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Partner cracked my back..now I'm in pain!

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Saju1 · 28/01/2023 06:29

My partner cracked my back ( I had asked him too as I felt stiff) about 2 days ago, and I immediately felt a strange pain. 2 days laters, and the pain is getting worse, I feel like I'm going to collapse when I eat, and I can't even settle in pain due to the pain being so bad.

Has anyone else experienced this?

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ancientpants · 28/01/2023 19:08

youtwoandme · 28/01/2023 07:48

Osteopath or Chiropractor

DO NOT GO TO A&E as some have suggested.

The above are specialists in the field and maybe able to manipulate your spine there and then to ease the discomfort.

Very very dangerous having an unqualified person do that OP.

Hope you get sorted soon.

Osteopaths and chiropractors are essentially quacks. A+E or GP is absolutely the most appropriate route for OP.

lobeliasb · 28/01/2023 19:11

He probably popped out a rib, go to an osteopath like others have suggested

lobeliasb · 28/01/2023 19:12

A&E and GP will run endless scans and tests without putting a hand on her back, when it's likely a simple fix

ancientpants · 28/01/2023 19:14

lobeliasb · 28/01/2023 19:12

A&E and GP will run endless scans and tests without putting a hand on her back, when it's likely a simple fix

If you read the update she had a very thorough examination which picked up something potentially very serious.

lobeliasb · 28/01/2023 19:16

eurochick · 28/01/2023 11:26

It's really not a normal thing to ask your partner to do...

I dunno, I know plenty of people who do and I get my husband to do it when I feel stiff. I lay face down on the ottoman and he places his hands to each side of my spine (not over the spine!) and presses his weight down through his arms and it gets a good pop.

Oysterbabe · 28/01/2023 19:38

Getting someone to crack your back is insane. I have never heard of people doing this for each other.

LeapingCat · 28/01/2023 19:42

Do you mean your D Dimer was high? This has absolutely nothing to do with having your back cracked. Have they given you blood thinners?

Preparedforjobnottolast · 28/01/2023 19:45

Get an MRI whether private or on the NHS. I found the NHS weren’t keen to do MRI as it is done by a private company anyway. Private came become NHS if needed.

Both a private and NHS contracted physio nearly left me paralysed when they failed to pick up symptoms of Myelopathy. I deteriorated so fast.

My Dad only got me to A&E when a chiropractor would not touch me. I kind of owe them so much.

An operation later and details added to the spinal register, I’ve had to start accepting adaptions to my home and having short term carers, your back is no joke.

Saju1 · 28/01/2023 20:04

@LeapingCat yes, that's exactly what he said. He didn't give me blood thinners, just told me to take ibuprofen and the antibiotics. Should he have given me thinners?

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UrsulaPandress · 28/01/2023 20:24

All you folk dissing chiropractors. Mine is my new bff. I went in on two crutches and I can now walk unaided.

Floraanddougal · 28/01/2023 20:29

GoodChat · 28/01/2023 06:38

Why are people acting like this is a really unusual thing to ask your partner to do?

It's like when you have a really good stretch!

OP you do need to get seen if painkillers aren't helping.

is This serious, obviously as it’s risky and prone to damage,irs an odd as fuck thing to ask.

Saju1 · 28/01/2023 21:56

Preparedforjobnottolast · 28/01/2023 19:45

Get an MRI whether private or on the NHS. I found the NHS weren’t keen to do MRI as it is done by a private company anyway. Private came become NHS if needed.

Both a private and NHS contracted physio nearly left me paralysed when they failed to pick up symptoms of Myelopathy. I deteriorated so fast.

My Dad only got me to A&E when a chiropractor would not touch me. I kind of owe them so much.

An operation later and details added to the spinal register, I’ve had to start accepting adaptions to my home and having short term carers, your back is no joke.

@Preparedforjobnottolast

Oh my! What were your first symptoms? Do you know why it only came up on the MRI scan?

This is making me worried if they didn't check for myelopathy.

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Unforgettablefire · 28/01/2023 22:31

My ex used to get a really stiff back and would occasionally get me to walk up and down on it to crack it, he'd be right as rain afterwards.

lunar1 · 28/01/2023 23:02

An MRI is the only thing that will show all the nerves etc. if you ever do opt for one make sure if you are paying you get a 3 Tesla machine. Otherwise you may not see the full nerve.

Rainbowshit · 28/01/2023 23:06

I played a sport at a national level as a junior. They taught us to crack each others backs. I get my DH to do it to me all the time.

LookingOldTheseDays · 28/01/2023 23:09

Wtaf?

Getting an unqualified person to manipulate your spine is insane, and sure as hell should be seen as a really unusual thing to do. Your spine is delicate and precious.

LookingOldTheseDays · 28/01/2023 23:11

And if you regularly feel stiff enough to feel that you need this, regular stretching or yoga is what you need! "Cracking" it will not help in the long run.

Preparedforjobnottolast · 28/01/2023 23:20

@Saju1 I know it’s really thrown me too, as the specialist nurse who was checking my reflexes with needles and that tool they use, I really, really don’t understand why Allied (won’t name in full) didn’t pick this on Friday 13th who also tested reflexes but legs only.

My first symptoms were lower back pain and unable to sit on a toilet
I then started wetting myself (I thought this had something to do with Diabetes and it being winter) waking up early hours with pain in both lower back and bum to by end of December numb tingly fingers and tummy to rapidly losing control of my legs after walking, walking like a drunk’en, crouched over, unable to hold a pen or earring, dress self.

I really feel for people who do get misdiagnosed with MS.

I can accept the private physio may not be accountable as it was 19th Dec I saw her and on 26th December I just knew I wasn’t right.

When I saw the information booklet on Cervical Stenosis and Myelopathy I was so relived. It made sense. I really hope I can improve.

Having the said to be ungrateful surgery I’m sure the feelings in my hands have definitely changed for a bit of relief. I just hope in time it can get better. I don’t know where I’d be if Dad hadn’t been more assertive. I’m going to fight to get back to full strength.

EzzieM · 28/01/2023 23:27

I have back trouble.

You need a MRI. Do it privately as the NHS are so stingy with these and you’ll wait months but a private MRI could be in next few days. Ask your GP to refer you or get a private dr.

Also google thinks like spine hernia and sciatica to see if any of those symptoms fit.

Good luck!

Saju1 · 29/01/2023 04:50

Preparedforjobnottolast · 28/01/2023 23:20

@Saju1 I know it’s really thrown me too, as the specialist nurse who was checking my reflexes with needles and that tool they use, I really, really don’t understand why Allied (won’t name in full) didn’t pick this on Friday 13th who also tested reflexes but legs only.

My first symptoms were lower back pain and unable to sit on a toilet
I then started wetting myself (I thought this had something to do with Diabetes and it being winter) waking up early hours with pain in both lower back and bum to by end of December numb tingly fingers and tummy to rapidly losing control of my legs after walking, walking like a drunk’en, crouched over, unable to hold a pen or earring, dress self.

I really feel for people who do get misdiagnosed with MS.

I can accept the private physio may not be accountable as it was 19th Dec I saw her and on 26th December I just knew I wasn’t right.

When I saw the information booklet on Cervical Stenosis and Myelopathy I was so relived. It made sense. I really hope I can improve.

Having the said to be ungrateful surgery I’m sure the feelings in my hands have definitely changed for a bit of relief. I just hope in time it can get better. I don’t know where I’d be if Dad hadn’t been more assertive. I’m going to fight to get back to full strength.

Thank you @Preparedforjobnottolast for this, I find it very helpful. I do really hope you recover and find relief from the symptoms 🙏

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