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Foodbanks! Did I just hear Julia Hartley Brewer correctly?

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fUNNYfACE36 · 07/03/2023 09:50

Am I being unreasonable to be disgusted by Julia Hartley Brewer's comment this morning, tha t in the course of her work she has visited many foodbanks, and the people who use them are not that thin!!
So until you are emaciated you should just not eat?

OP posts:
Greatly · 07/03/2023 15:17

maddiemookins16mum · 07/03/2023 15:06

If I had £5 to feed me, Dh, 2 kids and 2 cats for two days, I’d not be buying lentils, pesto and Kale, I’d be buying cheap sausages, baked beans, white potatoes, cheap white bread, jam, cheap frozen nuggets and white pasta and cheap jarred sauce.

Speaks for itself. Full of sugar and carbs.

Why wouldn't you buy lentils or pesto? Pesto pasta and lentil Dahl with rice are cheap and easy. I'm with you on the kale!

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:18

Fairyliz · 07/03/2023 15:16

But surely this is a life skill that you as a parent would teach them?
So when they are toddlers you make the porridge, but by the time they are 6/7 they will be perfectly capable of making it themselves in the microwave.

I don’t own a microwave. They encourage me to make too much convenience food. I haven’t had one for about 5 years. Ditch yours and you’ll be surprised at how much your diet improves.

EuphoriaEuphorbia29 · 07/03/2023 15:18

7Worfs · 07/03/2023 09:54

I don’t know the context and the woman, but it is quite possible to be obese and malnourished due to eating calorie-dense food that has little to no nutrients.

^^ Totally this and JHB obviously wasn’t thinking of the food bank user’s children either or any other dependents they may have.

All JHB had to do was look at a socio-economic map of UK and she will
see that the areas with most obesity are also the most financially deprived. There is a direct correlation between the two.

If you are living on the bread line you may not have access to fresh fruit and vegetables within walking distance of your house, you are more likely to live close to a fried chicken shop.

If you are struggling financially you may not have a good selection of spices and condiments that make staples like rice, pasta and lentils tasty. Your electricity is metered so you may have intermittent power for stove and fridge. And funnily enough, if you have worked hard all day in a physical job (many people who live under the breadline are working) or you are doing minimum wage shift work, and you have dc to feed, you may not always have the energy or time required to make pots of healthy chickpea casserole every night!

fUNNYfACE36 · 07/03/2023 15:19

LakeTiticaca · 07/03/2023 13:48

You can buy a pack of 6 bramley apple pies at Sainsburys for £1.25 or you buy a pack of 6 royal gala apples which are currently on offer at 85p.
Problem nowadays is nobody seems to take responsibility for themselves.
The top and bottom of it is that people are overweight because they consume far more calories than they actually need. Simple

to meet a daily requirent of say 2000 kcal you would need 9 bramley apple pies ie 1.5 packs costing £1.87 but you would need 20 apples 2.66 packs costing £2.27. The 'healthy' apples are over 20% more expensive and much less nutrition. I hazard that you would living only eating only 9 apple pies a day than 50 apples!

OP posts:
Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:19

Greatly · 07/03/2023 15:17

Why wouldn't you buy lentils or pesto? Pesto pasta and lentil Dahl with rice are cheap and easy. I'm with you on the kale!

Sausages are ludicrously expensive. Too many people seem to think every meal needs to involve meat. We probably eat meat 3 times a week.

Greatly · 07/03/2023 15:19

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:18

I don’t own a microwave. They encourage me to make too much convenience food. I haven’t had one for about 5 years. Ditch yours and you’ll be surprised at how much your diet improves.

I have a microwave. We never eat convenience food. Dd and dh make porridge with it, I use it to steam veg and fish and to heat up leftovers.

Emotionalsupportviper · 07/03/2023 15:22

7Worfs · 07/03/2023 09:54

I don’t know the context and the woman, but it is quite possible to be obese and malnourished due to eating calorie-dense food that has little to no nutrients.

