DSD overweight. Mum can't see it

[Flamingogirl08]

OK I'm preparing to be flamed because I'm just the Stepmum but I love DSD dearly and this situation is so frustrating.

She is 11 and clearly overweight. Her mum just refuses to acknowledge it and she gives her crisps and chocolates in her packed lunch everyday. Takeaways nearly every night DSD is with her.

We have her pretty much 50% of the time so we make sure she takes healthy lunches and has nutritious meals. We also make her exercise (long walks, games in the garden etc). But the time she is with her mum this is not kept up. DH has brought this up loads of times but her mum just says oh she's fine, it's only the odd treat etc.

I don't really know what my AIBU is but what should we do next do you think?

As a woman it’s often assumed you are the mum. Did you specifically state your were stepmum when making the appointment?

I took stepdc to hospital once in an emergency. It was assumed I was mum, he was booked in as normal as no one asked who I was. It wasn’t until triage where I actually said “I’m not mum” then we were sent to wait until someone with PR who could consent to treatment arrived.

dh on the other hand, is asked every single time who he is. He has had to produce solicitors letters numerous times to get stepdc’s GP to speak to him on the phone to discuss medical issues his ex wouldn’t share. He’s asked “where’s mum”, or “does mum know you’re here” every time as well.

The GP is a good shout. Just book the appointment then go with your DP. Mum will get a letter.

@Lastnamedidntstick

I echo the PP that I have never been asked either. I always state who I am and ask it to be documented i.e. not their DM and it has never been an issue. Both DSC are under my name at the opticians and dentist. I have taken them both to GP and both to A&E alone. As has their DF and DM. None of us have had any issues.

No don't think I have ever been asked so didn't say. No need to complicate matters. None of his dcs went to the GP without him or me and him so was never relevant. The booking is just the admin - consent for treatment comes during the consultation. Which is his job.

Could you send a few healthy pre made meals with her (and snacks) back to her Mums? Just dress it up as being helpful so the Mum doesn’t have to keep getting takeaways as must be so expensive.