More money or more time with Dd

[Coldestyearsince2013]

Dd, is four and a half and is currently at Pre school part time. I work the hours she’s there and have been very lucky to be able to choose my hours.
We just about get by on only Dh’s wage, but don’t have any left over for proper holidays etc.
Now I’ve started working again, we’re much better off and rather than just meeting the bills and everything needed for Dd, we can now save and have some treats for ourselves.
Work have now asked if I want to work weekends too, three hours each day for a good amount. The extra money is very tempting, but my goal was always to spend as much time as possible with Dd whilst young. She’d be at home with Dh, but we’d be missing out on family time.
Pre Dd, I worked full time plus weekends as I enjoyed my job and enjoyed making money, my priorities changed when she was born and I was able to stay at home with her, but we struggled at times.
Would you go for the extra money or time at home with family?
It’s hard for me to turn down extra money of any kind 😬

@ILiveInTornadoAlley

Regardless of whether I still feel the guilt. Your ‘opinion’ is making the OP feel it. And it sounds like she would quite like to do this, it sounds like the benefits outweigh the disadvantages.

I’m still interested in whether you’d offer the same advice to OPs husband if he started a thread about cutting down his hours at work and making his family less financially stable so he didn’t miss out with his children.

@Keepitrealnomists It’s just under €100 (I’m not in U.K.) for 3 hours work

Also, two of mine are school age and they still know who I am despite us only having one full weekend day together. Shock, horror.

They also remember their father when he returns from week long work trips. All is well.

Personally more money, for Bill's ect is better long term

I wonder if we as women will ever get to the point when they will stop harshly and so hatefully judging each other.
You have a difference of opinion,their first instinct is to attack and make accusations.Falsely,like here,trying to say I'm guilt tripping.Which is ridiculous.When women decide to care for and encourage each other,you will all be stronger from it.No matter what walk of life you come from.
All the best Utter

I worked most weekends when my kids were little. It meant we saved on childcare but it gave the kids time with their Dad. You get time just you and your daughter what about Dad having that too?

How much time would it mean spending out of the house?

More time with kids every time

You know you can make memories throughout your offspring's lives right? And tbf, I've made way better memories with my children now that they are older (and quelle horreur, one of them is an actual full-grown adult), than I ever did when they were 4.

Oh absolutely!
I do actually know how the making of memories works.Fun huh!

This is one of those times where others can't decide for you. You probably already know what you want to do, so do that.
There are so many alternative outcomes to any one choice, be they positive or negative or both. The trick is choosing something and feeling happy with that choice.

Oh and I didn't have "offspring".
I had a son and 2 daughters.

3 hours is nothing and she'll be with her dad. I'd take the money. She won't be missing out. If anything, she'll get more opportunities with the money.

100% I'd choose time over money.

You can add more hours this time next year when they are at school.

People don't like the term "you don't get the time back" but it's true. Life is short and precious.

There is absolutely no way I'd choose work over my kids when I didn't have to.

I get the impression you want to OP and just don’t want to feel guilty (which you shouldn’t), so go for it! You will still have plenty of time with DD.

I'd do just the 1 day, because otherwise full days out for the 3 of you will be difficult.

€100 for 3hrs whilst dad can take her for swimming lesson, gymnastics, coffee and cake..... I'd do it. Dad gets much needed 1-1 and then you have rest of day for family stuff whilst you "contribute" to the family pot. An extra 100 a week could be saved for a big holiday.

3 hours work every Sat and Sun really buggers up the weekend and means you can't plan anything so I wouldn't do it, no. I'd rather do an extra hr or so in the evening after DD is in bed if that would be a possibility?

Maybe just 1 weekend day so you still get 1 family day? It would be a shame to not get any time as a family I think

Only three hours? I’d do it.

If the money would be a big help I'd do one day only.

Do the Saturday morning. Dh can do something fun with dc for 3hrs. Then the rest of the weekend is free for family time.
If it helps, have a target for that money. Holiday, home improvements, savings/investments.

If you can choose your hours, why not wait the extra year until she's in school and then work during her school hours? I wouldn't personally want so little time with both DH and DD. Surely if she's 4.5 already, and your job sounds pretty flexible with no current money worries, then you are imminently at the point of being able to work more hours Mon-Fr and earn more without impacting so much on weekends? It's a very personal decision for each family to make, but in your position I'd prefer to wait.

I'd pick time with my children every time, in all honesty.
However, if you are able to do just one of the weekend days, making the other day "family day"- the day you and your husband are both at home together - I would compromise with that.