AIBU?
To think it's mostly men who are scary drivers
IBegYou · 19/03/2023 09:35
My husband is The Driver. Oh, I can drive, but he will take possession of the keys for any journey he is on. He thinks he's above reproach. A flawless, excellent, even exemplary driver.
He is not. He is a fucking scary driver. Chopping and changing lanes on the motorway to dodge around other cars as if it's some kind of racing game. Going right up their arses as if they can't slam their feet on the brakes. Not indicating and thinking that he's perfectly safe, and that nobody else on the road will be so prickish as to not signal their intent to other drivers. Speeding, looking at his phone, undertaking...
And he has the audacity to be annoyed at me when I can't take it anymore and tell him to slow the fuck down, stop driving like he's in an action movie and prioritise the lives of the people in the car!
My dad is also a fucking scary driver. My sisters husband. My brother in law. My cousin. My friend. All of the scary drivers I've ever been in a car with have been men. The driver who smashed into my stationary car in traffic was a speeding man looking at his phone.
AIBU to think that maybe most men are not frightening reckless drivers but most frightening reckless drivers are men.
missmollygreen · 19/03/2023 09:38
I have seen lots of bad driving, from both men and women
SalmonKnicks · 19/03/2023 09:39
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Ponoka7 · 19/03/2023 09:39
Accident statistics show that you are right. My personal experience is also that you are right.
Ponoka7 · 19/03/2023 09:42
There's bad driving and dangerous driving. It's important to separate the two. Drink driving, deaths, serious injuries all feature men more.
StrawberryWater · 19/03/2023 09:43
From personal experience I’d say the majority of shit drivers I’ve encountered are men. I’ve had people cut me up, shout at me for sticking to the speed limit, drive around me while I was sat stationary at a red light so he could be at the from of the que, a guy who over took me at about 80 on a 50 only to slam his breaks on to try and cause an accident…. the list goes on and on and I haven’t even mentioned all the twats on the motorway!
That said I’ve seen some terrible women drivers recently (like the idiot who said she couldn’t see my big red car as she reversed into it the other day).
Ladybrrrd · 19/03/2023 09:44
It's my sister's driving I'm most scared of. There's lots of dings, lots of mounted pavements, cutting people up, wrong lane, adjusting the radio endlessly. She's just ditsy in the car. I can think of a couple of blokes who go a bit fast on motorways but otherwise good drivers.
MrsMoastyToasty · 19/03/2023 09:45
My DH thinks he's the best driver in the world. Except when he's had a skinfull of alcohol and I drive.
Then it's "do ya know what, Moasty? You're the besht driver..."
OneTC · 19/03/2023 09:46
Shit drivers come in both flavours.
Shit aggressive drivers are normally men though agreed.
As far as you can generalise I think the sexes bring different types of shitness to the table
Oysterbabe · 19/03/2023 09:46
Men are more aggressive drivers (and more aggressive everything else too) I absolutely fucking hate being driven by DH, especially with the kids. I don't think we've ever had a journey over 30 minutes without him getting into some kind of altercation with another driver. If he thinks their driving is less than perfect it's angry gestures, horn, flashing lights. If he ends up against someone similarly aggressive then all hell breaks loose. Most of these situations warrant no more than an eye roll and getting on with your day. I'm terrified he's going to get us run off the road by angering the wrong person.
TheGoogleMum · 19/03/2023 09:49
I hate to be sexist, but I find aggressive drivers usually men and women more likely to be making other mistakes....
Your husband sounds like a very dangerous terrible driver and I would hate to have him following me.
waterlego · 19/03/2023 09:50
@Oysterbabe That sounds awful. That would be a bit of a red flag for me. Is he aggressive elsewhere or only when he’s driving?
bibbybox · 19/03/2023 09:50
There's bad driving and dangerous driving. It's important to separate the two. Drink driving, deaths, serious injuries all feature men more.
