on you're going to be in for a long hard ride.

Umm thanks I guess

@MaybeBabyTwo great advice when someone is panicking they are having miscarriage. It’s come across as really rude and condescending which I’m sure you didn’t mean...

Come on, that's not helpful or supportive, is it?

I think you're very anxious because of losing a baby already.

It's normal to want to know if things are going better this time. Nothing is set in stone, though. Even if you get a wonderful dark line in a couple of days time, that doesn't guarantee a healthy pregnancy.

However, I also feel that you're panicking unnecessarily. Your line progression so far looks good to me. There's nothing worse than having had a miscarriage, then getting pregnant again, and worrying that you'll have another miscarriage.

Your feelings are normal, OP. Don't feel bad for panicking. I was the same. Any woman who has lost a baby worries about the next one. I hope you'll update the thread when you can. Good luck.

I’ve had two chemicals- decent enough line one day followed by barely there line day after, yours don’t look like my chemicals. (Not saying they’re all like that but that was my experience) With my third child, I had a strong line at 10 DPO, and then a much much fainter one the following day- I assumed the worst. Line the day after was good and strong again. I know false hope isn’t helpful, and I was exactly like you, and couldn’t help fearing the worst, but I do think you’re still in with a chance there.

There's no such thing as a 'chemical pregnancy' - just a conception which fails for one of a number of reasons. One of which is an autoimmune disorder which causes the body to attack the burrowing trophoblast. Sometimes women with this disorder miscarry late in the first or into the second trimester, but this is a delayed miscarriages of a foetus which was not viable. Some women (like me) don't get that far because their body is having none of it, straight off the bat. It is the most common single cause of recurrent miscarriage.

I hope this works out, but if it doesn't - you count it as one of your three strikes to get an NHS referral to a consultant for recurrent miscarriage.

And if it does work out, you are going to have to work on your resilience because 9 months is a bloody long time.

Good luck.

[Veteran miscarrier & mother to 2 teenagers]