Would you send your DC to a working class school

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To cut a long story short - my DP attended a school which is described as having

low attainment
serves an area of high deprivation
I've seen it said online about it that it serves a lot of 'rough' working class kids

My partner's working class. Council estate background but a less rough person than my DP it's hard to imagine !

My D.C. loved his school and was very well liked there - with people who knew him there thinking of him as decent and one of the good ones .

I in contrast had a much worse time at my school and I'd much rather our DC go to my partner's old school than mine Our DC is 5 now - WIBU to send her to my partner's old school despite it not being seen as 'academic?'

Surely schools have changed a bit since you were there op. Have you looked around & chatted to parents/kids there now?

Surprised it took so long for someone to say this.

Very off OP.

You let him at college but he hadn't a single GCSE?

Based on your OP, you're coming across extremely snobby. What exactly is 'Working Class' anyway?! If you think your children are better than any others then send them to Private school or homeschool them!

@SchoolTripDrama - not at all - I much prefer my partner's circle to my middle class shit show of an upbringing !!!

@Forgoodnesssakenow - he was doing resits not A levels - dunno if he actually got any in the end I admit it's his looks I was attracted to as a teenager but as time went on realised he had a decent, straight forward personality so winner winner 👌

I wouldn't send my chiod to a school with low attainment in a deprived area. Absolutely not.

Myself and my siblings grew up in a deprived area and went to the local school. We all studied hard and did well. But that doesn't mean it would work for all of our DC.
You seem caught up in issues of class and tbh that isn't the indicator of whether it's the right choice for your DD. You need to take your rose coloured glasses off. Stop viewing her education as some kind of social commentary. Actually visit the local schools to see what they're like now and look at your DD, and consider what she needs.

My post was directed at the OP

Whatever it was like for your partner, when thinking about your child you need to try and come away from that and see it with fresh eyes.

It's not the same school your DP went to - it's been years and it will have changed a lot.

Treat it like any other school, go and visit it, see what you think of the teachers and the facilities. Try not to base your decision on nostalgia or his memories (good or bad) because it is not the same now.

I wouldn't send a child to a school,based on what it was like 10-20 years previously

Assuming it’s been at least 15-20 yea since you left the primary schools I expect they are both very different. Schools can change some quickly, for the good or bad, sometimes just after a change of head etx.

Id find out more about what they are like now, do visits to them etc and not focus so much on what they were like when you were there.

Is being WC a bad thing?

Good grief. The school I taught at has changed fundamentally in the four years since I retired. And not for the good. A new head has basically ruined the place. So rose coloured spectacles about a school experience 20 years ago is of no use to you at all.

Visit your options with a clear and objective frame of mind.

OP, you’d be completely unreasonable to send your child to a school that you know has poor attainment and behaviour problems, because you have some weird fetishisation of your DP’s working class background.

This whole post is very odd.

In my experience it's best when it's a nice mix. Not too much poverty and not too much wealth.

This is my holy grail in terms of a secondary school for DS. It seems very hard to find these days.

No I couldn't send my children to a school like the one you've described. I also wouldn't send my children to any school based on what it was like back when I or my partner were young children.

Consider that the most skilled teachers are in schools like this. I would not write it off before visiting and getting a vibe for it. It's quite a middle class notion to 'send child to working class school'. I've worked in many and would not send my child to a school with a shit load of social problems, hugely unstable characters, drugs and sex crimes. Sending a nice kid with stable mental health to a school within a high deprivation area with many social problems is definately a good thing for the population of that school. But that's in an ideal, socialist world unfortunately. Please visit the school first and ask police about incidents involving pupils.