That he didn't think it would lead to this?! (Lighthearted)

[LasangeGarluc]

Last year my boyfriend and I went on our first romantic child free holiday - it was absolutely lovely - long lie ins - room service etc - and the result is I'm now pregnant with our second child . I lost some weight before our long weekend away so was a size 8 then - I've since developed a craving for ginger cake - grown a big belly, gone up a few bra sizes - and on our family day out last weekend asked my boyfriend to stop the car frequently- and kept explaining to our 5 year old 'mummy needs to wee'
Our daughter's really excited about the baby and has even decided on her name if she's a girl but the pregnancy's completely unplanned - I put my growing tummy down to lots of meals out before Christmas !

I wouldn't change it though for anything - it was me and my boyfriend's first child free time away together - but I sometimes feel if he'd have known that our romantic break would lead to me ditching my size 8 jeans for elasticated waists and a beach ball sized belly, complaining I need to wee all the time and burping/indigestion after eating, , he might not have been so keen on those long mornings liieing ins on holiday! Men seem not to be as bothered about contraception until they see the actual results!

On the other hand though, I'd definitely recommend a child free holiday with your partner - felt we got to spend time together without all the usual distractions - it really was bliss !

Our family and friends are a bit surprised as they didn't think we were planning another baby and that's the thing - we weren't ! it's been a bit awkward when they've mentioned their surprise but the truth is we just enjoyed a lot of uninterrupted time in bed and I'm now happily pregnant - if a little surprised 😊

An odd thread

Your boyfriend seems a bit…thick and you extrapolate from that… that “men” are.

maybe the men in your life!!

So you weren’t planning on another one

and yet you had unprotected sex multiple times on holiday?

Men seem not to be as bothered about contraception until they see the actual results! Grin
Well that just sounds like you both had willingly unprotected sex so... Yeah that's not "unplanned" pregnancy.

Are you just here to tell people you had a shag?🙈 Or.... Do you want people to tell their stories (hairy)

Christ, you read some shite on here. Sex = baby. Who knew.

Not actively planning another one - no

Wooptie fucking ping 💁🏻‍♀️

I think that's bot unfair to pick on just the boyfriend since this sound like the case of birds of the feather.....🙈

Not actively planning?!? You were actively having unprotected sex…doh

Then why have multiple unprotected sex

neither you nor your boyfriend seem… well, the sharpest tools in the box shall we say

So you had sex without any form of contraception, and it's your boyfriends fault you are now no longer a size 8 ? Sounds a bit odd.

Not sure how you can say "not actively planning" when you both knew no contraception was in use, i'd either call that planned or stupid.

😅

You sound strangely smug OP.

I know you've written (lighthearted) but you (and partner) sound incredibly dense and just a bit blasé about bringing a new life into the world.

I'm presuming that you do understand what you've BOTH done here (given that you already have a DC)

Just a really odd, kinda boastful, but also 'whoopsie' aren't we silly, thread.

God mumsnet is so spiteful sometimes. It’s clear it’s a silly lighthearted thread about getting yourself back after pregnancy, feeling attractive and then that leading to another pregnancy where you feel all unattractive again.

if you don’t understand that then you should keep your pithy little comments to yourself

Well I’m glad you are happy about it but maybe tighten up on the contraception in future OP

You clearly couldn’t even be arsed to read the OP! 😂

You know where babies come from right?

Why all the hate? Congratulations OP

Don't forget to mention you're a size 8. It's very relevant. People need to know.

It sounds like you also didn't think it would lead to this?

Or was it "unplanned" in the sense that he didn't plan it but you were quite happy to knowingly let it happen?

Ha, I have some sympathy for OP. We had our first night away from DD the weekend after her first birthday. I was still tracking my cycles because it had taken me over a year to get pregnant with DD despite hitting ovulation day (which was almost always day 20 - day 23) with certainty.

We decided we didn't need to worry because I was only on cycle day 8 + 9 for that weekend away.

Guess who has exactly 21 months and one day between her two children?

They're 2.5 and 10 months now and the absolute lights of my life, and I always wanted a second baby and was worried about TTC issues again second time around, so I call it a blessing IMO. But have sometimes wondered in the last 10 months of no sleep whether both of us would have been quite so blase that weekend if we'd known what would happen...

(FWIW I had a coil put in the very first day I could post second DC and won't be taking any chances again in future ;-) Although with two small children about the place, there's an argument that I mightn't have bothered..!)

Congratulations OP, lovely news.

Same thing happened to us after a holiday.

Congratulations OP 💐 make sure you use contraception going forward though!

Clearly just a cheery thread with some good news, congratulations and yes I'm sure a happy surprise (even if foreseeable) wasn't on his mind at the time.
Btw maybe rethink the naming thing, we considered it but luckily had a baby Theo not a baby Zeus.