Would you judge neighbour if toddlers zip in coat was broken?

[aajzici]

It just happened this morning as we were getting ready so I wrapped it tightly around him in his pram. He was completely cosy but he got out the pram and it ripped even more

My neighbour was out and she make a look at it. She does this often. she's very known in the street for screaming horribly and swearing at her 3 year old.

Would you judge the zip, im so annoyed it happened as we were leaving, I put it in the tumble dryer after washing it never even thought it would break.

I always feel the judgment from her, during the summer the kids played barefoot in the grass then I left the pram outside over nights.

She seems the type to report silly things too

Your mum works with abused children and is telling you not to report child abuse. Lovely. I reported my direct neighbours as they were having physical fights as well as screaming arguments every evening with two young children in the house, I called the police as well several times. Social care visited & allocated them
a case worker (we shared an entrance & I let the SW in on multiple occasions because their buzzer didn’t work so I ended up opening the door to all their guests), so yes they do take action when it’s needed. Even if they don’t, at least you did something to try and help that boy. People turning a blind eye is how children die.

Might be worth trying to move house if possible, it sounds like where you live now is making you very anxious & upset. Imagine the impact it’s having on that woman’s child.

I've spoken loads about this to my mum she works with disadvantaged (abused children) she said me reporting this would never go anywhere, that you're allowed to punish children with words etc.

Sorry, I don't buy this. You have a moral duty to report this. It's emotional abuse and you and your mum have the chance to make it stop. Please think about that.

This. And who would she report a broken zip to?
You are giving her too much headroom.

Seriously?! 🙄

Your neighbour sounds awful.

Don’t worry about her.

Take the coat back to shop and ask for exchange or refund, it sounds like a fault.

Barefoot on grass is fine.
www.famly.co/blog/playing-barefoot-children-toddlers

However, I would not leave the pram outside overnight, for the simple reason that there is potential for wildlife to come into contact with it = disease risk.

I remember being stopped in the street on a cold day because my baby (under 6 months) had cold naked hands. While she was talking I put mittens on DD and the complainer got to see how she got them off in 0.2 seconds. "Happens constantly" I said.

Judgy people should concentrate on their own kids.

@Thepeopleversuswork I can't move. I've just been given this house permanently through my local council. I absolutely hate my downstairs neighbours. I made. A thread before my partner is mixed Hispanic and Asian (dark skinned) it seems like they have it in me for this which I didn't believe at the start but their compliments about us are unreal. I left cardboard squashed neatly between my bins they called the housing officer out to look at it. Everyone in tbe street does this. Then kept falsely reporting us of domestic violence (has never ever happened but their screaming at each other is nearly daily). They even tried to say child neglect and my housing officer stopped them there and said no chance I've seen the house, the kids and how they interact together. They just want me out of the house and all my friends and family have been telling me the past year it's a racial thing I really don't want to think that but at this point it's ridiculous.

They banged up on Christmas morning because the kids were giggling and squealing because it's Christmas morning. Again on all three of their birthdays. And whenever they are playing.

She messaged me and I've replied no chance your kids play loudly I say nothing. My 6,4 and 2 year old can half a wild half hour which isn't even wild.

I feel another complainant is coming but now I'm retaliating I was being polite since it was temporary accommodation.

It is very isolating though I thought I was the weird one for ages that I don't scream at my child.

Would reporting her help or would she just get better at hiding it?

@Thepeopleversuswork but as I'm ranting, my downstairs neighbour the mum is nice enough she seems lovely she told me hee mental health is bad so doesn't work. But then still doesn't make exceptions that the kids will be loud at random times. She can't expect an entire day of silence from a 2,4,6 year old. Her 12 and 15 year old are very loud. 15 year old on Xbox aggressively shouts and swears and scared the kids.

But dad doesnt work and his reason to me was he has his caravan. He goes away 4 days a week and stays in his caravan alone. He has 7 kids only 2 of them live with him and the rest never see him. I know someone who's friends with her daughter. The daughter hates him.

He's insufferable, a horrible man. Threatened his 15 year old to stab someone loudly on the phone in front of my kids too.

He threaded to fight my partner until my partner told him he trains MMA and at the gym 5 days a week. When my partner is here they behave but away on work and they make my life hell.

We were away 5 days on holiday came back and they had their fridge in my garden I went mental saying move it now or contacting council. I had mo idea if they even planned to move it. Scared them and they did but to complain about my own cardboard in my own bins then dump their old rusty fridge!!

They almost feel like they own me or are above me. I'm very young looking. I'm 26 and they had me at 18 ish. Which if they thought that I'd be 3 years older to an their son but feel like almost bullying me. They seem to believe my garden is there. They want to control how much noise and when I make it. Next it's will be only shower at this time only do washing at this time. But they tried to control previous people above me but he did it. Whereas my housing officer was like good for you he was stupid to comply with their demands.

Honestly they are horrible people.

My mum stoppped for a minute and the mum downstairs was out running saying get out my husbands drive way. He goes away 4 days a week and wasn't due back.

His kids barely see him too. He is in the house 3 days a week when they have school then disappears on their weekend. Also was away Christmas Day. Which each to their own but mum told me they celebrated it.

I'm not lowering to their standards but I have told the kids if they bang up bang back.

When my partner is away and the mum downstairs. The man below us hangs up for 15-30 mins claiming he's doing work. It's not it's daily and sounds like punching. Not tools.

My oldest daughter looks older than her age. She's only 6 but looks 8-10. They tried to pin all the noise on her and day I'm incompetent. It's crazy

I can't believe last year I was bothered and tried to keep the kids noise down scared wed lose them house.

They have noise equipment and within a week if known if we were too loud. It's never happened yet.

No...I don't know how to explain it so you will understand.

This needs reporting to social services ASAP. That poor child.

@aajzici I would def ask mumsnet to delete at the very least the last very long comment you’ve made.

The amount of personal information you’ve given and negative comments/descriptions of the whole neighbourhood and where they are relative to you is identifying. If one of them reads this it could make life more difficult. 💐

Sounds like the judgement is (rightly) coming from you, OP. I’d hazard a guess that the neighbour hasn’t thought about it since the event. Also, you’d be justified to report her. Sounds like she’s got some kind of mental illness and her and the boy need help.

I would think why is something so minor bothering you? How do you know she’s judging? You’ve already said she’s not the perfect mum so you know in comparison this is nothing. I think you need to consider where you’re investing your thoughts because this really is so minor