My DH surprised me with £300 worth of sex toys for my birthday.

[GracefulGoddessGlow]

I was taken aback to discover that he had bought four different toys. Although I had joked about using them once before, I never thought he would actually get them for me. Despite being happily married for 15 years and having two kids, I'm unsure how to feel about the gift. Although we have a good sexual relationship, I find it amusing. To be honest, I'm not overly excited about it, but I'm not entirely against it either. "I'm just wondering where he got the idea or if I'm being overly paranoid.

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Yeah I agree, I wouldn’t like that at all.

Im all for keeping a sexual relationship and having a spark in a long term relationship, but there’s something icky about him trying to overly sexualise you on your birthday when other people are around. I know you didn’t open it infront of anyone, but it’s sort of implied that it’s something sexy, or the people who are around might go ‘ooh what was in the box Graceful?’ when they see you next, thinking it was something really nice.

It all seems a bit performative and for his benefit.

I think that's a shite present, it's basically for him. My friend had exactly the same funnily enough, £300 worth of Agent Provocateur vouchers. She bought a cardigan with penises all over it. Not quite what he had in mind....

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Four sex toys gives me the ick. One or two maybe but four seems like a huge waste of money and mainly for his benefit. I would rather have had perfume, chocolate, beauty treatment than four different things to whack up my vag while he watches.

4 seems like a stupid number of toys? Maybe he wants you to invite others into the physical part of your marriage? Is this something you have talked about before?

Sounds like it's something he wanted.

I'm guessing that those that are saying it is "for him" think that about their sex lives in general.

I'd give them a go and see what works, sounds like it could be fun.

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Are they couple toys or you only toys?

If they are couples toys then buy him an airfryer or velvetiser for his birthday or a trip somewhere you want to go and see if the message sinks in.

It’s for him not you, no?

£300 on just 4 toys! Are they gold plated or something? I know some toys can be quite pricey but I often find the more pricey ones are just shit (like that Ann summers rabbit I got year and years ago that was meant to inflate inside you. Was awful, sounded awful, get awful, waste of money I put it in bin pretty quick).

Ocado have 20% off cucumbers at the moment.

He bought himself a present basically

No it is because she did not ask for them as a present.

HTH.

He must be a Mumsnetter.

Does one of them look like Shrek lost an ear?

@GracefulGoddessGlow

but this box he wouldn't let me open in front of the family and kept insisting that I open it separately

What the fuck? Now your kids will ask what the "special secret" present from dad was.

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“You wish for it”

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I'll be in the minority as usual, I'd be thrilled 😅 though I do like my toys 🤭

It's a bit much, but as he got you normal presents as well, and assuming you have the money to spend, I'd just go with it and try them out. Might be fun?

Dare you to wish for a Dreamboy or a divorce. Bet neither happen. In which case why this one wish? Yep...its because this present is for him, as was the "excitement " of giving the gift in front of others/your children. Did that turn him on too? Bleh

And why FOUR instead of one or two?

Exactly, I’d be thinking for 300 theres a few other things I would like. And giving it in front of family is adding an element of kinkiness infront of your kids which would just gross me the fuck out tbh.

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

For £300 I'd have rather had some diamond earrings!

For £300 loads of blu ray sets books loads of merchandise I’m not one for expensive jewellery. I’d hit the roof .

Gross

Yes, but Lidl ones are dirtier!