To get a divorce just to get a break ?

[XYZ32]

Simply that

I know a lot of people probably feel the same way but I feel my DH has it way to easy?!

Yes he gets up and goes to work for 5 hours at 6am, gets home, does his dinner, goes the gym then goes to bed, has his tea, sees the kids for an hour then goes back up to bed for 7pm, I'd like to say he pays the bills but he pays gas and electric and his phone bill. I pay every other bill in the house plus insurances etc and I sort the kids. He sometimes gives money towards food and this year he's paying for our big holiday as I did last year....

But I get up at 6, feed all the kids, bath the kids, dress them, clean up and make the beds, sort the animals, do dinner, clean up again, sort the mess out, clean garden, and I mean when I clean up I do door frames, skirt boards, etc DAILY or he goes insane but I do all this whilst entertaining the kids, doin washing and going about daily life, or if it's school days I take them all to the 4 different schools thwir in and do pick ups, sort everything out in life even for him I'm just fed up
My DD struggles to get to sleep so she's up usually till gone 11pm, my DS cannot sleep so he goes to bed at 7, wakes when I get to bed about 11 an then he's up majority of the night plus I have night feeds ! He sleeps in spare room as he "works" !!!

Wouldn't it be easier to divorce, be single an get a fuckin break when it's his days to have the kids ?? Work would be heaven for me right now but certain reasons I can't. But Atleast Then I can go bed at 7, have a breather an he can do his fair share and I'd have more bastard money in my pocket!!!!!

Rant over hahaha xx

What the hell have I just read??

The doorframes

But yes, I don't understand how you pay all the bills (except gas and electric) if you don't work?

Also, why are your kids at 4 different schools?

And you say if you were alone you could relax while they are at school? Why can't you relax now? What is he doing to stop you?

@XYZ32 go see a really viscious family law solicitor and divorce this cocklodger.

Your life will be so much better!

You have rights and just because the house is in his name doesn't make it Cocklodger's House. In some cases depending on the details, you can stay in the family home until the youngest is 18!

It's worth the time out in your day to speak to someone and see how the land falls for you and what financial means you'd be entitled to such as pensions and savings.

Break free!

I hate to break it to you, OP but the man you described is going to make every excuse in the book to avoid having his children. It wouldn’t make a lot of difference but you would at least be free of the frustration and annoyance.

How come you pay more bills than him if you don't work. That's makes no sense. Also he only works 5 hours? He has a lot of free time

I didn't know people cleaned their door frames ?
I very occasionally vacuum the top of skirting boards.

I’m just glad I don’t have skirting boards. Just wall meets floor. Metres and metres less cleaning required.

Does the OP’s awful shit of a husband run a white-gloved finger along all the surfaces every day, I wonder? How could he tell if it hadn’t been done that day?

How are you able to afford renovations and large holidays?

I think she means she gets the child benefit and the universal credit and she considers that her money and not family money. Because he is working part-time probably at minimum wage, she is not working, they have 4 children, some with disabilities, UC award must be high.

Was she married to my ex?

Hi everyone not sure if anyone is still following

Iv been in touch with safe to speak for quite a few weeks now an due to my circumstances with the kids it isn't possible for me to go into emergency accommodation but I'm priority for housing, it's been like this for a few weeks and im not position 2/3 for some property's.

It's been absolutely horrific lately, constantly hitting me an pushing me, calling me and putting me down, accusing me of everything, tracking my phone, if I go out he's with me, I literally don't do anything and if I do I'm always with someone close to us if he isn't their, asking me the most stupid things form before I met him to - did I use protection when I slept with XYZ from 12 years ago?!?

I have nothing in me anymore I'm just holding onto the fact il soon be out with my baby's and enjoying life and we're going to have an absolutely amazing Christmas for a change !!! Xxxx

@smileandwavexx are you the OP?

Regardless, if he's hitting and pushing you call the police.

Tell them about the tracking etc too, it's all illegal.

I am yes @GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut

I have rang them. They just take him in for questioning then let him home

Finally got a SW by doing this like Iv begged for for months so they have pushed him to stay away for so many nights a week, blessing!
Also making him do corses but they've said their not concerned about the kids and told me I am a good mum and theIr well cared for and I'm doing everything the best way I can in my shit situation an it's helped the fact Iv been planning to leave and working with the police in secret and safe to speak for the past few months so I'm prepared to leave and they know I am.

I was concerned at a comment the SW said though, he questioned why I wanted to leave my H when we have such a nice home ?????
I simply said " just because I have a nice home and having nice things doesn't make me happy, that isn't the root to happiness! "

Iv got my ducks lined I think? X

Even if the mortgage is in his name, if you're married then wouldn't the house be a marital asset which you would be entitled to a share of? Big hugs