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To want the 90s back?

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JulianFawcettMP · 22/02/2023 22:38

I know I am of course. It can't happen and I'm so grateful for that time but I miss it. I want to go clubbing without looking like a dodgy old person and dance to the verve and the chemical brothers

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JoonT · 22/02/2023 23:01

Britain felt like such a cool place back then, especially London and Manchester.

Spectre8 · 22/02/2023 23:02

There is definitely some undercurrent theme this year of reviving the ops, I see in the music being played, TV etc.

I still go to gigs, im going to some I love the 90s ones to relive those days of clubbing lol

But your right i definitely feel lucky to have been born at the right time to have lived through it. Not being smug but i dont the new generations ever being able to really experience what we did.

My most favourite time was at 8 or 9abd living in a cul de sac, all the kids played together. Id be out for hours on end playing and only being fetched by mum to come for dinner, she didn't even come check on us lol. What an independent fun life we had growing up.

Ireallydohope · 22/02/2023 23:05

We're just really lucky to have experienced the 90's in all its glory. I made the absolute most of it and had a brilliant decade and on into the 2000's then had my DC so life became different but I was ready for that

Pandor · 22/02/2023 23:11

It does my head in that me reminiscing about the 90’s is basically my parents reminiscing about the 60’s. Telling me how they felt I’d missed out on this amazing era of fashion and music.

To me at the time the 60’s just seemed so…utterly distant and alien. It was incomprehensible for my young mind to square those images with the “modern” world of the 80’s and 90’s I was growing up in.

To try to imagine my kids thinking the same way about the 90’s today makes me feel like my brain is turning inside out!

Ifulikepinacoladas · 22/02/2023 23:11

rebekahnorris · 22/02/2023 22:51

Did anyone go to Glastonbury or a festival in the 90's?....just ace!!

Yes Glastonbury in 98 and 99. Paid £10 each time for the whole weekend 😮. We got dodgy wristbands, but other friends paid the same for the privilege of using a hole someone had dug under the fence one year 😂

inigomontoyahwillcox · 22/02/2023 23:12

YABU about The Verve - but otherwise completely agree, my nostalgia for the 90s is sometimes painful.

Ifulikepinacoladas · 22/02/2023 23:14

Even my DD18 says me and DH were so lucky to grow up in the 90s. I blame smart phones and social media for so much that kids have to deal with now. You can't fight it, they all have sm and they don't know any different, but it always makes me sad if I dwell on it.

CampervanKween · 22/02/2023 23:14

Yes went several times to Glastonbury. My dh was a sound engineer touring with a band so we did loads of festivals backstage (the best way with food tents and toilets)

Got a few festivals booked for this year actually. Still enjoy them even in my 50s.

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JulianFawcettMP · 22/02/2023 23:16

@Pandor yes! I get this totally! Whether you like her or not Kylie is to them what bloody lulu was to us. Terrifying

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ThunderRolls88 · 22/02/2023 23:17

I hear you but I think the world is better now for women/anyone who isn't white/LGBT folks.

ThunderRolls88 · 22/02/2023 23:18

Also skinny culture was rife in the 90s! Body positivity is much better now I'd say.

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JulianFawcettMP · 22/02/2023 23:19

Fair point and can't argue with it but I'm not straight

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handsoffate · 22/02/2023 23:20

I used to go to the Monsters of Rock festival (now Download). The atmosphere was brilliant.

EmmaEmerald · 22/02/2023 23:20

ThunderRolls88 · 22/02/2023 23:17

I hear you but I think the world is better now for women/anyone who isn't white/LGBT folks.

I'm not white
things were so much better in the 90s, especially wrt to colour, IMHO. Much more acceptance of me as British.

CampervanKween · 22/02/2023 23:21

Not sure that's actually that great. I'd say obesity is a huge health problem. Especially when you see the crap people eat nowadays. I watched The Men who made us Fat and felt so sad when I saw how slim and active our population used to be.

CampervanKween · 22/02/2023 23:22

Men Who Made Us Fat g.co/kgs/N3Aq1j

EmmaEmerald · 22/02/2023 23:22

rebekahnorris · 22/02/2023 22:51

Did anyone go to Glastonbury or a festival in the 90's?....just ace!!

Creamfields. At one point even security were dancing ecstatically, so much fun.

CampervanKween · 22/02/2023 23:22

The Men Who Made Us Fat

g.co/kgs/N3Aq1j

Ireallydohope · 22/02/2023 23:24

ThunderRolls88 · 22/02/2023 23:18

Also skinny culture was rife in the 90s! Body positivity is much better now I'd say.

We were skinny because we went clubbing and danced for hours

CampervanKween · 22/02/2023 23:25

Yes, drinking nothing but water 😉

ThunderRolls88 · 22/02/2023 23:25

I just think the Kate Moss look, washboard stomach was very 'in' and I think that was quite damaging (for me anyway). I think being unnaturally thin was seen as desirable then.

Ifulikepinacoladas · 22/02/2023 23:26

ThunderRolls88 · 22/02/2023 23:17

I hear you but I think the world is better now for women/anyone who isn't white/LGBT folks.

I think maybe on paper it's 'supposed' to be better now, but in reality I'm not sure that's always the case. Everything seems to be one extreme or the other in today's society. Not much middle ground.
That said, it is good that girls realise now that they don't have to and shouldn't put up with the 'casual' and every day sexual harassment and in some cases assault, that just seemed to be part of a night out back then. Nuts.

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JulianFawcettMP · 22/02/2023 23:26

@EmmaEmerald that's so bloody depressing to hear. I'm really sorry

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ThunderRolls88 · 22/02/2023 23:27

Yeah, definitely more awareness around sexual assault now and not as much a 'boys will be boys' attitude (which infuriated me!). I think feminism has come a long way since then tbh.

808Kate1 · 22/02/2023 23:27

@Ifulikepinacoladas @rebekahnorris We went 4 times in 90s, did the wristbands one year and over the fence a few times. One of our kid's has been a few times and genuinely doesn't believe we basically used to go for free. Can't imagine anything worse now though and happy to just watch it from the comfort of the couch.