The people I see speeding, cutting others up, going through reds are 99% men
Cantbebothered90 · 19/03/2023 09:53
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Runningonempty01 · 19/03/2023 09:54
Men are statistically by far the worst and most dangerous drivers. I do a sport and there are several men who are otherwise normal nice people who I won't get in a car with to lift share. Impatient, aggressive, speeding , passing cyclists and horses too closely etc. The poor driving I see from women I know tends to be more rubbish at parking and scraping their own cars which doesn't kill anyone. Being skilled at driving in a race car sort of way has no relevance to the only important things about driving, ie being safe, not intimating others.
Minfilia · 19/03/2023 09:54
TheGoogleMum · 19/03/2023 09:49
I hate to be sexist, but I find aggressive drivers usually men and women more likely to be making other mistakes....
Your husband sounds like a very dangerous terrible driver and I would hate to have him following me.
This. Of the bad drivers I see - men are usually the more aggressive ones - driving up your arse, beeping people, generally being nobs. Women are the ones with a lack of ability/confidence (driving at 30 in a 60 for no reason, misjudging space/speed, generally being in a world of their own).
Electricfireplace · 19/03/2023 09:55
Surely insurance rates which are higher for men reinforce this?
coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 19/03/2023 09:58
The worst driver around here is a female taxi driver who seems to just do whatever she wants and never looks to make sure it's safe 😬
She pulled out on my DH and I the other day and stopped and had a right go at him - DH (quite rightly) said "hang on a minute, maybe you should look before pulling out into traffic?"
She got even more irate until a passer by got involved and told her he'd seen her pull out without even stopping to look if it was clear - she went very red and drove off 🙈
ForestRun · 19/03/2023 09:58
I agree, men are more aggressive drivers.
But those mums on the school runs with SUV's that they can't park or park wherever they want, are the worst. Nearly had my car taken out a few times by them!
Oysterbabe · 19/03/2023 09:59
waterlego · 19/03/2023 09:50
@Oysterbabe That sounds awful. That would be a bit of a red flag for me. Is he aggressive elsewhere or only when he’s driving?
In general he has very low tolerance for anything he perceives as wrong doing by random strangers. He's at war with one of our neighbours, regularly has a go at random people like cyclists on pavements, owners of off lead dogs that approach etc. I prefer to just let such things go.
TheInterceptor · 19/03/2023 10:01
Forget 'most' men. Why are you tolerating this kind of behaviour from one man? Is it because you learned arrogance, aggression and selfishness was manly? You deserve better.
Fairislefandango · 19/03/2023 10:01
My husband is The Driver. Oh, I can drive, but he will take possession of the keys for any journey he is on. He thinks he's above reproach. A flawless, excellent, even exemplary driver.
Sorry, but for me this would be a massive red flag regardless of his actual driving skill. He sounds like an arrogant, sexist arse.
There are lots of bad drivers, male and female. Aggressive or scary driving makes you an absolute twat, and almost certainly means you're an awful person whether you're in a car or not, but incompetent driving probably causes just as many accidents.
35965a · 19/03/2023 10:02
Terrible drivers in my area seem mostly men but I’ve seen some absolutely awful and aggressive driving from women. I live in a city and the driving standards are appalling. If you aren’t cutting people up you’re too slow. But yes it is mostly blokes usually.
Divorcedalongtime · 19/03/2023 10:02
After doing my advanced driver training I realised what a huge chunk of other road users are dangerous on the roads. People are generally not giving the task of driving enough attention, they are multitasking.
also most serious accidents happen closer to home and on 30 roads not motorways.
BeautyGoesToBenidorm · 19/03/2023 10:06
My dad was a terrifying driver, and incredibly impatient with just about everyone else on the road. He liked powerful cars, but he wasn't particularly good at handling them.
Luckily his neurologist reported him to the DVLA when he was diagnosed with Huntington's disease - he'd been stubbornly continuing to drive right up to that point, it's genuinely astonishing that he didn't kill anyone as his driving had become so dangerous.
My mum HATED getting in the car with him, and if he ever took me out alone as a kid, her stomach would be in knots the whole time.
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