Who is being unreasonable about childcare?

[Cheeping]

Two parents, both work full-time. One is a teacher and the other has standard 5.6 weeks holiday. Two DCs in full time childcare - DD in all year round and DS in full year round for 2 days a week and term time only for 3 days each week.

DD is ill today and cannot go to childcare. Both parents should be working.

Teacher parent thinks that non-teacher parent should cover illness because they look after DS 3 days each week in the holiday. Non-teacher parent thinks childcare for illness should be split between the two parents.

YABU - Teacher parent is right
YANBU - Non-teacher parent is right

I work part time as a teacher. My kids always seem to be poorly in the holidays, on weekends or on my days off!! It’s very rare me ex looks after them when they’re ill, unless he’s not working that day, but sometimes it’s too last minute to find out!! Only time he has done was when youngest caught Covid from him (me and eldest had it over the holiday, kids then stayed with him the following weekend, he picked it up elsewhere and youngest caught it from him). So I looked after the Covid child on my day off then sent the child over to him as he was off with the Covid too, and then she came back to me for my other day off before the weekend. She had no symptoms so didn’t need looking after as much as a sick child. But was in the days when isolation was compulsory. Eldest got Covid again this year but just before the holiday. She was off school and stayed home alone as is 13 so I just kept in touch on my breaks and lunch whilst she watched tv. I didn’t want to ruin anyone’s Xmas by passing her to someone’s house.

Whoever it’s easier for.

Can the non teacher work from home and get some work done whilst the ill child watches TV, and then catch up work later in the day when the teacher gets home. Or could catch up at weekend even. That’s what my colleagues seem to do, men and women. But we are back office and since covid set up to work from home. Not unusual to see sick toddlers on parents laps in team calls from home. And then work into the evening.

If the non teacher has in person external meetings which are hard to cancel then maybe the teacher - need to take turns for when it’s not convenient.

Doesn't the teacher get paid special leave for situations like sick children?

I’m a teacher, husband isn’t , we share all illness between us. Seems bizarre not too and pretty sure our employers would expect that the other is pulling their weight too. Neither of my children go to childcare in the hokidays but this seems irrelevant as I’m not at work so can look after them .