Putting things in my washing up bowl!

[Magpiesalute]

I have a pet hate and wondering how normal it is. I hate it when I’m washing up and people drop things into my washing up bowl for me to wash. I like a pile on the bench to the side, then I can take items and rinse them first if necessary - I hate bits in the water. I know what’s in there (no surprise sharp knives) and I can do it at my own pace.

As a result my husband likes to drop things in unannounced and watch my head explode! Double points if he totally distracts me and manages to get something big in there without me blocking him and/or he slightly splashes me. This has become a bit of a game now. So, I need your wisdom:

YABU: the things go in the bowl eventually, stop being weird.

YANBU: If you’re washing up, you get to control what goes into your bowl and when. Back off!!

p.s this is lighthearted, I realise there are more important things in life to worry about

I’d stop washing up.

There is a correct way to wash up properly by hand. I have a very large bowl I *pre-soak china in. Cutlery goes into hot water in a jug. Glasses are washed separately. I wash up plates, bowls etc, then cups. I rinse them in a 2nd bowl before putting on the drainer to air dry. I change washing up water, do the cutlery and then pots. Pets bowls are washed separately. Washing up sponges are cleaned in very hot water.

*Plates are scraped before soaking.

@Whataretheodds In the days when people smoked my dh made it clear he didn't like it in our house by removing an ashtray as soon as it had a cigarette butt in it, and emptying it outside and dropping it in an old bucket of water. He was honest that he didn't like smelly ashtrays indoors.

I didn't used to mind , but this backfired on me when I was washing up at a PTA thing and a woman emptied some flasks of boiling water into the bowl. While I wasn't paying attention. I burst into tears with the shock and she looked at me as if I was a lunatic (and exchanged raised eyebrows with the other committee Mums) but as a reception Mum I Just Kept Going.
Waited for the event to finish, took my child home, realised that I couldn't bend my hand properly, drove myself to AndE to get the 3rd degree scalds dressed.

All these years later if anyone comes anywhere near me when I'm washing up I jump a mile. I wash a bowlful, step back, the dryer dries the rack full, then they go away until I've washed the next bowl.

YANBU: breakages, cuts, scalds: she who puts her hands in the water must be allowed to choose what goes in and when ( lest you turn into a nervy wreck like me!)

Mine's worse @Magpiesalute , rather than rinse everything first, then pour fresh soapy water, he just puts everything in and washes them in brown fatty water! And then he leaves the water in the bowl because, yes, I'd love to wash something in that!

I solved the problem years ago.
DH washes what cannot go in the DW.

Magpiesalute · Today 17:08

I have a pet hate and wondering how normal it is. I hate it when I’m washing up and people drop things into my washing up bowl for me to wash.

My wife does this. Like a frying pan full of hot oil, which then bloody well splashes everywhere. No amount of saying to leave it on the bloody hob, so I can pour the fat into an empty tin and wipe most of the rest off with kitchen roll has any effect.

So, clean the oil off the sink surround, drain all the contaminated water, re-rinse the stuff in the sink, run fresh hot water and add Fairy, start again. Apparently, I'm unreasonable.

She will also drop a plate covered in leftover food, same routine as above, with added scooping cold, soggy swill out of the plug hole.

Oh, she'll fill the kettle by running cold water at full belt, into the hot washing up water, turn it off, then do the kettle. We have a double sink, why doesn't she run it in there?!!

YANBU. My DP once got in a sulk with me because I DON'T do this. When I explained that I don't do it because I hate it he was dumbfounded. Apparently it's more annoying to pop things on the side next to them than to just bung it in the water.
Somehow we're still together

Yes me too

I scrape the food off the plates (into the bin), rinse the plates, cups, cutlery and pans, then fill the right hand sink with hot, soapy water and wash up. In the left hand sink, I rinse the suds off, before putting them in the draining rack.

It’s in the same annoyance family as if you’re chopping veg and an adult or teenage hand pops in and just takes a bit of what you’re chopping. Not a problem if they asked but rude and entitled to just take it, esp with a cheeky grin.

If a child does it it’s more than it’s dangerous for their fingers so would also tell them not to without asking!

This exactly

And don't get me started on half a cold cup of tea with a fucking teabag in the bottom...

Your not weird. I can't even wash up in a bowl at all any more due to dirty bits in the water. I wash each thing by rinsing it then using just the sponge and one drop of washing up liquid then rinse and move to the next item. Thank god that's just pans and we have a dishwasher.

My dishwasher is right next to the sink and the knobbers (yes DH and DS I mean you!) in my house prefer to dump their dirty pots in the sink rather than spend two seconds opening the dishwasher door!

Absolutely infuriates me!

IncessantNameChanger · Today 18:32

I wash each thing by rinsing it then using just the sponge and one drop of washing up liquid then rinse and move to the next item.

I do something similar, if there are on a few not very dirty things.

@IncessantNameChanger @SinnerBoy
Likewise. I can't bear a sink full of dirty water yuck

Buy a bigger size of marigolds then let him wash up...I have, and so far it's working.

He occasionally gets splashed.

I have something even worse....my MIL rinsed a can of Heinz tomato soup in my just drawn, fresh washing-up water. Horrifying.

Stop washing up. Pour a glass of wine.

Argh tell me about it!

We have a dishwasher yet DH always leaves dishes in the bowl (without scraping or rinsing) then fills it with water so when I go to load the dishwasher I have to fish stuff out of stinky water with bits floating in it. I’ve asked him not to do it, but he still does!!

Definite LTB 😂

YABU - a washing up bowl is gross anyway you slice it.

Haven’t used one of those for years, think I’d need instructions 😹

I don't have a bowl but h will leave things in the sink 'to soak'. No way am I putting my hands into a sink of gross water. Many a stand off in tie house over it.