Anyone else get anxiety over this?

[misspiggy23]

Planning events or parties? Currently trying to plan something for my ds 10th birthday. I hate it. I hate the pressure of making fun for kids in case they think it's crap. I hate having to book things not knowing if people will turn up. I worry we'll all be sat there and nobody will arrive. I was like this about my own wedding!!

I've avoided parties for this reason for years but now I feel like im doing a disservice to my dc and it's something he wants. Plus he attends parties and outings often so it feels rude not to reciprocate. Am I the only one who feels like this?

Yea always scared nobody will come

I’m not doing a party for my soon to be 10yr old after being dumped with kids by parents who want free childcare! I’m a single parent and no family to help run a party so not falling for that again.

Plenty of my son’s mates never have parties and just do something with immediate family. No one gives a fuck about reciprocating - let that worry go!

So no your child isn’t missing out, don’t live your life by what other people do. Do what’s right for you as a family (that includes you as the person who has to host and pay for whatever you do)

*have been dumped with kids for his last couple of parties.

I hate even having people I’m not super close with at my house, or if I’m organising an extended family do/lunch, so when it’s time for the kids birthday parties, I am in a total flap! Even though I’m totally out of my comfort zone and a sweaty mess, I’d like to think that by doing it, they will hopefully end up being more comfortable doing these things in the future etc. Which seems quite deep, but you think about these things when you’re anxious!

I am with you OP! I hate organising parties and find hosting very stressful, whether for kids or grown ups.
Kids parties especially can be a nightmare, cost a fortune and the expectations never quite meet the reality.