To think Mother’s Day is commercialised bulls**t?

[Trainsonline23]

I just don’t get it. I realise mothers want to feel valued and appreciated, but this focus on this one day, the ‘hallmark’ quality of it all, is just so off putting. I think of all the women who are despairing in their struggle to become mothers, and those who have lost their own mother, and I just think the whole thing is pretty tacky. A bit like Valentines day.

and I’m a mother and my mother is around etc

who are you replying to?

You could say the same about any other holiday. Or birthday. Do you not celebrate any holidays or birthdays?

We always celebrated it when I was a child, breakfadt in bed, flowers homemade cards, I loved doing it and my mother loved it to - I think anyway. Now i'm a mother I love it too, and the gifts are the same- flower's and chocolates, but we spend time together and I get to hear how lovely I am.

I'm sorry if it's hard for women who want to be but aren't mothers, or for those who've list their mothers (as I have) but I think that those of us who do enjoy it shouldn't be made to feel shallow or guilty for enjoying it.

Wait till the avalanche of threads about raging disappointment tomorrow then you’ll see what an event it is

everyone is different some will be sat wanting to be waited on hand and foot others won’t care

They have already started 😐

A birthday is completely different - I don’t see the comparison. It’s real, it’s happened to us all and it’s not manufactured

It's as commercial as you make it.

Its nice for the kids to make a little card and think of how much someone does for them because they love them.

No, not everyone will like it and the commercial aspect does push it into peoples faces. But that's the market for you. If there is a profit to be made someone will find a way. Thats not Mother's Day's fault.

My mum died so I struggle with Mother's Day but I appreciate the children going above and beyond and me having a day off! You make of it what you will 🤷🏼‍♀️

Let people enjoy it and dont be a downer.

And if it qualifies me any better to say it, I say it as someone whose mother has died.

Yes I hate the marketing but you cant have everything in in life and I'm not going to suck the enjoyment out of it for others, least of all my kid for whom it is a nice chance to draw a card and help make breakfast.

Halloween!! Now that's commercial bull!!

What a load of crap. Not all cultures celebrate birthdays. And all of us were born from a mother, and those of us who are mums - it’s happened to us.

Love Halloween 🎃 one of my favourite holidays

YABU. Because it’s not “Mother’s Day”; it’s Mothering Sunday. Which isn’t commercialised at all, and you clearly don’t know what it is.

And can you stop feeling sorry for people like me with dead mothers. I'm not half the kiljoy you are being...on my behalf....

If you hate the commercial aspect, fine, but please dont drag "people like me" into it.

I resent the implication that having an opinion means I’m not letting people enjoy it and I’m a downer. Who am I stopping exactly?

Ypu have an opinion like eveyone else. You dont have an AIBU question. You've started a commercial bullshit thread. Bore off.

I agree. And the joy of it is, you don’t have to celebrate it if you don’t want to!

Nobody, but you’ve started a miserable thread moaning about Mother’s Day (despite being lucky enough to be a mother, and have a mother around), and called it tacky and commercialised bullshit. So it’s a bit redundant ‘resenting the implication’ that you are a downer. Are you really surprised to hear that opinion?

You bore off. If it’s such a tedious thread to you, why not spend your time elsewhere?

No it isn't, Mother's Day is just a birthday from the perspective of the mother rather than the child. 🤷‍♀️

I am actually. Yes.

Christ. I am sorry to hear about your son. Sending you love

This your first day on mumsnet?

I like Mothering Sunday. I like to feel my role as a mother is valued and it's another way for my children and wider society to show appreciation.