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How would you take "that's the only way I'll get on your tits today"?

87 replies

Workyworky · 11/03/2023 07:28

I've chosen the YABU and YANBU options randomly for voting only. Nothing is implied by them IYSWI. I'm not criticising anyone or devaluing their feelings or experience, I'm just curious how people would interpret it.

YABU - It means I'm on my best behaviour so won't annoy you today.

YANBU - It means I'm thinking about you sexually.

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Fabled · 11/03/2023 09:30

I wouldn’t expect my ‘tits’ to be mentioned at all at a professional event, whatever the context.

Pat Sharp is an idiot.

ShimmeringShirts · 11/03/2023 09:32

@Verylongtime naw love the fact that I’m Scottish and can take a comment as a joke/can see it’s nothing sexual is how it is. You want to live your life permanently offended and up your own arse over every single tiny little thing then on you go, personally I’ve had it with the way every tiny little thing is twisted around to be offensive or discriminatory or mean. Stop getting your panties in a twist and you’ll be so much happier (and end up with better cardiovascular health too!)

ShimmeringShirts · 11/03/2023 09:32

And also, it was a comedian making a joke. Maybe time to develop a sense of humour 🙄

gazpachosoupday · 11/03/2023 09:34

I do think context is important like PP for me it means annoy normally, in this context I dont think that is what it meant at all.

But then maybe people prefer get on my wick (cockney slang for prick)

LizzieSiddal · 11/03/2023 09:35

ShimmeringShirts · Today 09:32
And also, it was a comedian making a joke. Maybe time to develop a sense of humour 🙄

Such an amazingly stupid argument.

Tinysoxxx · 11/03/2023 10:06

I changed my vote due to the contextualising of the t-shirt picture - this makes it sexual.

Workyworky · 11/03/2023 10:50

OK, so putting aside this incident with the t-shirt and power inbalance... In a different social situation of a wo/man telling another wo/man of equal standing that they "were getting on their tits", would that be offensive?

Some of you seem to think it is inherently sexist. What about calling someone a dickhead or saying "stop being such a fanny"? Are they inherently sexist? Genuine question.

Personally I hate the phrase but I don't think in a normal interaction it is sexist?

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Verylongtime · 11/03/2023 10:59

ShimmeringShirts · 11/03/2023 09:32

@Verylongtime naw love the fact that I’m Scottish and can take a comment as a joke/can see it’s nothing sexual is how it is. You want to live your life permanently offended and up your own arse over every single tiny little thing then on you go, personally I’ve had it with the way every tiny little thing is twisted around to be offensive or discriminatory or mean. Stop getting your panties in a twist and you’ll be so much happier (and end up with better cardiovascular health too!)

Wow, how unpleasant and nasty you sound.

notthisagainforest · 11/03/2023 11:09

I would take it as he would annoy you and won't be having any sexual contact with you

Youpillock · 11/03/2023 11:26

Nevergonnastop · 11/03/2023 08:41

What's offensive about it?

It means the same everywhere but in this situation, he did not mean that she was annoying him...he meant it literally. I would have thought that was blindingly obvious.

Tinysoxxx · 11/03/2023 12:40

So this is what I got from googling which I think puts it into context:
• the 25-30 year old was being presented with an award on stage in front of 400 people
• Pat Sharp gave her a t-shirt of himself which had a photo of his younger face at the height of his fame and a slogan
• The woman put in on/ put it against her whilst accepting the award on stage
• Pat Sharp then said “that’s the only way I’ll get on your tits today” to her and the audience

So in that context it sounds a pre-prepared joke of a photo of his face being on her breasts. It was at worse creepy/cruel and at best very unwise. But he turned a celebratory event into something humiliating to this woman. It sounded like the audience took it to be creepy too.

In another context of someone saying ‘you’re getting on my tits’ friend to friend - it’s a bit coarse but if that’s the sense of humour then it wouldn’t be offensive.

Willthisusernamework1 · 11/03/2023 12:43

I don't think it's appropriate at all.

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