My DS can be quite challenging at times but he's 2 so understandable. He's starting hitting (thankfully not at nursery). When he does this DH and I say no firmly and he must use kind hands. DS has very limited language but he does understand this.
However today after he hit me I said no and possibly said it more grumpily than usual as he'd hit me earlier too.
DD16 is instantly on my back saying I'm horrible and telling DS off made him cry. Why do I always make him cry? She went on and on, I told her he needs to be told no at times and that she actually needs to say no to him at times (she never does even if he hits her).
Eventually I got cross with her and explained it's hard looking after a 2 year old and he needs boundaries. She responded with I never look after him. I stick him in nursery all the time. She asked why I had him as I didn't look after him and was mean when I d8.
I cried afterwards (not in front of her) because I do feel guilty putting him in nursery. It's not a choice he goes to nursery so I can work and he mostly loves it there.
I have had similar comments from colleagues which upset me enough but hearing it from DD hurt much more.
Is it a normal 16 year old thing to say? Is it really bad to have a child in nursery for 35 hours a week? Isn't it normal? Just for the record DD didn't go to nursery until she was 21/2 and only 2 days a week until she got free hours so I don't think it's down to resentment. Or do you think DD is maybe right?