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Nightclub took DDs epipens

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anaphyl4xis · 04/03/2023 08:56

My DD - 18 and a 1st year uni student - went to a nightclub last night and they refused to let her keep her epipens on her. They said if she needed them
She had to go to the medical room.

She was with a group of friends and had all paid to get in and the venue also refused to refund if they decided not to go in.

AIBU to be absolutely livid and to follow this up with the company.

For context my daughter has a life threatening allergy to nuts - but not peanuts.

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T1Dmama · 06/03/2023 08:44

coinkidinks · 06/03/2023 07:59

I would 100% follow this up and make sure they amend their rules- nowadays there should be so much more awareness of allergies it’s unacceptable. My cousin was visiting a family friend and left her epipen in her handbag in the car (was just meant to be a quick pitstop). She accidentally had contact with nuts, and even her husband’s quick dash to the car was not fast enough to save her life. Absolutely shocking for all of us, especially her poor 2yr old daughter- she was only in her 20’s. 😔

That’s so tragic. Sorry for your loss

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 08:59

AngeloMysterioso · 06/03/2023 01:29

My flat mate at uni was diabetic and had to hand in her insulin pens when we went out clubbing- this was 15 odd years ago.

fact is they’re very sharp and filled with stuff that could do a lot of harm to somebody who doesn’t actually need it.

And another fact is that if they’re taken away, the person who does actually need it may die.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 09:06

Nimbostratus100 · 05/03/2023 20:41

filled epipens yes

empty epipens, which could potentially be filled with anything, available by the dozen. No I am not going to say where from, incase I am giving information to anyone. but very cheap and easy

Utterly irrelevant. All the clubs’ bouncers had to do was familiarise themselves with the appearance of the genuine pens so they know what to look for. Genuine ones carry the name of the patient and the medication, date and pharmacy of issue.

MarvellousMonsters · 06/03/2023 09:11

ScoobyBooby · 04/03/2023 09:16

That’s horrendous !! Getting to that medical
room and back in a packed night club intime to administer the pen . I would complain !

This is what I was going to say. If she went into anaphylaxis she wouldn't have time to get to the medical room. They absolutely should not be confiscating her epipen, and you need to make a very clear complaint. This literally could've killed her.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 09:17

MadMadaMim · 05/03/2023 20:09

So sorry this happened to your DD - it must have been stressful and scary and really impacted her enjoyment of herb night out. My DD has an allergy to pineapple managed with antihistamines and that's scary enough!

The way the club managed your DDs requirements doesn't seem great, however I want to give another view

3 weeks ago I got a call in the ealy hours that DD had been needle spiked in a club. She's at uni 240 miles away. She had 3 needle marks in her thigh, police involved and uni welfare team (it was a uni student only club night). We didn't know how common this horror is before this happened. She had no idea anything had happened the next morning until her BF asked how she was feeling. Police were amazing and at no point tried to attribute to alcohol etc.

It was a very traumatic and scary event for everyone. Luckily, DD has amazing uni friends who, even though they'd been drinking, acted quickly and(sort of) competently. The police have obviously dealt with this many times and had processes in place, including taking statements at uni halls (DD was interviewed in her room with a friend present). The club have been so helpful with CCTV, and police and uni to try to identify the horrible fked up person who did this.

We had frank and honest discussions with club manager and police - this is, sadly, not uncommon (they chose their words carefully...) and becoming more common and incidents identified as club staff, police, victims and people with victims become more aware of symptoms (previously put down to having drunk too much or taking drugs).

The club has a policy of no medication inside - it's all taken, bagged and labelled. There are 'welfare staff' around the club with orange vis top and processes in place.

It's been a massive psychological mindfk. DD is an convinced 10s if not 100s of women are assaulted or raped every week using these drugs - she had no recollection whatsoever, lost 12 hours of her life. She she couldn't walk, was babbling, incoherent and was completely incapacitated. The favt that she couldn't remember any of that is what's freaking her out the most.

I'm not sure what the solution is to ensure everyone's safety but personally, if I'm honest, I'd be more comfortable knowing there are no syringes or needles in clubs and bars.