THIS ⬆

Often people on very high carb diets - tons of bread and pasta because they're cheap and filling - become enormously obese but are also vitamin deficient and malnourished.

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:24

it is quite possible to be obese and malnourished due to eating calorie-dense food that has little to no nutrients.

But I’ll bet these aren’t people who suddenly became obese as they relied on food banks. They’ve probably always been unhealthy eaters and overweight/deficient, but now there’s another ‘reason’ for it.

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:24

Emotionalsupportviper · 07/03/2023 15:22

THIS ⬆

Often people on very high carb diets - tons of bread and pasta because they're cheap and filling - become enormously obese but are also vitamin deficient and malnourished.

I mean, how do you respond to this? Does anyone take responsibility for their own lives now or is it passé?

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:25

Greatly · 07/03/2023 15:19

I have a microwave. We never eat convenience food. Dd and dh make porridge with it, I use it to steam veg and fish and to heat up leftovers.

Well that’s you isn’t it? I make porridge on the hob and heat food on it. It just means I don’t buy microwave meals or lots of convenience food.

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/03/2023 15:27

Has a thread about that scabby fucker JHB having a dig at the people using foodbanks turning into a MN competitive under eating and food vitue signalling thread?😆

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:28

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/03/2023 15:27

Has a thread about that scabby fucker JHB having a dig at the people using foodbanks turning into a MN competitive under eating and food vitue signalling thread?😆

The country is now so overweight that normal diets are seen as ‘competitive under eating’.

Emotionalsupportviper · 07/03/2023 15:28

GoodChat · 07/03/2023 12:30

Imagine outing yourself as such a massive cunt on national media?

She's used to it.

Ghastly woman.

Eustaciavile · 07/03/2023 15:29

Greatly · 07/03/2023 12:54

I agree

This post completely sums up the level of ignorance that surrounds the complexities of poverty.

Ilkleymoor · 07/03/2023 15:29

Also because food is a more affordable vice. So when you do have money, you buy some cheap treats, which are worse for you than if you could buy better quality stuff. I get through bad times by seeing friends and spending money eating out . If I didn't have that, I'd be getting myself some Poundland chocolate bars for sure and multiple ones.

If you have very little money and feeding kids then you will play it very very safe because you can't risk them rejecting it, so more likely to go for beige food.

And the point of food banks is that they are supposed to stop you starving, stop you being thin. Not waiting till you can prove your suffering and then dole out some tinned carrots.

When are trying to pay your bills, most people cut food right down because you can go cheaper. Until there is no cheaper and you can't cut anymore.

And people saying get rid of the microwave are daft. It's much cheaper than cooking with the hob or oven for lots of things. They are just not always nice things.

EuphoriaEuphorbia29 · 07/03/2023 15:30

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:16

Compare a British supermarket to a Spanish one. Just look at the cheap junk that fills ours! Now it’s rebalancing back to European prices, it feels like we’re being ‘starved’ when actually it’s been too cheap and plentiful for far too long.

I don’t believe it’s about ‘food education’. As I said before, people just like yummy unhealthy food. I do 🤷🏼‍♀️ And a lot of people will always choose it over healthier, less gratifying food. You can’t blame the government for that, or big corporations, or mental health. It’s always a case of self discipline but it just lacks now as everyone is made to feel nothing is their fault - blame the Tories, blame the NHS, or your glands Hmm

But you’ve just contradicted yourself in that post. If UK supermarkets were filled with healthy food and there was a cap on the percentage of confectionary and ready meals they were allowed to sell, and we had a different food culture and councils didn’t give permission for fast food outlets to fill our high streets, and we brought back proper cookery lessons in to schools,then maybe our influences would be less unhealthy and people would eat better.

And remember that in Spain people work fewer hours, there are more families living together with three generations in one house to help with childcare, childcare itself is less expensive than in uk. Transport is subsidised so
less time and money is spent on travel back and forth to work. So people have more time to eat and cook together. All of these factors make a huge difference.

