Dc didn’t have contact with their father for 2 years (totally his choice) after two years he reached out and wanted contact with the children, after speaking to them and seeking advice I decided to slowly build up contact again. This was done on the phone with DC speaking to their father, we decided to keep it as phone contact to build up contact slowly and to show he was consistent before meeting up. At first it was good he was messaging them regularly, calling occasionally to speak to them, but mainly messages a couple of times a week.
Around Xmas he told me he would like to buy them some Xmas presents and bring them down. I agreed to this and thought it would be a good opportunity to introduce contact at this point. He came down on the 23rd December, gave the children the presents and left. He made a vague comment about seeing them on new years but that came and went and I didn’t hear from him. So basically since then he hasn’t initiated contact, he now rarely messages the children. He messaged my son mid January saying he would come down to see him, then just didn’t show up, no contact at all, he didn’t even cancel he just didn’t message him again. Anyway the other day he messaged (after 3 weeks no contact) with some half hearted apology saying he’s sorry he’s been ill and that’s it. I’m thinking of stopping the direct contact as I don’t think my children are old enough to have to deal with this directly, their father making plans to see them then not showing up as it’s causing upset and they feel rejected by him. Wibu to stop direct phone contact?