My DH surprised me with £300 worth of sex toys for my birthday.

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I was taken aback to discover that he had bought four different toys. Although I had joked about using them once before, I never thought he would actually get them for me. Despite being happily married for 15 years and having two kids, I'm unsure how to feel about the gift. Although we have a good sexual relationship, I find it amusing. To be honest, I'm not overly excited about it, but I'm not entirely against it either. "I'm just wondering where he got the idea or if I'm being overly paranoid.

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I would prefer flowers/chocolates perfume or for that price a city break .

I’d be a bit annoyed he’d spent all that on four! One good one would’ve done. With change for flowers, perfume and a nice dinner out!

He got the idea because you said you had joked about it before.

My advice, go with it. Have an open mind and if it’s not for you at least you can say you’ve tried.

Did he get you any other gifts or was it all sex toys?

One would have been enough surely!

I'd quite like that. Does it feel good to know he's still up for a bit of excitement with you after 15 years of marriage?

Did he get you anything else?

If you have kids are they going to think you've got nothing for your birthday?

Why didn't he just buy one for experimentation and get something he knew you'd definitely like too?

I asked him and he said, 'You wish for it,' but I just joked that I wasn't that serious at all. He seems more excited

Are they for you or for him? What would he say if you told him that you are going off by yourself to try them out?

I would bloody HATE being given presents that ultimately were not actually for me or given to me with me in mind, but actually are for his benefit.

Not averse to the odd bit of play equipment, if I've had a hand in choosing it. Three hundred quid though. I'd be fucking raging.

I think the finance element is what I’d be more concerned about, and how much of the total gift budget was spent on sex toys.

if it’s ordinary for you to spend several hundred pounds on birthday gifts, and there was some ‘non sex toy’ gifts then I wouldn’t be bothered.

If money is particularly tight at the moment then I’d feel it was wasteful, and it wouldn’t feel like it was exclusively a personal gift but basically a way for him to get a more interesting shag.

Obviously, he got me two other gifts - a necklace and a sweatshirt - but this box he wouldn't let me open in front of the family and kept insisting that I open it separately

This is the other thing, isn't it. Sex toys covers a pretty wide spectrum. If he genuinely thought you wanted them he'd ask what types.

My advice is to use them yourself alone until you get comfortable with them. Explicitly tell him you aren't using them together until you feel OK about it. In my experience it was a bit intimidating/overwhelming and I wasn't really sure how I felt about it to start with.

And don't feel bad if they aren't for you, there are loads of different ones.

What did he get you? Are they definitely for you and not for you but mostly him. Because if the latter, send them back.

That's also weird behaviour. Why give it you in front of everyone then not let you open it? Why not wait until you were alone?

Seems excessive, can you keep one (if you'd like to) and return others for refund

Why 4? Money down the drain on at least 2 of them.

Do you think you’re more likely to find out where he got the idea from on mumsnet rather than asking him ‘hey, where did you get the idea for this gift?’

He could have got a cucumber at Lidl for 70p.

Happy birthday, by the way!

Interesting first post.

Even Morrisons is cheaper than that!

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