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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to be sitting in my house drinking coffee ignoring the freecycler who has knocked on my door 45 mins early to collect an item?

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JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 10/02/2008 12:56

Yes, I probably am but sod her.

Eight emails over two weeks (after asking for it she announced she wouldn't be picking it up this week...) just to collect a baby bath ffs. I had to send her my address twice as she didn't read the whole email, then had to send her directions, and finally a map (I live in a mormal street in the middle of a small town- it shouldn't be this hard!) and in almost every email I said see you at 1pm on sunday.

So she knocks on my door at 12.15pm.

I'll open the door in a minute, don't worry, just having a miserable sod moment.

OP posts:

Cappuccino · 10/02/2008 14:45

the woman has turned up and you missed someone

I hope it was someone bringing you something

maybe someone from the telly offering you £10,000

rookiemater · 10/02/2008 14:45

Meant to say James your DS is a real cutie.

I'm glad it wasn't her that turned up early. I just think a little empathy on your part would have been appropriate. I mean tbh its the sort of situation I wouldn't even AIBU. Did she apologise for being late ?

notalone · 10/02/2008 14:46

YABU - if she was THAT annoying surely you woul have answered the door just to get rid of her at least.

You will probably be innundated with 8 more e-mails to arrange another time / date

Lulumama · 10/02/2008 14:46

quite dittany....... courtesy works both ways

Original poster

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 10/02/2008 15:02

She has the bath now, I freecycle all the time, usually successfully. It was really just a jokey moan, I really didn't think I'd make anybody that angry by opening my door at the time I said I would be in.

OP posts:

lovecat · 10/02/2008 15:06

Jamesand - didn't you know you're not allowed to have a jokey moan in AIBU?

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 10/02/2008 15:09

Well the thing is.. James wasn't joking.. she really DID leave the lady outside because she couldn't be bothered to open the door (am thinking she must have been quite financially challeged.. baby baths are not expensive)..

And also, Am I Being Unreasonable begs a question which WILL get answered..

lovecat · 10/02/2008 15:12

I know, Shiny, I know, and it wasn't nice - but it just makes me the way people start an AIBU thread and then act all hurt when others disagree/pile into them - but I can't type sarcastically so it fell flat...

dittany · 10/02/2008 15:14

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Cam · 10/02/2008 15:15

Maybe it was her earlier beacuse she knew she couldn't be there at exactly 1pm after all, only ealry or late (which is why she went away to do whatever and then turned up again at 1:20)

And btw James, YABU and unkind and a little bit bonkers

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 10/02/2008 15:16

Clearly I am a humourless cow

expatinscotland · 10/02/2008 15:16

i just leave the stuff on the porch for them to collect.

if i'm really desperate, i put a sign out in the yard - free old newspapers! take them!

free kids' toys right here!

Lulumama · 10/02/2008 15:18

funny how when these threads turn out a different way to the way the OP expects, they are suddenly a JOKE and we are all lacking in humour?!

never post in AIBU unless you want the truth !

lovecat · 10/02/2008 15:19

Does anyone actually take your free old newspapers, expat? [curious smiley] If I did that round our way I think they'd still be there in a year's time...

bubblagirl · 10/02/2008 15:19

i think you know it was her earlier or why start a thread complaining she has arrived early without knowing who it was first either way she has it now and you know you were out of order

and yes turning up early is wrong if already arranged time but person doesnt have to be unpleasant about it

as said i have also made error apologised to person and explained and they have been polite about it

expatinscotland · 10/02/2008 15:20

that's true, lulu.

freecycle gets old.

the sign in the yard works a lot better!

we have a lot of seasonal workers from Eastern Europe around here who go to door selling stuff like pencil drawings and the like.

well, it's like instant Freecycle!

i tell them, 'would you like to take away some children's books/toys/books/baby clothes in good condition/dishes - even a bunch of empty jam jars?'

they always do!

Freckle · 10/02/2008 15:27

I arranged for a freecycler to come and collect a computer printer at 6pm one evening. They didn't arrive, but chose to ring the doorbell - setting off the dogs who then woke the children - at almost 10pm. Now that was out of order, but I still gave them the printer.

QuintessentialShadow · 10/02/2008 15:30

Good lord that is so mean!

A baby bath is "only" £8 new in Mothercare, £2 on Ebay, how hard up are you to come and get one for free?

What makes you so much better than her? To sit inside your nice and comfortable home with your coffee and biscuits and leave her on the doorstep and snigger at the fact that you have something she needs to bathe her baby. Was the baby with her? Was she pregnant? Did she have to find childcare for her baby and struggled to get to yours?

You know what, if it makes you feel so good, go make friends at your local charity shop, pop in ever so often to unload your stuff, but dont hassle others with it!

Saturn74 · 10/02/2008 15:31

If this is the sort of stunt you need to pull in order to feel superior to someone, I think you need to look closely at what that says about your life.

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 10/02/2008 16:21

I just came back to this a re read the OP.

She sent you 8 emails in 2 weeks.. she obviously wanted this bath really badly and you are clearly irritated that she seemed to struggle to know where you were/how to get to your house. I would have wondering if she might have possible had some learning difficulties.

Your OP, before you were forced to respond to all the people thinking you'd been mean, is really quite catty and nasty. Especially the [inspects nails] and [nibbles biscuit]. Did you feel bad when, after all those emails and you leaving her standing there for the sin of arriving 45 mins early, you finally met her?

Poor woman.

lottiejenkins · 10/02/2008 16:31

How thoroughly unpleasent you sound,,, and as for showing off about it!! am glad i dont have to collect anything from you! I feel really sorry who thinks it is clever to belittle people!!

hunkermunker · 10/02/2008 16:39

OP, do you really see nothing wrong with what you did?

lottiejenkins · 10/02/2008 16:48

I get the feeling theop thinks shes better than the rest of us............

itsahardknocklife · 10/02/2008 16:54

I once missed someone coming over to collect some things that I had put on Freecycle. I felt really bad about it, so I rang him as soon as I got in and took the items straight around to his house for him. He was very grateful and I was pleased that my items were going to be reused rather than go to landfill.

Lauriefairycake · 10/02/2008 16:57

er......why has noone noticed that the OP posted again answering comments and saying that the person who knocked at 12.15 wasn't the freecycler but instead she came at 1.20 and she happily handed over the baby bath - she did not moan about her being late

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