Phubbing

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Wat2do222 · 15/03/2023 21:16

Partner has come in, unloaded about his day (who was being an arse, what he had for lunch etc...) listened and asked questions (like a normal human?) When I start to relay my day phone immediately comes out, distracted and distant. Not the 1st time, sick of pointing it out. Find out the term is phubbing. Anyone else? Suggestions?

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Wat2do222 · 16/03/2023 00:53

@whynotwhatknot this too - I've also experienced quite a few times we might be talking about something and then he totally changes the subject with a random statement

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bluebeardswife7 · 16/03/2023 00:57

Hiddenvoice · 15/03/2023 21:22

It’s the most annoying thing in the world! They need to rant and then instantly go on the phone to unwind.
I purposefully ignored my dh when he came home for a few days. I sat on my phone when he chatted and didn’t ask any questions. He eventually asked why I was being rude so I pointed out that’s what he does to me all the time. He’s made a conscious effort to be better but sometimes the phone comes out. I pull him up on it and he instantly puts it away. We have times now when we sit together without phones and just spend time together.

Compare it like that breakfast tv show in Australia where the male host wore the same suit for a year and no one noticed. But every day people tweeted about the female cohost's outfit.

bluebeardswife7 · 16/03/2023 00:58

Anyway, not quite the same but in the same ballpark.

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Wat2do222 · 16/03/2023 01:00

@bluebeardswife7 wow is that for real? The double standard is alive and kicking!

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whynotwhatknot · 16/03/2023 15:09

Wat2do222 · 16/03/2023 00:53

@whynotwhatknot this too - I've also experienced quite a few times we might be talking about something and then he totally changes the subject with a random statement

must be a male thing. although I do Suspect hes on the spectrum

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