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Foodbanks! Did I just hear Julia Hartley Brewer correctly?

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fUNNYfACE36 · 07/03/2023 09:50

Am I being unreasonable to be disgusted by Julia Hartley Brewer's comment this morning, tha t in the course of her work she has visited many foodbanks, and the people who use them are not that thin!!
So until you are emaciated you should just not eat?

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MrsTerryPratchett · 07/03/2023 15:44

BigglyBee · 07/03/2023 15:41

I suspect that a lot of people find it easier to not feel obliged to help poor people if they can do some mental gymnastics and find a way to blame them for their own poverty. It's more comfortable for them.
JH-B isn't one of those people, she's a twat on purpose.

This. See also: charities are scammers who spend too much on admin; beggars only spend the money on drugs; immigrants in boats are all young men.

Helps people who are arseholes to think they aren't arseholes. I have more respect for people who are just self-serving and say that.

Eustaciavile · 07/03/2023 15:44

Greatly · 07/03/2023 15:38

No it doesn't. So many self proclaimed experts on here.

Indeed. Including those smug “experts” that think “ if only the poor people could cook, no one would be hungry” 🙄

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:45

EuphoriaEuphorbia29 · 07/03/2023 15:30

But you’ve just contradicted yourself in that post. If UK supermarkets were filled with healthy food and there was a cap on the percentage of confectionary and ready meals they were allowed to sell, and we had a different food culture and councils didn’t give permission for fast food outlets to fill our high streets, and we brought back proper cookery lessons in to schools,then maybe our influences would be less unhealthy and people would eat better.

And remember that in Spain people work fewer hours, there are more families living together with three generations in one house to help with childcare, childcare itself is less expensive than in uk. Transport is subsidised so
less time and money is spent on travel back and forth to work. So people have more time to eat and cook together. All of these factors make a huge difference.

Oh come on! The healthy food is also there as well, it’s choice. If the government legislated to clear the aisles of biscuits and junk, there would be pandemonium and Mumsnetters would be foaming at the mouth to criticise their ‘controlling’ new policy, ‘showing they think the public are like children and should have their pleasures and choices stripped away’. And you know it!

Greatly · 07/03/2023 15:46

MrsTerryPratchett · 07/03/2023 15:44

This. See also: charities are scammers who spend too much on admin; beggars only spend the money on drugs; immigrants in boats are all young men.

Helps people who are arseholes to think they aren't arseholes. I have more respect for people who are just self-serving and say that.

Bloody hell. It's perfectly possible to see that poverty makes people buy and eat the wrong sort of food and education would help SOME of those people without being a right wing cunt

MyOldFriendTime · 07/03/2023 15:47

If you are living on the bread line you may not have access to fresh fruit and vegetables within walking distance of your house, you are more likely to live close to a fried chicken shop

Have you seen the prices of those chicken shops? I bought my teens a couple of meals from one the other day and it was near on £20, so presumably around £30/40 for a family - that would pay for decent nutritious home cooked food for a few days.

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:48

I agree with @MyOldFriendTime Fish and chips is now £20 for two people here (average town). I don’t buy that ‘fast food is cheaper’.

WhimBarWhey · 07/03/2023 15:48

Insensitive dickhead.

GoodChat · 07/03/2023 15:51

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:48

I agree with @MyOldFriendTime Fish and chips is now £20 for two people here (average town). I don’t buy that ‘fast food is cheaper’.

No but a 75p pack of fish fingers in Morrisons is a hell of a lot cheaper than buying fresh fish.

MrsTerryPratchett · 07/03/2023 15:53

Greatly · 07/03/2023 15:46

Bloody hell. It's perfectly possible to see that poverty makes people buy and eat the wrong sort of food and education would help SOME of those people without being a right wing cunt

Of course it is. And if you're a person who supports initiatives that help with this, I'm not talking about you.

But there are lots of people who say things like this just to assuage their guilt at doing nothing.

I'm involved in a project at the moment giving out seeds, soil, pots etc. to people experiencing poverty. Growing herbs and vegetables to have fresh food to eat, encourage reluctant children, support diversity in food choices. I'm even trying to write a online book with recipes linked to the available seeds. I know that it's important. But doing nothing because 'people are fat and don't need it' isn't the same as doing things to help with choices. Support different choices if people are willing and able to make them.

Lifeomars · 07/03/2023 15:54

MidnightMeltdown · 07/03/2023 11:22

The problem is that there are people who abuse the system. I often hear people saying things like, 'oh nobody would use the a food bank unless they were absolutely desperate' etc. This is nonsense and incredibly naive.

