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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be sitting in my house drinking coffee ignoring the freecycler who has knocked on my door 45 mins early to collect an item?

94 replies

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 10/02/2008 12:56

Yes, I probably am but sod her.

Eight emails over two weeks (after asking for it she announced she wouldn't be picking it up this week...) just to collect a baby bath ffs. I had to send her my address twice as she didn't read the whole email, then had to send her directions, and finally a map (I live in a mormal street in the middle of a small town- it shouldn't be this hard!) and in almost every email I said see you at 1pm on sunday.

So she knocks on my door at 12.15pm.

I'll open the door in a minute, don't worry, just having a miserable sod moment.

OP posts:
bubblagirl · 10/02/2008 14:17

woman sorry for spelling mistakes i type quick when something makes me mad

brimfull · 10/02/2008 14:21

get a life fgs

just open the farkin door and give her the bath

blimey..some people

hunkermunker · 10/02/2008 14:22

"I think she's gone actually! LOL I'm such a prat."

You said it.

LadyOfWaffle · 10/02/2008 14:25
Sad
ButterflyBessie · 10/02/2008 14:27

How unkind of you .

Why??

flowerybeanbag · 10/02/2008 14:29

This is making me more and more

Poor lady! It sounds as though she was anxious about it, from the emails, maybe this was her only opportunity to get a baby bath for her baby, she may have to manage without otherwise, in which case no wonder she was worried about it.

policywonk · 10/02/2008 14:30

People who are as uptight as the OP simply shouldn't freecycle. Take it to the dump and spare us all the grief.

dittany · 10/02/2008 14:31

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flicky · 10/02/2008 14:31

It's all been said but,yes,YABU and a bit of a twonk,too

DANCESwithaMuffinTop · 10/02/2008 14:32

Does no-one think it is rude to turn up 45 mins early ? I'm not saying ignoring her is right (seems churlish) but 12.15 could have been inconvenient.

Cappuccino · 10/02/2008 14:33

yes dances but it wasn't

the OP was in

rookiemater · 10/02/2008 14:35

Agree with just about everyone else YABU.

Ok you are miffed she arrived early and needed a lot of emails, just give her the baby bath and vow never to freecycle again. FGS even if you were in your pjs its not that much of an effort to hand something out through the door.

hunkermunker · 10/02/2008 14:36

DANCES, no, not rude - she may have had a perfectly valid reason for being there and chanced the OP being in.

Which she was.

DANCESwithaMuffinTop · 10/02/2008 14:37

OH I agree in this case (hence the churlish comment) but if someone asks you to come at 1pm you should come then. If I had arrived very early I would probably have tried ringing from nearby and asking if it was convenient for me to pop in earlier. I think the girl collecting the bath has also been a bit cheeky.

DANCESwithaMuffinTop · 10/02/2008 14:39

Hunker- i am surprised. If you had invited someone around and they arrived 45 mins early you wouldn't find that a bit rude?!

hunkermunker · 10/02/2008 14:40

No, not rude - if they were coming for lunch or something, maybe a bit "Oh, shit, I'm not ready - ah, well, they can peel the spuds then, as they're early" sort of thing.

Original poster
JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 10/02/2008 14:40

Ooh, forgot to recheck this thread and I've been tarred and feathered!

I opened my door when I last posted but there was no-one about (that's why I said I think she's gone) The knock wasn't her after all, she turned up at 1.20pm in a rush. Don't know who knocked earlier!

Ooh, shiny you're sooo off the mark with the class thing. We don't have two pennies to rub together. Our house is completely furnished by freecycle and we've just given masses of accumulated stuff away over the last two weeks.

When I go to pick something up I go at the arranged time that's all. Don't you? Surely it's common courtesy or what's the point in making arrangements at all?

OP posts:
DANCESwithaMuffinTop · 10/02/2008 14:40

Just to make it clear, the OP was being churlish not opening the door but I was surprised that no-one thought the freecycler was a bit rude turning up at a different time to the agreed one.

hunkermunker · 10/02/2008 14:41

But not just picking something up. All you have to do is open the door, hand the thing out, say cheers for taking it off my hands, bye - that's it.

Cappuccino · 10/02/2008 14:42

yes hunker

it is common courtesy to turn up at the agreed time when you are dropping off your kids/ giving someone a lift/ coming in for a bit

but just to pick up a bath?

nametaken · 10/02/2008 14:42

are you cross with her for being 20 minutes late?

andiemustlosehalfastonemore · 10/02/2008 14:43

this thread is so sad someone laughing at another mum who needs something almost taunting them with it I'm in but I'm not going to give it to you because you are early
people like you shouldn't freecycle you are obviously doing it to make yourself feel superior to others
ffs sake she was early

Lulumama · 10/02/2008 14:43

what is wrong with you ?? everyone has said it , but why, why would you do that to someone?

and now you have to relist

what a pointless excercise in having the upper hand

seeker · 10/02/2008 14:44

What if she got stuck behing a traffic accident and was 45 minutes late through no fault of her own?

I think you are being hugely unreasonable and incredibly rude. I can't see a single thing wrong with knocking on the door a bit early. It's not as if she arrived at 7 in the morning!

dittany · 10/02/2008 14:45

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