Would you judge neighbour if toddlers zip in coat was broken?

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It just happened this morning as we were getting ready so I wrapped it tightly around him in his pram. He was completely cosy but he got out the pram and it ripped even more

My neighbour was out and she make a look at it. She does this often. she's very known in the street for screaming horribly and swearing at her 3 year old.

Would you judge the zip, im so annoyed it happened as we were leaving, I put it in the tumble dryer after washing it never even thought it would break.

I always feel the judgment from her, during the summer the kids played barefoot in the grass then I left the pram outside over nights.

She seems the type to report silly things too

What do you mean by she make a look at it?

Do you mean she just looked at you?

Would you judge her if her toddlers coat zip was broken? I think that's where you'll find your answer.

Really? Why do you even care I doubt I’d notice some random neighbours kids zip? (Or care tbh) fix the zip/get a new coat and move on

Don't worry about it. Fix it if you can; otherwise leave it as your DC will be too big for that coat next winter.

No I wouldn't judge. Saw a video online of one mum walking with her child holding the child's coat up to prove she tried to get her to wear it.

I’d report her to SS. If she acts like this in public Goodness knows what she does behind closed doors.

I wouldn't notice to be honest.

As the saying goes, don't take criticism from anyone you wouldn't take advice from.

Though it sounds like she (at most) looked at you and you probably imagined the judgement.

She sounds like a nutter.
Neighbours don't even look at each other where we live.
Try not to worry, my children would take shoes and socks off, attempt to take coat off in snowy conditions. My children also waved at cars, blow kisses at cyclists and would lean back in the buggy and put both legs far apart in the air. I'd push their legs down when people wanted to walk past and they would raise their legs again. I just had to not care what others thought. As others have said try not to assign headspace to it.

Why aren’t you trying to get help from social services for this neighbour’s poor little boy?

How would she even know it was broken?

I don’t get why you care what she thinks so much.

I assume you’ve reported her to SS.
Are you worried she’ll do the same to you?

🤔
So, she didn’t say or do anything but you think she’s judging you because she seems like the type of person who would report you (presumably to SS) because your DC’s coat zip broke. And then you drip feed (after it being pointed out, quite fairly) that you’re the judgemental one, not her, that she’s actually an abusive parent and is wildly nasty to her DC…

Sounds likely.

She didn't drip feed that. It was in the OP.

I wouldn't notice the zip.

My DS went through a phase of it. Refused to wear his coat in freezing temperatures. Eventually I figured that the easiest thing was to walk him in his t-shirt for about 30 seconds before he declared that he’s cold and wants his coat - so it went on. After a couple of weeks, he just put it on in the house.

I doubt I'd notice a zip and I certainly wouldn't judge. Why would you give this dislikeable woman any power in your life by caring so much about what she thinks?

No, I wouldn't judge.

But more importantly, why on earth do you care what she thinks of you?? It's not like she's a Paragon of Parental Perfection! Take no notice and do the best you can by/for your child.

Yeah you need to report her to children’s social care if what you’re saying about her is true, that poor child needs safeguarding and if you’ve witnessed the abuse you have a responsibility to report it. It could make the world of difference to that child’s life. Oh and nobody cares about your child’s coat, or if they play outside in summer without shoes on. Maybe think less about her judging you and more how you’ll feel if her child comes to harm and you did nothing.

You're worried about your neighbour who's abusing her 3 YO child judging you for your kids zip being broken? You should be more worried about the fact you're letting a child be abused like this and not bothering to report it TBH.

I would be judging whether the coat looked in a state where it would be worth fixing and offer to fix it and/or if I had a spare coat handy they could have

Then I would be concerned and tell someone

My toddler rarely agrees to put a coat on. I tend to walk around waving it about so people can see she actually owns a coat.
The neighbour needs to mind her own business!

The OP just said she shouts.