The sad reality is that there are a lot of grabby people about who have absolutely no shame when it comes to abusing the system, and this is what generates suspicion around food bank users. It's a shame because the majority of users are probably genuine, but equally I think that there's a sizeable proportion who take the piss.

I've seen documentaries and lots of articles like these:

www.doncasterfreepress.co.uk/news/people/fears-raised-people-may-be-trying-abuse-system-doncaster-food-banks-see-demand-soar-3136375

www.grimsbytelegraph.co.uk/news/grimsby-news/people-2k-month-benefits-abusing-6061521

And there are very many people abusing the system much higher up the chain, look at the MPs who have second jobs, huge expenses claims, the ones who are frequently absent from the HoC. sadly these are the people who pontificate about how the rest of us should live

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:54

GoodChat · 07/03/2023 15:51

No but a 75p pack of fish fingers in Morrisons is a hell of a lot cheaper than buying fresh fish.

Fish fingers aren’t an unhealthy food. I wouldn’t serve them up several times a week, but once or twice a week with baked beans and green veg they’re fine for kids.

Greatly · 07/03/2023 15:55

Of course it is. And if you're a person who supports initiatives that help with this, I'm not talking about you

Well I don't vote Tory, if that helps.

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:55

Lifeomars · 07/03/2023 15:54

And there are very many people abusing the system much higher up the chain, look at the MPs who have second jobs, huge expenses claims, the ones who are frequently absent from the HoC. sadly these are the people who pontificate about how the rest of us should live

Their deceit doesn’t make effectively stealing from a food bank okay, does it?

Seasonofthewitch83 · 07/03/2023 15:55

Its typical 'Punch down' rhetoric - dont get angry at the billions linign the Tories from all their dodgy deals, the money they waste on absolute shit but yes...lets have a go at people using foodbanks, the fat fuckers!

GoodChat · 07/03/2023 15:56

@Moonicorn I agree, but if you're skint you can't necessarily afford to cook the fish fingers in the oven and the veg on the hob and do that for various meals every day.

It's more than just the cost of the food itself.

Devoutspoken · 07/03/2023 15:57

I didn't have fast food, let alone fried chicken from a fried chicken shop until I was an adult earning my own money, it was simply out of our price range

MrsTerryPratchett · 07/03/2023 15:57

Greatly · 07/03/2023 15:55

Of course it is. And if you're a person who supports initiatives that help with this, I'm not talking about you

Well I don't vote Tory, if that helps.

Grin

It really does.

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:59

Seasonofthewitch83 · 07/03/2023 15:55

Its typical 'Punch down' rhetoric - dont get angry at the billions linign the Tories from all their dodgy deals, the money they waste on absolute shit but yes...lets have a go at people using foodbanks, the fat fuckers!

No, it’s that they’re completely separate issues. Shall we just stop prosecuting civilian theft and fraud because the MPs did it? What has their deceit got to do with obesity?

BillyDeanisnotmylover · 07/03/2023 16:00

I volunteer at my local food bank. I collect, sort, pack and distribute the food.
I regularly find, at 2pm on Sat, after we’ve closed, tins of veg, lentils, chickpeas and soup discarded next to the dustbin at the end of the lane.
It’s frustrating. Some people do it because they cruise several of the local food banks and cherry pick the ‘best’ items, chucking the rest. But some do it because they simply don’t know what to do with these items or how to make them in to a meal. We’ve even made simple recipe cards (cook and non cook) but it hasn’t helped.
It’s true to say that poverty doesn’t mean you have to eat unhealthily, but it’s unhelpful to refer to third world countries. They simply don’t have the options that we have here.
Here you need not only the skill but also the real desire to make the effort to avoid the cheap, unhealthy stuff. And when you have chicken shops on every street and ads showing juicy burgers and fries and kids who see these and want them, the likelihood of rustling up a healthy meal of brown rice and lentils is pretty remote.
So it’s possible. Just as it’s possible to jog on the spot or do 500 steps on a box in the living room to stay warm. But with all the crap that comes with being poor and tired and stressed, making these healthy choices is hard. Not impossible, but hard.

Wallaw · 07/03/2023 16:02

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:16

Compare a British supermarket to a Spanish one. Just look at the cheap junk that fills ours! Now it’s rebalancing back to European prices, it feels like we’re being ‘starved’ when actually it’s been too cheap and plentiful for far too long.

