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to give DD smallest room

82 replies

CanStopWillStop · 04/02/2023 18:43

Looking for advice from MNers who've been in a similar position...

We're moving into a new house soon DH, DD and me. It has two doubles and one single room. DH thinks DD should have a double room for space, toys etc, but I am also WFH and know what type of storage we need (a lot!), so I'm thinking second bedroom would be better as storage cupboards, sofa bed and desk, and DD (who is 1yo) can have the smallest room.

AIBU? Will this make more work for us when we perhaps move DD into the bigger room if we have DC2?

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SausageRoll2020 · 04/02/2023 18:50

Seems sensible.
If you have a second child, no need to move DD1 she could stay in the single and new baby has the double..

greenspaces4peace · 04/02/2023 18:52

i absolutely love small cozy clean rooms.

LolaSmiles · 04/02/2023 18:53

She's 1 so isn't going to be playing in her room as she'll be playing where you are.

I'd make the second double a guest room come storage come office room like you plan.

If you have another child in future then they can both share the second bedroom and the single room can become your home office.

Tohaveandtohold · 04/02/2023 18:55

That makes sense. Theres no need to move her to the bigger room when you have another baby as you can create a small office space in the double room for wfh while you still have enough space for the baby.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/02/2023 18:59

I think the time will fly by and you’ll need her in a room she can play in before you know it. So I agree with your DH.

However I guess it’s a matter of personal choice

macaronitoni · 04/02/2023 19:02

What size house do you have currently? Will the move mean she gets less space, more space or the same?

rainyalan · 04/02/2023 19:04

No use the second biggest room for your daughter and the smallest room for you. My daughter is 7 and still has large toys and needs the space.

MrsToadflax · 04/02/2023 19:04

Have you got a playroom? If not, I would definitely put her in the larger room with space for toys. She may not have many now, but they build up so quickly and can be difficult to store without a specific area. If you have another DC they can also share that bigger room.

LorenzoVonMatterhorn · 04/02/2023 19:05

Children have a lot of stuff. Have the small room for your office and get fitted storage

Barleysugar86 · 04/02/2023 19:08

I'd put her in the larger room too. We gave my son the largest room in the house (he makes use of all the floor space when he sets out train sets and his cars too!).

I feel like you buy your furniture to fit your space, and it's tricky to then reimagine rooms and shuffle everyone around in a year or two. It goes by before you know it and she'll need that bigger room eventually.

Barleysugar86 · 04/02/2023 19:09

Also I find kids get quite attached to their room, its theres, you might want to chose decor curtains etc to their tastes, I'm not sure how they'd take being moved when young.

TheSnowyOwl · 04/02/2023 19:09

If all her toys will go in the playroom and you will be happy for her to have her friends play in there when they come round.

I’d personally put her in the bigger room

Tangerinie · 04/02/2023 19:10

I don't think it's a big deal, but I'd give her the double room, so voted yabu

RedToothBrush · 04/02/2023 19:18

I'd go with the smaller room and make the bigger room a office / guest room tbh.

She won't play with her toys in her room much. Bedroom should be for sleeping only as much as possible at that age.

You don't know for sure you will have another kid. For now, make the most of being able to have guests stay while you can!!!

WestBridgewater · 04/02/2023 19:18

SausageRoll2020 · 04/02/2023 18:50

Seems sensible.
If you have a second child, no need to move DD1 she could stay in the single and new baby has the double..

Oldest child gets the better/bigger room as standard.

Tinkerbyebye · 04/02/2023 19:18

Second room for her when moving in, then you won’t need to do it again when she gets bigger. You have the small room as an office, you can put shelves/cupboards up high for storage.

as she gets older she will have a lot more stuff by using the bigger room for her it can stay there rather than being spread out across the house

thestealthwee · 04/02/2023 19:27

Smallest room.....they don't really play in their rooms to the extent they need a double for several years so it's just a waste of space

InspectorPaws · 04/02/2023 19:28

WestBridgewater · 04/02/2023 19:18

Oldest child gets the better/bigger room as standard.

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Yes, it’s a ridiculous and incredibly unfair behaviour that (for some unknown reason) parents think is entirely justified.

Beachhutnut · 04/02/2023 19:28

Do you actually need a guest room? I don't know anyone who has one. I would make the small room an office and give her the double.

InspectorPaws · 04/02/2023 19:31

Either way is fine - there’s no right or wrong, just what works for you. I couldn’t stand to live in a house where a room was largely just a storage space - what a waste! Our spare room is bigger than our DC’s room (at the moment they’re sharing) but both are large doubles. We did consider putting them in the larger room but, when we actually looked at it, we found that because of where the door/window/radiator/fireplace were, there wasn’t an efficient way to lay out their furniture. You may find the same with one of your rooms for one purpose or the other.

WestBridgewater · 04/02/2023 19:34

InspectorPaws · 04/02/2023 19:28

Yes, it’s a ridiculous and incredibly unfair behaviour that (for some unknown reason) parents think is entirely justified.

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👆👆Someone was in the box room growing up 😜

Cheeping · 04/02/2023 19:34

Beachhutnut · 04/02/2023 19:28

Do you actually need a guest room? I don't know anyone who has one. I would make the small room an office and give her the double.

You don’t know anyone with a guest room?! Really??

  • I have one
  • My parents have two
  • My sister has one
  • Both my brothers have at least one
  • My best friend from school has one
  • DH’s best friend has one
  • Our NDN has one
  • In fact, both sides do.
  • Our NDN at our previous house did
  • So did the other side
  • So did we in our old house
They’re insanely common, how could you possibly not know anyone who has one?
ZebraKid71 · 04/02/2023 19:35

I'd go with the bigger room, then if you have another they can share and you still have an office.

BadgerLovesMash · 04/02/2023 19:35

It depends how small the smallest room is. Is it big enough for all her stuff now and for the big toys that toddlers tend to have (kitchen, tent, plastic monstrosities of their current favourite TV character) if so i would say give her the smaller one.

And for those saying the eldest gets the bigger room.. not true in our house! Dd2 has the bigger one as she has more stuff and still plays whereas dd1 is a teenager and only really draws or plays video games in her room!

HiddenGiraffes · 04/02/2023 19:39

InspectorPaws · 04/02/2023 19:28

Yes, it’s a ridiculous and incredibly unfair behaviour that (for some unknown reason) parents think is entirely justified.

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Someone has to have it, what's the fairer method of deciding?