Friend bringing friend to stay

[crocusfocus]

We are currently living abroad in a place where cost of living very high

One of my closest oldest friends is coming to stay for a few days and she is travelling and asked to bring a male friend (platonic) to stay.

Never met him, but the thought is making me feel uncomfortable. I have young kids but also just don't like the thought of someone I dont know in my house.

I know she would be offended if i asked for her to stay alone.
I know it would feel different it was her boyfriend..somehow? Odd I know..

I would be like the prekids version of you and would have no problems having someone else stay.
I think if you aren't comfortable - talk to your friend. She might be a bit surprised as you say - that's not the you she knows. So probably wouldn't have even considered it to be an issue before.

As you say, your boundaries have changed, and that's ok but you do need to let her know that your boundaries have changed.

@idonotmind I agree

I know it seems very odd, especially if people are more assertive by nature - I have a big problem saying no to friends.

@Dutch1e

I have lifted your comment , thank you :-)
This sounds most like me!

I do too. Despite those here saying that it’s “fine” the fact is that it’s quite likely to lead to some resentment.

In this case, I think a “significant other” would be OK, but an occasional friend wouldn’t be.