Mothers day guilt

[Mo819]

So every mothers day for as long as I can remember we have been to visit my mil with cards and presents. Late last year I lost my mum and I am feeling really low about all so this year I would just rather not . But last week we got the usual reminder about how it's mothers day ,how she BETTER get something nice and how you only get ONE mother. And I honestly felt like she was trying to rub salt in the wounds this is not unusual behavior for her . I am more than happy for my husband to take the kods but WIBU not to go ?

Oh he's always calling her out on her shitty remarks but it falls on death ears. Unfortunately she is in poor health which she has used as a stick to beat his with for years . We have agreed he is going without me.

Id just tell her to fuck off tbh!! I lost my mam suddenly and unexpectedly 2 days after Christmas... her funeral was only last month.

I couldn't bring myself to wish my mother in law a happy Mother's Day for tomorrow when we saw her today.. DH also bought cards and gifts for the first time as I told him it was not fair me buying Mother's Day cards when my own mam has only just died. Of course despite me saying weeks ago he went out this morning and bought two shitty cards and the most pathetic bunch of flowers... but I don't care.

My in laws treated me disgracefully after my mam died (a long story and I've sadly seen a totally different side to them) and I've certainly seen peoples true colours after suffering such a shocking and sudden bereavement.

OP I think your husband needs to speak up here, I think your mother in law has been incredibly insensitive.

Sending

How was Mother's Day op? X

It wasn't great. A few emotional moments but I kept busy all day thank you for asking.