I don’t believe it’s about ‘food education’. As I said before, people just like yummy unhealthy food. I do 🤷🏼‍♀️ And a lot of people will always choose it over healthier, less gratifying food. You can’t blame the government for that, or big corporations, or mental health. It’s always a case of self discipline but it just lacks now as everyone is made to feel nothing is their fault - blame the Tories, blame the NHS, or your glands Hmm

Have you ever been in the flat of someone who is desperately struggling to the point they can't afford food? Can you try to imagine what their kitchen and cooking conditions might be like?

EuphoriaEuphorbia29 · 07/03/2023 16:05

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:45

Oh come on! The healthy food is also there as well, it’s choice. If the government legislated to clear the aisles of biscuits and junk, there would be pandemonium and Mumsnetters would be foaming at the mouth to criticise their ‘controlling’ new policy, ‘showing they think the public are like children and should have their pleasures and choices stripped away’. And you know it!

I don’t « know it » actually. Where in my post did I say the government should completely ban the sale of biscuits and sweets in supermarkets? You are being disingenuously extreme for the sake of your argument. My point is that there is a place for light-handed regulation that gives people not a slap but a nudge in the right direction and makes it easier to eat healthily within their immediate environment.

People are always sold the lie in the UK tha regulation like we see in the uk is completely undesirable but it keeps water standards clean, it guarantees a decent price to the farmers selling wheat and dairy products, it caps the price on certain staple foods too for the consumer. It also sets a certain standard for food safety.

Legislation can also be gently applied to stop fried chicken shops setting up within a certain distance of schools, and determines what pupils eat for their school lunch. And where supermarkets and leisure centres are allowed or not allowed to be built.

There are so many reasons that explain the reasons for our current obesity crisis and light legislation, wisely applied, can make an enormous difference by curbing the wildest excesses of consumerism.

Sirius3030 · 07/03/2023 16:08

MidnightMeltdown · 07/03/2023 11:22

The problem is that there are people who abuse the system. I often hear people saying things like, 'oh nobody would use the a food bank unless they were absolutely desperate' etc. This is nonsense and incredibly naive.

The sad reality is that there are a lot of grabby people about who have absolutely no shame when it comes to abusing the system, and this is what generates suspicion around food bank users. It's a shame because the majority of users are probably genuine, but equally I think that there's a sizeable proportion who take the piss.

I've seen documentaries and lots of articles like these:

www.doncasterfreepress.co.uk/news/people/fears-raised-people-may-be-trying-abuse-system-doncaster-food-banks-see-demand-soar-3136375

www.grimsbytelegraph.co.uk/news/grimsby-news/people-2k-month-benefits-abusing-6061521

The Doncaster Free Press from over 2 years ago has spoken to someone with (unreported) anecdotal evidence? Well, you have certainly convinced me.

Sparklesocks · 07/03/2023 16:09

JHB will say anything controversial to get a reaction. It’s best to roll your eyes and not to give her the attention she so desperately seeks.

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 16:10

@EuphoriaEuphorbia29 you said:

If…there was a cap on the percentage of confectionary and ready meals they were allowed to sell

How else was I supposed to interpret that? I assumed you meant a fairly substantial cap for it to have any effect.

Then what? It wouldn’t make what remained any cheaper, or quicker to make.

I simply think we’ve become gluttonous as a nation and entitled to a lifestyle that is frankly untenable as the ‘baseline’. I can think of a lot of quick and healthy meals for £1 a head for a family of 4, but upon being presented with them they would be deemed ‘not tasty enough’ or the portions ‘too small’ even though they were the recommended size.

Wallaw · 07/03/2023 16:12

MrsTerryPratchett · 07/03/2023 15:53

Of course it is. And if you're a person who supports initiatives that help with this, I'm not talking about you.

But there are lots of people who say things like this just to assuage their guilt at doing nothing.

I'm involved in a project at the moment giving out seeds, soil, pots etc. to people experiencing poverty. Growing herbs and vegetables to have fresh food to eat, encourage reluctant children, support diversity in food choices. I'm even trying to write a online book with recipes linked to the available seeds. I know that it's important. But doing nothing because 'people are fat and don't need it' isn't the same as doing things to help with choices. Support different choices if people are willing and able to make them.

I'm involved in a different but similar project, and I think the thing that people like @Moonicorn seem unable to grasp is that with many people living in very difficult circumstances, you're almost starting from the ground up. Many of people finding themselves in desperate circumstances have been raised in generations of neglect, poverty, abuse, hopelessness and lack much of the information and many of the basic skills we take for granted.