Too young for potty training?

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Sorry for using AIBU but I'm just needing some advice.

DD will be 2 in April. So far she has shown very little interest in the potty I bought for her. She will stand inside, place toys in it etc, and play with it. But when I remove her nappy and try sitting her on it (usually I say "can you do a wee wee / poo poo on the potty for mummy?"), she just says "no!" and gets off again.

She will tell me when she's just about to do or in the process of doing a poo - she says "poo poo". So she knows it's happening. She just doesn't want to sit on the potty.

I've tried to get her used to it by saying "where's your potty?" and bringing it out etc, she calls it a "poppy"😂, so she will engage with it. But no interest in it other than as a toy, if that makes sense.

Is she too young for potty training just yet? I don't want to force the issue too soon, but equally I don't want to miss an opportunity to get her started with it, if that makes sense.

Any thoughts?

Bad advice.

My grandson is the same age.. he'll be 2 at the end of April.
We have a potty and when I go to the loo (or Mum/Dad) he likes to copy and sit on it next to us. He's had a few wees and a few poos in it. No pressure and we aren't 'training' him as yet, but making sure he has a happy association with sitting on it (success gets a little treat)
My DD has a week's leave in April so is going to try a no nappy week at home then when hopefully it's a bit warmer! He wears reuseables which I think helps as he's more aware when they are wet..

Granted it's years ago, but back when your toddler HAD to be out of nappies to go to playgroup, people seemed to manage it without too much angst. Mine WERE all ready before they were 2 and only took a few days to get the idea, except the youngest who has special needs and couldn't walk or talk til he was 3.
I do think it's also dependent on the personality of your toddler... some are more resistant than others !

We bought my daughter a potty before she was two, she did the odd pee in it from about 18 months, but that was just a coincidence rather than true potty training. We tried a few times properly between about 2 and 2.5 - basically I’d spend days on end cleaning pee and poo from everywhere, then give up.
She started nursery at 3 and they “much preferred” them to be out of nappies. We tried just before 3, she got it from day 1, we skipped the potty and didn’t need to do any of that no trousers/pants, not leaving the house nonsense. It was a breeze. We bought her small treats (Poundland was closing down and everything was 10p so we spent about £2 and got loads - we individually packaged hair clips, play rings etc, and put them in Christmas wrapping paper - with a letter from Santa saying they were gifts for each time she peed in the toilet.

She was actually dry through the night from about 18 months - my son is 1 and is nearly dry though the night already - so nighttime dryness and daytime dryness are definitely not linked whatsoever. My son is nowhere near ready for potty training!

My god do you think you’re employed by MNHQ or something? You just seem to hang around the boards to be able to scold people for posting in the wrong places rather than offering anything useful.

Get. A. Life.

DD potty trained at 25 months. We used the Oh Crap method (it’s £9 on Amazon, in fact, PM me and I’ll send you my copy) made the most of a sunny weekend in the garden and it seemed to click by day 3.

Also helped she’d moved up to the age 2-3 room at nursery where there were a load of kids at various training stages so she got to join in with some of her peers (and get a sticker chart). The number of accidents since have been far, FAR fewer than I feared having read some of the threads on Mumsnet.

The ERIC charity is often referred to on MN as a source of advice and their guidance is 18-30 month age window, similar to the Oh Crap lady, unless you’re supporting a child with additional needs.

eric.org.uk/potty-training/

Personally I’d wait til she turns 2, see how her language is developing, maybe plan around one of the May bank holidays if you decide she’s ready to give it a bash. As a PP said, you have the warm sunny weather coming up which is much more fun to be running round with no pants on in.

I've only known my nephew be trained under 2. He was about 18 months. His talking was far advanced though and it was led by him he didn't want the nappies anymore and starting to talk them off to poo 🙈

They need to be able to tell u or communicate they need the toilet. They also must be willing to go on the potty or toilet.

My youngest showed so many of the signs before 2. I tried just after 2 but it was a disaster. She refused to tell me when she needed the toilet and after 3 days I gave up when she took herself off for a poo in her pj bottoms 🙈 tried again 3 months later and nailed it.

My first born I wasn't sure if she was ready but tried at 26 months and she was trained within 2-3 days despite not showing as many signs of readiness. I'd say the difference in my 2 was that was one wanted to do it and the other didn't!

Hi op, I work in a nursery and have potty trained many toddlers.

It's not a case of being too young, I think it's more your dd isn't fully ready yet.

Acknowledging that she has done a poo or a wee in her nappy (or that she is doing a poo) is a very important part of the process. Children need to first recognise that they are weeing/pooing and acknowledge that it is happening rather than just going to the toilet without thinking about it.

So by talking to her about it, it is helping her to learn these bodily functions are happening, and that is a positive step in the right for you both. Keep going with this. Once she is able to listen to her body telling her she needs to go to the toilet, she will be able to communicate that need to you.

It takes some children a few days to learn, it takes some a few weeks, and some children have to stop and revisit potty training at a later date. They are all different, so try not to stress. It sounds like you're being patient and positive with your daughter, which will make the whole thing much easier for you both.

I had 3 children all trained either before 2 or 2. Eldest wore Terry nappies though so would feel the wet when she did a wee. I'd always train in the summer as easier to pull down pants and shorts.