This is really sad for your DD and worrying for you, but with all due respect it’s not a reason to remove essential medication from those with legitimate health conditions. Epipens are not used for spiking and to refuse someone with a medical condition entry to any establishment unless they hand it over is illegal. It contravenes the Equality Act which is there to ensure fair and equal treatment for disabled people. I agree this is a big problem, but it is not one for genuinely disabled people to fix. It’s for the clubs and the relevant authorities to come up with a solution that doesn’t ride roughshod over legislation meant to protect the very people this is affecting.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 09:26

Nimbostratus100 · 05/03/2023 20:26

I was trying to think of a "solution" and the best I can come up with is the club putting the pens in some sort of container that has an alarm on it, then returning them to your daughter, so if she needs them she opens the container, and the alarm goes off. ideally both audible, and electronic, direct to security

This means that no one can be using the cover of an epipen to secretly spike anyone, as getting it out will be clearly audible and alert security

And has the added advantage of alerting security, and people around her, that your daughter is having an anaphylactic shock

So if such containers exist, great! If not, we need to invent them!

No. We don’t. At. All. These are life saving medications and are designed for quick access - anything that hinders access is potentially deadly. Once more, this and any other establishments’ door policy is illegal. It infringes on the rights of disabled people, and it is NOT for those who need these medications to come up with a solution, or to be made scapegoats for these clubs so they can continue with an ignorant, illegal and discriminatory policy instead of looking for a proper solution.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 09:35

Danny8558 · 05/03/2023 20:14

It would be worth asking nicely for the reasons behind their policy, and whether they have actually assessed the relative risk of theirs v allowing Epipen holders to retain them. For example since time is of the essence in anaphylaxis can they confirm that they have tested how long it will take to access medication as part of the safety certificate they must hold.
Should they refuse to tell you you should approach your local licensing board with your concerns.
Under the provisions of the Equality Act 2010 it is not permissible to discriminate on the grounds of nine protected characteristics, one of which is disability.

Under the provisions of the Equality Act 2010 it is not permissible to discriminate on the grounds of nine protected characteristics, one of which is disability.

The point is that the club are in breach of the Act. They are preventing disabled people from the enjoyment of entertainment facilities on the same terms as the rest of society, by refusing them entry if they don’t hand over their medication. Then adding insult to injury by refusing to refund he entry fee. The OP doesn’t have to ask ‘nicely’ after they treated her DD so appallingly. Their risk assessment and policy breach’s the law and the OP should report them to the LA responsible for issuing the licence and make a formal complaint quoting the Act.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 09:43

Nimbostratus100 · 05/03/2023 20:36

why not? The problem with epipens is they are so easily available, anyone could bring them into a night club and claim they are prescribed for them.

Firstly, because, as has been said quite a few times, Epipens are not used for spiking, and to suggest that they are is further complicating the issue. And secondly, because the delay in accessing them could be long enough to kill someone. There are laws protecting disabled people from this kind of discrimination and the club is acting in breach of them. It’s not for disabled people to fix this, and breaching their rights is not a solution.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 09:52

Nimbostratus100 · 05/03/2023 20:44

I don't see why this wouldnt work

she has her pens available, on her, and the club is reassured they cant be something else, that could be opened secretly

Because anaphylaxis can come on suddenly, incapacitate you in seconds and kill you in minutes, or less. Do you not think that if this were in any way feasible, the pens would already come in such containers ? Fumbling to open a container instead of simply grabbing and jabbing an Epipen is the difference between life and death - especially in a crowded nightclub environment where you can’t make your distress immediately apparent. It’s really awful that spiking happens but this is not for disabled people to fix. It is not their responsibility. These clubs need to familiarise themselves with the law and stop with the blanket policies of removal or refusal before they kill someone.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 10:00

Simonjt · 05/03/2023 20:46

You don’t see why discriminating against people with a serious health condition wouldn’t work? Why are so many people so keen to abolish the equality act?

Because they have no lived experience of being disabled, so can’t appreciate that disabled people have fought long and hard for legal protection, so that they can live their lives on the same terms as non disabled people. And, as is so typical of MN some people can’t appreciate that something exists if they haven’t experienced it. Happens on most threads, regardless of subject.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 10:05

Nimbostratus100 · 05/03/2023 20:49

why is it discriminating against people with a serious health condition? I was trying to come up with a solution that gives genuine users immediate access to their medication, and the venue peace of mind that it can't be a secret weapon.

Because you’re making it harder for them for the benefit of others, not the disabled person themselves. That’s discrimination.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 10:15

Loics · 05/03/2023 20:45

Definitely complain, I've seen (many years ago) a diabetic acquaintance trying to get their insulin brought to them in similar circumstances, while a friend who was a doctor desperately tried to explain how quickly this person could fall into a diabetic coma to a security guard who didn't seem to think they needed their insulin all that urgently. It was extremely scary, and if it wasn't for the manager being available at the time to intervene, I dread to think what would have happened.
I don't know if exposure to allergies has the same effect, but worryingly security guard kept saying "he's obviously just had too much to drink" as acquaintance was becoming increasingly confused and "out of it". He simply wouldn't listen while people were more or less screaming at him that it was a bloody serious symptom of diabetic keotoacidosis and he was putting this man's life in serious and immediate danger by denying access to his insulin.

