Why do children do so many self defeating or ill advised things.

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Commonsensitivity · 01/02/2023 13:09

My children's teachers are on strike today, so I forced (sic) the children on a dog walk to the beach before doing a fun trip this afternoon to a trampoline Park.

Jesus. My 7 year old did so many silly things during the beach trip. Plonked himself in the woods and said he wasn't coming (how would he find his way home)? On the beach, unlaced all his shoes in a strop (I had to replace them so he could actually walk home in them). Pulled the bobble off his hat when he didn't win a game of rounders..... Walked around without shoes for half the walk home. I'm knackered.

I have noticed that (my) children are really hard to govern in the outside world without them doing silly or dangerous things.

Is it just me or do I need to just accept they are kids...

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Kennykenkencat · 03/02/2023 21:19

BertieBotts · 02/02/2023 21:35

You said that children weren't put into SEN schools but the school wanted to put your DS into a special school, because he struggled with reading, which would be quite a mild thing today, perhaps dyslexia which is quite well understood now. Certainly not a reason to be in a special school.

And you said that everyone learned to read but your DS and some other children did not, you took them out of school. So it's not true that everyone learned to read under that old system.

I don't think the current system works but we can't go back to that one!

Ds was born in the 2000s

I was referring to my school from the 60s where everyone learned to read

My Ds only left schooling a couple of years ago and because he couldn’t read going into year 2 then he was just left to struggle and get into trouble because he couldn’t write anything and when he didn’t answer any questions on his exams I was told he had the academic ability if a toddler snd he should go to a residential special school as he would never be able to look after him self
The H/T didn’t believe in dyslexia and refused to refer him.

The current system is rubbish because if your child struggles a little then if your school doesn’t put something in place to help then your child just gets left

Tge old system did at least mean your child did stand some chance of working at their own pace if they struggled.

junbean · 01/09/2023 21:09

their brains are still developing until age 25. You’d do well to research stages of development to understand how they are thinking at different ages. They aren’t miniature adults.

junbean · 01/09/2023 21:11

Also, kids are assholes. Sometimes it’s so bad all you can do is laugh.

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