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Can women have a mid life crisis?

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Grabyourmotherskeyswereleaving · 28/02/2023 14:58

I’m 45 and feel fairly young still inside, well until I had my Dd, which aged me or made me really grow up at least.
Lately I’ve had thoughts of running away, not real, concrete ones as I’d never leave my Dd…just thoughts of wanting a different life and how to make that happen…or having some excitement in my life. Dd started school in September, I’m back to work part time, I enjoy it but it’s work and not exciting. I live in a nice place and have nice friends..somethings missing…I was too consumed with Dd before now to feel like this and pre Dd, I had a quite exciting life of travel, music, drinking etc
I don’t really have any hobbies as life is just Dd, work, cooking, shopping, kids parties and the occasional catch up with friends without our kids. I’ve thought about going to the gym/yoga at night, but tbh i’m too tired by that point and just veg on the sofa watching tv
Anyone else’s life like mine and feeling the same? Is this just it now?

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thenewaveragebear1983 · 06/03/2026 19:57

thenewaveragebear1983 · 28/02/2023 15:17

I kind of did recently, and I refer to it as my mid life crisis because breakdown raises eyebrows
key triggering factors: working incredibly hard in a role that was going nowhere and was terribly paid; my dd being the same age as I was when I had her (she is turning 20 this year, I was a young mum); my friends all being well paid, super professionals etc and I just felt that the only reason I wasn’t there too was because I’ve given half my life to being a parent; and basically turning 40 this year and just feeling so frustrated with my situation! So I did have something of a breakdown, I quit my job, found a career change, and I do feel it was a bit of a midlife crisis, although not in the conventional sense maybe.

I start my new job on Monday so I wish i could report back and say it was all worth it but I’m not quite there yet!

How funny that this had cropped up today in my feed, I had to scroll back and see what I had posted! Well that new job that I started has been amazing, met some wonderful people and have learned so much….. and have just been made redundant! I’m about to start a new new job. My “mid life” crisis definitely shaped me, I took a career leap that’s led to where I am now. I am much stronger in many ways for it, but it’s been really tough along the way.

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