In any case, greater awareness of such medical needs would not be a bad thing and perhaps a complaint would help, at least at that venue.

I think in similar situations people would be well advised to ring 999 and ask for an ambulance as an emergency situation has been created by the club. Get the person what they need as a priority and then let the club explain to the paramedics why, despite knowing the person was diabetic, they preferred to think he was drunk and not hand over his medication.

Honeypig · 06/03/2023 10:50

I remember years ago when my eldest started at a new school. They are sat in alphabetical order in their lessons and 90% of the time she was sat next to the same boy.
After about a week he pulled her aside and told her about his epipen, why he had and what she should do.

She came home that night not happy he had done this and put this responsibility on her shoulders. She was 11.
I had to flip the story as that this boy trusts you so much to tell you this and that it may never happen. Even if it did and you couldn’t do it, then she knew and could tell someone.
They’ve both finished education now and remain good friends. She has never had to administer the pen.

I ran this story by her and both of us are truly shocked. She said it’s so noisy in a night club as well so you need it close by. By the time you’ve probably repeated yourself to be heard and what the problem is then it could be too late.

sashh · 06/03/2023 11:49

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 10:15

I think in similar situations people would be well advised to ring 999 and ask for an ambulance as an emergency situation has been created by the club. Get the person what they need as a priority and then let the club explain to the paramedics why, despite knowing the person was diabetic, they preferred to think he was drunk and not hand over his medication.

So the person dies?

The ONLY way I think the night club could do this is that they employ a pharmacist who checks the individual's epi pen / insulin etc and it is swapped for an identical one supplied by the club pharmacist.

It would be much easier and cheaper to let people keep their medically necessary prescription medication.

MadMadaMim · 06/03/2023 12:06

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 09:17

This is really sad for your DD and worrying for you, but with all due respect it’s not a reason to remove essential medication from those with legitimate health conditions. Epipens are not used for spiking and to refuse someone with a medical condition entry to any establishment unless they hand it over is illegal. It contravenes the Equality Act which is there to ensure fair and equal treatment for disabled people. I agree this is a big problem, but it is not one for genuinely disabled people to fix. It’s for the clubs and the relevant authorities to come up with a solution that doesn’t ride roughshod over legislation meant to protect the very people this is affecting.

Did you read my post? Where did I say that medication should be taken away? I didn't. What I actually said is I would be more comfortable knowing there were no needles or syringes of any kind - totally different statement. And I would be.

How do you know elipens aren't used for spiking? You don't. And by the way - that doesn't mean that I think they are (before you make up your own narrative about what I said as opposed to what I actually said).

I clearly said that I don't know what the solution is.

Stop making issues and arguments where there aren't any. Read what you see, not what you think you see.

JenniferBarkley · 06/03/2023 12:27

MadMadaMim · 06/03/2023 12:06

Did you read my post? Where did I say that medication should be taken away? I didn't. What I actually said is I would be more comfortable knowing there were no needles or syringes of any kind - totally different statement. And I would be.

How do you know elipens aren't used for spiking? You don't. And by the way - that doesn't mean that I think they are (before you make up your own narrative about what I said as opposed to what I actually said).

I clearly said that I don't know what the solution is.

Stop making issues and arguments where there aren't any. Read what you see, not what you think you see.

Epipens need a needle to deliver the drug. If you want a needle free environment then of course you're taking away medication. Confused

Elaina87 · 06/03/2023 12:36

I'm guessing their reasoning is the concern that the epipens could get into the wrong hands and put others in danger (spiking etc). If they explained where the medical room and assured that first aid was available, I think it's reasonable.

Rainbowshit · 06/03/2023 12:44

Elaina87 · 06/03/2023 12:36

I'm guessing their reasoning is the concern that the epipens could get into the wrong hands and put others in danger (spiking etc). If they explained where the medical room and assured that first aid was available, I think it's reasonable.

NO. Have you even read any of the thread?!?!

Putting distance between an allergy sufferer and their epipen could be fatal Every second counts.

Someone In anaphylactic shock should be lying down with their feet up. Not running across a nightclub to get hold of their epipen. FFS.

Elaina87 · 06/03/2023 12:48

Rainbowshit · 06/03/2023 12:44

NO. Have you even read any of the thread?!?!

