To ask you what you love about your adult parents? This is to contrast with the current other thread about what makes you rave/rant about your pare.

[Mammajay]

My parents are dead now but I loved my mum because even when she had no clue what was going on in my life,having had a much simpler life, she was always there for me trying to make things better.

My parents are the most generous people I know, with time, money, help, support. I know theyd drop everything for me whenever I need it. They strike the right balance between being really interested in my life but never pushing their opinions onto me. They just quietly get on with things. I've probably taken them for granted.

They have an amazing relationship with my kids, endless patience, lots of fun. I hope I can be as good a parent to my kids as they have been to me.

my grandparents raised me (although my parents were always around) and I loved their unconditional love and acceptance. They managed to raise three horrific, ungrateful and selfish bio children which never made any sense because they were the least selfish people I’d ever met.

My mam died just after Christmas... she was my best friend! I rang her every day at least once. She was generous to a fault, nothing majorly expensive but thoughtful.. she always bought pink water biscuits because they are my favourite, would buy sweets for the kids or going out would say "I'll get this!". She was the life and soul of the party.

My dad will help out with DIY (he fixes everything), will drop everything if I need him, ive seen him evolve so much as time as moved on (he's got so much patience for my ASD son), we clashed so much when I was a teen but he's just been so brilliant as I've grown into an adult!

Both my parents are absolutely amazing. They have their differences just like anyone, but my dad - will do anything and everything he could for me. My mum, she is my best friend. I confide in her over everything and the thought they won't be here one day breaks my heart into two.

My parents are both amazing, they would do anything for me. My mum regularly cooks me food and brings it over. They have worked so hard to give me and my sister what they didn't have and have only wanted us to have a good life and opportunities that they didn't. They would do anything for me. It actually brings teats to my eyes to think about them!
When we had covid, they would drive to our house 30mins away just so they could look at DC through the window 💞

I could contribute to both threads about my parents. I’m on this thread, despite it all. They took me as I was (not easy, by any stretch) and went with it. That in itself would be enough for most people. Now, at this stage of my life, I appreciate that they’ve both taught me by example what kind of parent I need to be. Things not to do, things to do. They laid the ground for a life of success - whether I chose to go down that path or not - and by example taught me how to do the same for my own DC. They have had every situation covered for me, all my life, whether I knew it or not, including letting me fail at times. And, as I discovered recently, have done the same for my children’s futures too. I’m rendered speechless by their duty, love, relentlessness and forward-thinking. They don’t make them like my parents any more. Utterly, utterly selfless and united in that selflessness.

My mum greatly reduced her working hours when I was about 9 entirely so that she could be there when I got home from school. We would talk about my day with a pot of tea and snack while working on some Art Attack creation. She was honestly my best friend

My dad: answers the phone slightly differently for each of us siblings; for me it’s a long, pitchy “heeeeellooo! My gorgeous, funny, beautiful-est daughter but equally as beauitful-est as my other daughter” every time without fail. Might sound cringe to some but to look at my dad he looks quite the ‘hardened’ type so you’d never expect it.

My mum: Knows the exact right amount of ‘friend’ to ‘mum’ ratio. I can tell her anything, from gossip to troubles. She also changed her mindset on mental health when mine took a turn. She’s never experienced mental health issues so when mine come about she initially wasn’t very supportive and was very dismissive - but very quickly, by the time I was diagnosed and seeing a therapist she has completely turned around and understands now; so much so now that she knows if I’m going through a bad patch even if I haven’t told her.

Both of my parents (divorced) also enjoy a good debate - it’s always good fun to sit around a table discussing our opinions and views whether political or personal - and there never judgment.

There are many things DM and I don’t see eye to eye on, but I know she loves me and would do pretty much anything to help me if she could. She also clearly adores DS, and provides so much help with him. Little things that DS probably doesn’t even notice - she knits him hats, she goes out of her way to look for new limited-edition seasonal chocolate etc (like rabbit-shaped jelly babies). Always thinking of me and him.

She is also very practical - she will help me clean or empty a room, whereas DH just won’t get involved and leaves me to it.

My parent has passed away

My parent encouraged me gently to do lots of things that she didn't do (for various reasons eg illness) & she enjoyed hearing about the things that I have done like;
Driving
Going to university a long distance away
Travelling abroad
Career
Various sports
Holidays with friends
Moving location
Being independent
Hobbies

My Mum had a good ❤ heart

My parents are loving and supportive. I enjoy spending time with them and they are hands on grandparents and would do anything for us. They are also really decent human beings and stand up for injustice and bigotry. They taught me to never judge anyone and even though I'm not a patch on them I hope they've taught me a little humanity. They also gave me a really happy childhood full of wonderful memories.

I was a nightmare teen and young adult brought a lot of trouble to their door but they never gave up on me. I couldn't be more grateful for them both.

My mum is so clever, kind and helpful. She can make anything, cook anything and she trained as a nurse. She can make everything better. She's been my carer as I've become unwell.

My dad is funny, generous and passionate about music. He would give any one a lift any where.

I love them both so much, and they help me so much. I'm lucky and grateful to have them.

The kindness. They would give you the shirts off their backs.

And my mum is definitely woo.

My mum has a tough exterior and growing up wasn’t very affectionate however as she has gotten older that has changed. She’s now currently my rock through post natal depression/anxiety and I would be in a much worse place without her.
my dad just does everything for us and always has

I love my Dad because he would back me 100% (only if I’m in the right - which I love even more, he’s always there if I need anything and we laugh for ages together.

I love my Mum because I can tell her everything, we speak everyday and she is my best friend.

DH lost his parents young, I know how lucky I am to have mine. Although they drive me crazy sometimes! ❤️

I love this ❤️

I am really moved by what people are saying about their adult parents. How lovely that you all appreciate their kindness ( while often putting up with their quirks).

My Mum died when I was very young and my Dad when I was in my early 20s, but I did get to know him a bit as an adult. We had a strained relationship for years but now I look back and I see that he really was a very thoughtful and giving person who'd had a lot of bereavements and was fundamentally very lonely and vulnerable. He was one of the hardest workers I've ever known and tried so hard to give me and DBro a good life without Mum, in the only way he knew. It wasn't his fault that it wasn't always the right way.

This is a lovely thread and I really hope DH and I can be amazing parents to our adult DC (obviously we try our best now, too!)