DS 15 & DS 17 alone overnight

[threeblowdries]

WIBU to leave them on their own at home for 1 night ?
No neighbours nearby.
They are often alone during the day but we have always come home.
Worried about them not turning off appliances or locking up properly but also fully aware that they need to learn responsibility for these things.

Tks for replies.

I think they'll be fine. Just looking for some reassurance as this is another 1st for us. By appliances I meant something that could
cause fire .... Not just leaving the playstation or toaster plugged in.

They are reasonably well behaved, dont anticipate fighting or a party !

We haven't deliberately not left them already, just have not been in a position where we needed to.

If you have to wait till your kids are 25 before they are trusted to spend a night overnight without a helicopter parent around then you haven’t done the parenting job very well!

I think Fifi was being ironic 😬

There's always one who has to take it to the ridiculous, this is a new one though

It depends how sensible they are and if they are happy to be left

It’s such a bizarre take to say that because you know if one girl who was abused by her brother, that siblings should never be left alone together ever.
yes, what the fuck indeed.

We left them for a week at this age. Neighbours both sides kept an eye on them!

I’ve left mine, they cook when I’m not here anyway - I am a nurse so sometimes they cook pizza all by themselves ( i have 4 boys)
my eldest cooks for his little brothers and looks after them - he picks them up from school occasionally to help me out. Nothing is left on or has caught fire, no one has fought with another brother - occasionally there are ‘words’ but if you don’t trust your kids to do these things or teach them to how will they ever learn?……

I’ve left my older sons overnight not the younger 2 but they’ve survived for an hour or 2 all together and been fed watered and are happy to be there by the time I get home from work

@xogossipgirlxo oops! 🤦‍♀️

I've left my 17 & 12 year old overnight. Both very responsible children & they got themselves off to school the next morning. Depends on your children.

It’s refreshing to hear someone thinking about what’s best for their kids.

The bar for decent parenting is pretty low on here sometimes.

They will be fine.
I hope you enjoy your night away.

I arrived home from Uni one afternoon, aged 17, to find my parents had gone on holiday to Tenerife. My brother (15) and I survived fine, Dad had left us some cash for food shopping. We fed ourselves and the dog and it was all just fine.

They didn't tell us in advance they were going on holiday without us as they didn't want to hear any moaning about it 😆

I'd more worried they'd have a blow out party tbh and then leave the appliances on.

@FrostyFifi i don’t think your post has been fully appreciated for the sarcasm within 🤣

Thank you @Cocobutt . I'm feeling reassured and looking forward to it.

It depends on the child, my eldest are 14 and 16 (nearly 15 and 17) and they're being left for a night in a few months, whilst DH and I take DD for an op.

I'm going to leave a checklist of things they need to do and I'll call to make sure they've actually gone to bed!

DS1 is really bad at getting up in the morning, so luckily it's not a school day!

stop 😂😅😂

Are you for real ? I really hope you are taking the mick

I'm pretty sure she's being sarcastic, I could tell right away 😂

YANBU, I think from 16 onwards kids should be able to cope with being home overnight with an adult, including with slightly younger siblings. You might not want to if much younger kids or a lot of younger kids, but otherwise fine.

Christ I left home at 17!

Contact numbers/food in fridge/write instructions re instructions of appliances you want turning off no parties. They b fine.

A ring doorbell is your friend going forward. You can see whose coming snd going

@smileladiesplease

I left at 16 because me and my 20 year old sister couldn’t stop battering the shit out of each other. I’m certain my mum wouldn’t have left us alone, the hatred was real.

It’s amazing how times & attitudes change, isn’t it? When I was growing up in the 1970s & 80s most 17 year olds had left education & were earning their own living in full time employment. Today, as this thread shows, 17 year olds are treated as children.

@Roundabout78 @quietnightmare I cannot believe how many people are outraged at the 'not until 25' comment either as if they were serious 🤣🤣🙄🙄 ....... seriously......

Please come back @FrostyFifi and explain to these dozens of people the meaning of humour or sarcasm or maybe a mixture of both 😮 😆 she was not serious people.

It’s ridiculous they’ve got to that age and you have these concerns.