Putting distance between an allergy sufferer and their epipen could be fatal Every second counts.

Someone In anaphylactic shock should be lying down with their feet up. Not running across a nightclub to get hold of their epipen. FFS.

No I hadn't read the thread! No need for the tone and ''ffs'', seriously. And no quite obviously I wouldn't expect someone in a medical emergency to be running across a club - that's the point of the first aiders.

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 12:49

sashh · 06/03/2023 11:49

So the person dies?

The ONLY way I think the night club could do this is that they employ a pharmacist who checks the individual's epi pen / insulin etc and it is swapped for an identical one supplied by the club pharmacist.

It would be much easier and cheaper to let people keep their medically necessary prescription medication.

No. In the situation this poster described, the security guard was refusing to get the medication because he thought the person was just drunk, when they were actually having a hypo. They were wasting time arguing. The second I realised that there was going to be a delay in handing over the medication I would ring 999 and eat an ambulance out as back up - and obviously still insisting that the guard get the medication. It also rams home to the moronic guard that if you thought the person was just drunk, you wouldn’t be calling an ambulance, and that he’s now going to have to answer for being obstructive.

And your suggestion of a ‘club pharmacist’ is just daft. And discriminatory. I would no more hand over my medication, which has been properly prescribed by my own doctor, and swap it for something containing god knows what - that is how people die. Most posters are overlooking the fact that the club are acting illegally. Disabled people who need essential medication accessible at all times are not responsible for the spiking going on in these clubs. And to suggest that they hand over their medication in any way - whether it’s substituted for something else or not - is to suggest that they are responsible for providing the solution. They are not. The clubs, and their controlling authorities are. And that involves educating their staff as to what they can and cannot do in order to comply with the Equality Act 2010. And a policy of ‘removal or refusal’ clearly breaches the Act.

Rainbowshit · 06/03/2023 12:54

No. There absolutely is a need for the tone when folk with no knowledge are wading in saying it's reasonable to put anaphylaxis sufferers in danger unnecessarily.

How the fuck do you expect them to get hold of a first aider in a chaotic nightclub? What if they're attending to someone elsewhere.

Each minute epipen administration is delayed reduces chances of survival by 4%.

Again here is what happens when epipens are not kept with the sufferer but in a medical room. www.thesun.co.uk/news/4319486/school-boy-died-allergic-reaction-11-minutes-find-epipen/amp/

Rosscameasdoody · 06/03/2023 12:56

Elaina87 · 06/03/2023 12:48

No I hadn't read the thread! No need for the tone and ''ffs'', seriously. And no quite obviously I wouldn't expect someone in a medical emergency to be running across a club - that's the point of the first aiders.

If you had read the whole thread you would realise that one of the important points being made is that epipens are NOT responsible for spiking. They require a process to be used properly and you would be left in no doubt that you had been injected. And in the chaotic environment of a nightclub, first aiders would likely be useless, given how quickly an episode can start - that’s the whole point of epipens being instantly accessible.

You’ve also missed the fact that the club is acting illegally. The Equality Act 2010 ensures that disabled people are treated the same as anyone else, and refusing to let someone into a venue unless they hand over essential medication is a clear breach. Disabled people are not responsible for sorting out the spiking problem, and removing essential medication from them is not a solution.

MothralovesGojira · 06/03/2023 12:57

I think that it's possible that epipens are being copied but there is also the possibility that insulin pens are also being 'adapted' for spiking too.
I've seen an epipen being used and there is no way someone wouldn't know that they've been injected but insulin pen needles are short and thin and it is possible to inject and feel little or no pain.
The easiest way round this problem is for epipen/insulin carriers to have a letter/card which states what their condition is and that they must have their equipment with them at all times which should at least eliminate most of the spikers if proper body searches are carried out.
Often our biggest problem is the desire of security to confiscate hypo treatments such as glucose juice and fast acting carb snacks and yet carry out the most brief of bag searches failing to find the insulin but wanting to take a small packet of biscuits. The situation is often ridiculous.
Thankfully (or not) my DC19 is actually too terrified to go clubbing/gigging on their own because of the fear of having their medical stuff taken by security.

RotundBeagle · 06/03/2023 12:58

Why do people keep mentioning schools? Surely there's not a big issue with children spiking each other with epipens.

Rainbowshit · 06/03/2023 12:59

@JenniferBarkley

How do you know elipens aren't used for spiking?

You can't prove a negative. And it's up to those making outlandish claims to prove that epipens are being used for spiking.

As has been discussed by those of us in this thread that actually use epipens the prospect of that happening is utterly ludicrous.