Putting things in my washing up bowl!

[Magpiesalute]

I have a pet hate and wondering how normal it is. I hate it when I’m washing up and people drop things into my washing up bowl for me to wash. I like a pile on the bench to the side, then I can take items and rinse them first if necessary - I hate bits in the water. I know what’s in there (no surprise sharp knives) and I can do it at my own pace.

As a result my husband likes to drop things in unannounced and watch my head explode! Double points if he totally distracts me and manages to get something big in there without me blocking him and/or he slightly splashes me. This has become a bit of a game now. So, I need your wisdom:

YABU: the things go in the bowl eventually, stop being weird.

YANBU: If you’re washing up, you get to control what goes into your bowl and when. Back off!!

p.s this is lighthearted, I realise there are more important things in life to worry about

YANBU I fucking hate crowded washing up bowls and random shite in the sink. You husband is a sociopath. LTB

I'm the same, hate floaters if they're avoidable. What's worse is when someone puts a peanut butter knife in your freshly cleaned sink..

I hate this too. I have a dishwasher but do some things by hand. Sometimes I have glasses in the bowl and dh instead of putting dirty dishes on the side or horror the actual dishwasher clue is in the name puts them in my nice clean hot soapy water which is no longer clean but has dirty unwanted bits in it.

Also asks me every time when at the sink are the items in the dishwasher clean or dirty. Just look inside though as I'm the only person to load or empty it it probably isn't an unreasonable question but still gets me riled up.
Dh has probably only done the dishwasher a handful of times since we moved to this house and not that much in our last.
Tbh if he deliberately put things in the bowl to annoy me I would have to myself a patio.
Sorry for the rant but it feels good to get that off my chest.

I thought I was the only one with this issue! Nevermind the bits etc I just find it bloody rude as well!

Oooh, loving the results so far! It’s not just me!

Oooh that would drive me mad. And I’d make clear that his “game” was neither fun nor funny.

I also don’t like things put into the washing up bowl that are waiting to be washed, they need to be piled up by the side if can’t go in the dishwasher.

You need to have a large and heavy meat-tenderiser hammer on the side of the sink so you can rap the knuckles of any washing-bowl interloping person, the harder you rap, the sooner they learn not to indulge in this sociopathic behaviour. It’s the only tried and trusted therapy, Op.

I don't have a washing up bowl but I hate people putting dirty dishes in the sink.

Yes it's annoying, no he shouldn't do it and I would solve it by making washing up his job entirely, YANBU.

I hate the sink being full of dirty stuff. Prefer neatly piled to one side.

“Alexa, add meat tenderiser hammer to the shopping list” 😂

The only possible solution is that you keep a cup of (cold) water handy at the side, and the second he approaches you fling the water at him! A few splats to the face and he'll soon learn. 😇

I hate washing up bowls. I wash up with running water and if things need to soak then I put the plug in the sink.

I don't like people dropping stuff in because it feels entitled. And they don't ask.

I swear MN is turning me into a miserable person because I just wouldn’t find this funny and would not wash anything up at all until I had made my point a hundred times over 🙈

The minute he put something in my bowl, I would walk away saying "Oh, thanks for taking over".

YANBU. Hot soapy water. Glasses first. Rinse everything before it touches the bowl. DH is utterly shite at washing up. And he leaves his festering bitty water all day in the bowl 🤮

Its not something that would bother me too much, however if you don't like it - and especially if someone is doing it deliberately to wind you up, I'd have thought the solution would be to tell them it's their bowl of washing up now and walk away.

My mil doesn't rinse plates etc and just dumps them in the water. She barely washes cups. You have to wash cups and rinse before you can use them. Dh says growing up that was how she was and she doesn't clean very well either. She worked hard in her jobs but at home she didn't! Actually she doesn't seem to know how! Her husband refused to clean too!

YANBU. If I'm doing the washing up, I want a 3m exclusion zone around me.

I could only interpret that as him taking over all future washing up duties.

I try very hard to avoid changing others behaviour verbally. I behave how i would like to be treated, and I adjust otherwise. So, in your example, I would always place the things to the side when he's washing up, and when he plays games with me when i wash up i would calmly and quickly adjust - he puts something in, i boringly take it out, he splashes me, I boringly wipe it offand carry on. Totally grey rock the stuff you want to stop happening. Talk about something on a completely different subject whilst all this is going on, and be friendly, so all his attempts to rile you become boring to him.

Think I would walk off

Next time it happens say 'swapsies you get to wash up the rest.' ? :)

Similar washing up battles at mine. I do all dishes and am solely responsible for the dishwasher (despite both working full time). It's an understatement to say I'm particular about clean dishes. I'm with PP who wants a 3m exclusion zone!!

YANBU this gives me the RAGE. It's always something mega greasy when I'm still doing glassware.

And it's RUDE.

My OH loves washing stuff up. He'll take something barely touched like the bowl of the scales that's had dry rice in it, and pile it up with greasy plates. Before i would have let him get on with it but hot water is expensive!