To think my partner is being a prick when he does this?

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I'm so fed up of it and would like to know if I'm overreacting or not.

Whenever my partner is concentrating on something and I'm trying to help but he's getting frustrated he will talk to me in such a disrespectful way sometimes. It's nothing severe but it's really getting to me as he never stops when I've said I dont like it.

Earlier he was reversing out of the driveway as the neighbours builders had blocked us in and was getting frustrated. I was agreeing with him and suggesting an alternative and he just screamed QUIETTTTT at me. I now just don't want to be around him and he's calling me pathetic for being upset with him. This has happened so many times over the years and I've just had enough. I feel so disrespected.

Am I making a mountain out of a molehill here?

These replies are awful. It’s one thing getting irritated if someone interrupts you whilst you are concentrating. It’s another then screaming at that person and calling them pathetic. And then not apologising on top of that. But also think it’s acceptable to interrupt said person when they are busy.

I think your DH sounds shit tbh. If offering one drink during the working day can spark this off it just sounds like hard work to live with and I’m not surprised you’re upset.

@Tessisme driving is definitely one job I can't stand any comments on. My partner will point out a small bird on a fence and be like "look at the Robin on the fence, why didn't you look!? You missed it!" And then if I point out something and tell them to look I get "focus on the road and stop rubbernecking ffs!!"

Driving together really shows our true colours as a couple. We've had some blazing rows in the car and then got out and been completely chilled and fine, it's almost like ' what happens in the car, stays in the car'

Yeah op you’re doing that thing some folks do when they don’t get the responses they want. You start off by saying he was concentrating and he was frustrated and you were offering him alternates to solve it, so he “screamed” quiet at you. You then moved it to you were not doing any such thing just said the builders were unreasonable.

so yes, my money is on you’re that person. The one when someone is trying hard to do something and getting frustrated, likes to give instruction on better ways to do it.

it gets on everyone’s tits. Everyone. Of course he shouldn’t have shouted ( I don’t believe he was literally screaming for some reason) but I do think you need to accept that when someone is frustrated and concentrating and haven’t asked for you to yammer on and tell them ways to do it. Then you’re going to get told to shut it in no uncertain terms.

Rubbish, there's no excuse for not being civil

You are not insensitive or over sensitive. However much he is annoyed, he would not get away with speaking to anyone else like this, and should not be doing it to you.