I said don’t buy me flowers for Valentine’s Day ….

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… as they’re an expensive rip off.

He took this to mean “don’t buy anything”.

I’m really not fussed, been together years but I do think it’s odd. A bottle of wine or some choc hearts, cheap perfume. It’s not difficult. He’s very black and white, more so as he’s got older.

Plenty of couples in secure (see you had to get that word in) relationships do bother with Valentines.

My parents did for the 68 years they were married and they were incredibly happy and in love. Me and DH do after 42 years married and we are very happy and certainly secure. Both my siblings do, lots of my friends do and I know of at least 3 neighbours that do.

Never understand why people have to sneer at others who do celebrate it and make comments about it being nonsense, tacky, rubbish etc.

I'm off work with a chest infection and I just dragged myself out of bed to answer the door... opened it to a huge bunch of red roses. They're absolutely stunning.
Unfortunately, they're for the lady next door and I'm just Interflora's dumping ground! 😂😂
We agreed no presents, and it's fine. Just a bit depressing when it's shoved in your face!!
I have a card with a really lovely message in it and I'll keep it for ever. However you are/aren't marking the day, happy Tuesday, everyone! 😍

It doesn’t really matter how other people celebrate and it’s only on Mumsnet that people get nasty about it. Traditionally, my husband and I eat bloody steak and watch a violent film. My best friend goes all out in a red outfit and goes out to a big set menu valentines dinner but I don’t sneer at her.

This 😂 I'd rather the over-prices flowers.

Dh brought a coffee to bed this morning. That's enough.

I understand OP. I told my husband not to buy wine or chocolate (as I’m slimming). I also
said don’t be spending a fortune on a big bouquet of flowers as it’s a rip off. What I really meant (but obviously didn’t make clear) was I’d have liked some reasonably priced supermarket flowers.
I bought him some token things. A gingerbread
man holding a heart, a big coin which says ‘love you’ and some nut chocolate (his favourite). I have to say when I was looking for something I thought I’m going to suggest we stop this after this year.

I got a Loewe Puzzle bag from my DP. I didn't ask for it, I'd just said a whole ago that I liked the bag.

He got a new pair of Loake boots from me. Both happy with our gifts.

You're in luck, he can get you some reduced chocolate tomorrow instead and you'll get what you want - a present that is in no way overpriced!

If his go to present is something that you don't enjoy, and you bought him a bottle of wine, it sounds like you have bigger issues than no gift.

Do couples really know so little about each other that they just get the most generic gift option available for each other?

Payday is tomorrow so dh got nothing from me and vice versa. However we are going on holiday next week so that takes over.

You say you're not fussed but it sounds like you are fussed.

Do couples not share wine? I'm not a wine drinker but it would seem pointless to buy eachother a bottle of wine. I would just pick it up in the weekly shop

I can see why he thought no gifts if he has always bought flowers and you said dont this year!!

God just buy yourself a bottle of wine.

Me too!

I got DH a card. He got me a card, two varieties of wine gums and a pack of almond slices. I didn't think we were doing 'gifts', but nipped down and bought him some chocolate eclairs, peanut M&Ms and a chocolate orange.

It's the thought that counts. Tbh, Valentines Day is nothing if the rest of the year is uncaring or thoughtless.