To get DSCs mum a Mother's Day card and gift?

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14 year old stepchild. Had a lot of trouble from their mum the last 6 months to the point my DH had a breakdown. DSC has come this weekend (going home tomorrow night instead of Sunday dinner time to spend Mother's Day with mum). Hasn't bought her a card or anything. Earns own money via chores but admitted today spent it all on sweets last weekend.

Do I give DSC £10 and send her down to Sainsbury's to get a card and some flowers or chocolates to take tomorrow night?

I've not asked DH as I know he will say no after what's happened, and would say DSC is old enough now not to have to be reminded to get something.

I don't get on with mum. We got on fine until she found out I was pregnant (3 years ago) then cut me off completely. I'm not OW or anything like that.

Want to do what's right. Help please.

I would, if £10 is an amount you can lose then send them to the shops for a card and flowers or chocolates. Not your job to sort of course but I hate to think of a kid on Mother's Day embarrassed that they don't have a present for mum.

Forgot to add, stepmum of 15 years here

I would do this but I would also tell my husband I was doing it. If it has to be a secret then don’t.

I'd speak to DH about giving DSD a couple of chores to earn the money to get her Mum a card and bunch of daffodils. Hoovering the stairs is a job I'd happily offload to dsd. Cleaning inside of lounge windows another job I'd happily offload. Let her earn the £10 but I'd give her a lift to supermarket so she did get the gift.

Exactly what @ImSweetEnoughDarlin said

To recap "I wouldn't. If you want to be a cunt to people then you don't get nice things."