How would you react?

[unicornparade]

This is a reverse of sorts but I'm not trying to hide it. I posted earlier in the week about my DH reacting badly to finding a speeding fine from months ago unopened in a cupboard and saying it's all my fault as it's likely I tidied up and put it there and now he might get 6 points, lose his licence etc. I'm still so confused.

If you were in his shoes, and found a letter that had been put away by your husband/wife in error and the fact you hadn't seen it in time meant it had repressions, how would you react?

(Username change - was prettyflowers)

If you’re a woman you’d get supportive posts

if you’re a man you’d be called abusive

I'd be pissed off. If my marriage was in trouble and we had recently spent time apart I'd be even more annoyed that you touched my stuff. If you apologised and said it was an accident and then asked me for more info about how it was gonna affect me (us) I'd mellow. If you got all defensive and said it was my fault in the first place for speeding I'd be angrier. If you burst into tears and essentially said "you're horrible"...I'd think, here we go again. I'm angry, you're crying, our default position. I've given it a fair shot, but I'm done now. I want out.

Wow, that's a bit uncalled for. You're actually making yourself sound more unreasonable and unhinged!

You sound as angry as him. You're both blaming each other for your misery. Now you're having agobat us because we've given an answer to something you've asked. You don't like the answer so you're angry.
You're marriage is shit. You don't love, like or respect each other. Just do what needs to be done.

It's time to move on from this relationship @unicornparade. He sounds awful, and the way he speaks to you in the texts you shared is unforgiveable. I wouldn't tolerate that from anyone, let alone the one person who is supposed to love you above all others.

You have a house for you and the children to live in - it just so happens that your STBExH is living in it at the moment. Get legal advice, get him out, get divorced and live much-happier-than-you-are-at-the-moment ever after. Good luck!