Who is right? Very trivial

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A couple are going out for Person A's family party on Friday night.

This couple hardly ever go out in the evening for drinks/parties and Person B states they don't have anything to wear.

Person B also states they are skint until payday and have no money in their account.

Person A states that they will pay for/lend them money until payday to buy a top.

Person A will send Person B money when they find a top

Person B thinks that Person A should just send them money now. Person A is notoriously bad at answering calls so Person B is worried about hanging around a shop waiting for bank transfer.

These threads make me feel incredibly grateful I don't have to rely on a Person A.

Person B states they don't have anything to wear.

You say this is a family party - is it somewhere with a strict dress code? Is there really nothing in Person B's wardrobe that would do; or does Person B just fancy a new outfit?

Has Person B tried charity shops? A new top for a party isn't really worth owing money to someone for.

@Thepeopleversuswork Exactly what i was thinking. I would hate to be in the position where i was beholden to someone to transfer me enough money to buy a new top. Always have a bit of independent money.

I'm not a fan of As and Bs myself, but this one's really not hard to follow. If you're struggling I'd suggest something's a miss....or you're tired

If they are genuine in the offer to pay for a new top then they should give the money in advance. If they trust you it shouldn’t be an issue

If person B really doesn’t have any money to their name they really shouldn’t be buying new clothes or actually go out unless someone else is picking up the bill. They must have something clean in the wardrobe to wear.

Cos that's the roolz these days a lot of the time it seems... awaiting the cries A is financially abusive and B should have access to money to buy whatever whenever or LTB....
So what if A transfers £50 and the one B has to have is £60? Then they'll need to wait for more money?

Oh see all the A is dreadful as they won't hand over money on demand posts are there!

You're not clear whether it's a loan or a gift. If A has said they'll lend you the money I'd be inclined to ask for a specific round sum so £20/30/40/50 etc now.
If he's going to treat you I'd get on line and send him a link of a couple you like....he might say Oh I like the pink top for £17.99, I'll treat you...
If it's your husband or long term live in partner I'd feel you should just be able to say uou need an outfit (assuming you do).

Lending money is a sure way to lose a friend.
B will not be able to pay it back.
Nice tops in charity shops for < £5.

Really need to know who's who.

If my husband was giving me money for a top he would just send the money beforehand.

Needs more context to actually comment.

They're both wrong.

Person B should just wear something they already own or hit up a charity shop. If they're that skint then new clothes shouldn't be a priority.

Person A shouldn't be so weird about the loan and should just bung person B 30 quid or something.

B should wear something they already own

Weird scenario. Is Person B skint too? Is Person A bad with money so Person B is worried Person A will spend it on something else and not get a top? Can't help but feel there is more to this....

Person B needs to wear something they already own.

Person A should either offer a loan of x amount or not offer money at all.

Person B thinks that Person A should just send them money now. Person A is notoriously bad at answering calls so Person B is worried about hanging around a shop waiting for bank transfer.

What reason has Person A given for not sending Person B the money now? Presumably there's more to this conversation?

Having said that, I think that Person B should just wear something that they already have, unless of course they need something specific like a ballgown or a fancy dress outfit?

Why don't you just say what you mean instead of making us play guessing games?

So much context missing here. Is Person B skint because of the increased cost of living, or because she’s not good at budgeting, meaning this is an ongoing issue? Does Person B really have nothing to wear, or is she just a bit fed up with getting the same old thing out of the wardrobe again and again? Is Person B reluctantly asking for a loan as a one-off, or does this come up every month? Is B generally honest and reliable? Or might B be thinking “Ooh, it’s January - I can get something for a tenner in the sales and keep the extra”, hence B wants the money now?

Do the shops have websites so b could say this is the top I want, it costs £x, if you can lend me the money I'll go into town and buy it.

This. Person a might be reacting to person b being melodramatic about having nothing to wear. Unless there's some back story it sounds like bs.

I'd just give my partner the cash and assume they would return it when they say they will. I'd expect my partner to do the same. Lend it or don't, whatever, but putting this ridiculous 'I'll send it over when you actually buy the top' stuff is pathetic.

Skip the night out if you're skint.

the person lending the money should just set a budget. surely the person needing the top can think of an amount that they would be willing to spend if it was their own money.

also you can pick up a top for the night fairly cheaply - so do that if you are skint.

So your boyfriend is lending you* money for clobber and said he’d transfer when you’re out shopping, but you want the money now?

*replace with correct pronouns, if incorrect.

This sounds like a joyless relationship