Has Mothering Sunday become too commercialised?

[BasilParsley]

In my yoof, (many years ago!) we went to Church on Mothering Sunday (as well as others) and were given by Church staff a v. small posy (maybe five little blooms?) of crocuses or violets to give to our Mums. Mums were grateful and we all went back home and had Sunday lunch as usual,

When did it descend into just another "Hallmark Day" where an elaborate card and an expensive present is now the norm?

So many Mother’s Day misery guts around here tonight and it’s not even Mother’s Day yet.

What kind of elaborate cards are people getting?
I hope for a handmade card and for my husband to cook us a roast (like most Sundays)

I do feel pressure to come up with an elaborate and unique present even tho my mum doesn’t want such a thing. So yea.

No, I don’t think so. It’s still low key for most people, and for those of us to whom it is Mothering Sunday, not “Mother’s Day”, it is still the same at church.

Don't believe all you see on social media.

We do cards, flowers and a walk. Perfect!!

So in your yoof your mum made you a roast dinner whilst you flounced off to church to collect your flowers. You don’t think it’s better Mum’s get a break from the mundane drudgery and get some recognition for just one day? Rather than getting straight back to cooking your elaborate lunch.

Pressure from who? Your mum doesn’t care, even supermarkets are just encouraging you to get flowers and chocolate or a Mother’s Day mug. Nobody cares what you buy your mum, i faux pressure needed!

Not quite yet, when you have people complaining about pictures of Mother's day gifts on SM like some do at Easter and Christmas, then you can get on and have a moan.

I don’t remember it being more than a posy at church either…

I like our low key mother's day and I don't think you're unreasonable for not liking the hallmark day thing.

What shows love and appreciation more; a hands on DH who does his share around the house and shows his spouse every day that he values her and respects her as DC's mother, or a DH who got the memo loud and clear that his spouse expects gifts, a meal, breakfast in bed and to not have to lift a finger for one day a year?

I'm not sure if commercialised is the right word but it definitely seems to have become far more of a 'thing' probably because of social media.

As far as I can tell, I'm getting a card that I found in our box of spare cards and that's it. So obviously the commercialism hasn't reached my DC. My DM got a box of chocolates, because she likes chocolate, not because someone made me get them.

I am all for everyone doing what they want for these such events. My DH and I organise a card from our DCs for Morher’s/Father’s Day and usually a lie in. No extravagant gifts here other than something homemade or flowers/beer.

If other people want to do a big thing for the day, let them go for it. It doesn’t bother me and I don’t get jealous or annoyed seeing it online.

Nope, not quite, Mum came to church with us and received the flowers there... we then all went back home together for Sunday roast...

Yes.

The disappointment from husband's either not buying something or buying more for their previous person or mother is visible all over Mumsnet

Who cooked the lunch? You must see the point I’m making.

If other people want to do a big thing for the day, let them go for it. It doesn’t bother me and I don’t get jealous or annoyed seeing it online.
Same here. Each to their own. different people have their own traditions.

I do find it slightly funny though when there's a gift overload and it's all publicly shared, but anyone who knows them offline knows that the appreciation is a one day only thing. It's a bit like over the top valentine's days and public declarations of love from couples you know spend a lot of time fighting.

As long as people are happy it's fine. Remembering previous years on here lots of people seem to feel let down/unhappy and that is sad.

Mum cooked the lunch with help from all of us kids and Dad with regards to chopping veg etc. This was in the days when there was generally not enough disposal income for anyone to be able to go out to pay for a meal at a restaurant or pub whatever the occasion...

Fucks sake, give women a break, they deserve it

Well - neither of those really, it's mother's Day not wives day. It's for the children to show a token of appreciation to their own mother. The dad will need to help a bit when they are tiny, but if the child is old enough to make a card (at nursery maybe) but too young to cook a roast, then I don't really see why the dad should do it. Let him remember his own mother instead.
I don't know when it became a thing to wish happy mother's Day to your friends!

Haha my mum has always been materialistic! This year she told me she was going to give my sister a hint about what to get her but was worried it would be too expensive. It was really just a hint for me, I’ve got it for her, she’ll be happy. I’m going round tomorrow to make her breakfast and my brother is inviting her round to dinner.
From my own DC I just say I’d like a card every year. Low cost but with a nice personal message in it. Dh will make us a roast, same as most Sundays. Low key.

I've got two boxes of chocolates. I've given up chocolate for Lent and they are sitting looking at me so it's a bit like torture for a chocoholic like me. Maybe

Personally think its a load of shite so tomorrow will be a totally normal day here

Personally I think it's excellent to celebrate me!