Guavafish1 · 07/03/2023 15:31

More poor bashing from middle class tory

Emotionalsupportviper · 07/03/2023 15:31

“Would it not be better if they spent more money on wholesome things like oranges and wholemeal bread or if they even, like the writer of the letter to the New Statesman, saved on fuel and ate their carrots raw? Yes, it would, but the point is that no ordinary human being is ever going to do such a thing. The ordinary human being would sooner starve than live on brown bread and raw carrots. And the peculiar evil is this, that the less money you have, the less inclined you feel to spend it on wholesome food. A millionaire may enjoy breakfasting off orange juice and Ryvita biscuits; an unemployed man doesn't. Here the tendency of which I spoke at the end of the last chapter comes into play. When you are unemployed, which is to say when you are underfed, harassed, bored, and miserable, you don't want to eat dull wholesome food. You want something a little bit 'tasty'. There is always some cheaply pleasant thing to tempt you.”

― George Orwell, The Road to Wigan Pier

Ilkleymoor · 07/03/2023 15:34

@Emotionalsupportviper

Yes!

MrsTerryPratchett · 07/03/2023 15:36

Ummmm. That's just not true though is it. Most of the third world lives off carbs, and they are generally not obese.

A few points:

Actually swelling in the stomach and often limbs are associated with poor diets in the majority world. Various conditions of poverty and malnutrition feature them. Remember the round bellies and thin limbs on TV? Doing famines in China, oedema was a massive issue.

Third World is an outdated and very silly term. I mean who refers to the Second World any more?

By the time people in the majority world get underweight it is very very bad, associated with a drop in IQ, lifelong health issues, including things like resistance to disease and cardiac problems. Having so few calories that you are properly underweight on carbs is quite difficult.

Obesity is an issue in many majority world countries as well. Not to the same extent as the West but certainly when people have the opportunity to gain weight, they do. In epidemic numbers, depending on the country. In Libya Egypt and South Africa, the obesity rate is around a third of the population.

The issue often is the media likes to ,show big people at the foodbanks and skinny Africans. For the same reason, bias.

Greatly · 07/03/2023 15:37

Moonicorn · 07/03/2023 15:25

Well that’s you isn’t it? I make porridge on the hob and heat food on it. It just means I don’t buy microwave meals or lots of convenience food.

I have a ridiculously powerful electric oven so I avoid the hob as much as possible as it uses loads of power. The microwave is cheaper to run. Also those single halogen hobs are brilliant and cheap to use.

MaPaSpa · 07/03/2023 15:37

LakeTiticaca · 07/03/2023 13:48

You can buy a pack of 6 bramley apple pies at Sainsburys for £1.25 or you buy a pack of 6 royal gala apples which are currently on offer at 85p.
Problem nowadays is nobody seems to take responsibility for themselves.
The top and bottom of it is that people are overweight because they consume far more calories than they actually need. Simple

Well you can’t live off Apples so… and while I agree there is a problem in western culture with over consumption. Feeling shit and being poor aren’t exactly great drivers to get running.

and even those who are exercising, it takes about a year to lose significant weight so even those with reduced meal intake are not going to stay big after a long period of time.

for many food bank poverty is temporary rather than a way of life

Greatly · 07/03/2023 15:38

Eustaciavile · 07/03/2023 15:29

This post completely sums up the level of ignorance that surrounds the complexities of poverty.

No it doesn't. So many self proclaimed experts on here.

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/03/2023 15:41

You don't have to be an expert, Self proclaimed or not,😆 to know the links between poverty and obesity. Its been well documented and reported.

BigglyBee · 07/03/2023 15:41

I suspect that a lot of people find it easier to not feel obliged to help poor people if they can do some mental gymnastics and find a way to blame them for their own poverty. It's more comfortable for them.
JH-B isn't one of those people, she's a twat on purpose.