To start correcting people on my name?

[ThatsNotMyFingName]

NC’d.

My name is Alexandra. Not a hard name to pronounce or spell. Not a weird, unique or “strange” name. I was born early 90’s and I feel it’s quite common with women in my age bracket.

I am constantly being called Alexander. Which is the male version.

Some teachers used to call it me when I was at school. I get called it in the doctors surgery, when they call my name over the tannoy. When speaking on the phone and I’m giving my details they refer to me as it.

I get called it at work, even though my full name is in my email address and signature.

I politely tell people my actual name and how to pronounce it. But it’s falling on deaf ears.

I feel like shouting at people “For fucks sake my name is Alexandra. It’s really not hard to pronounce”.

Is it unreasonable to be this annoyed and want to start harshly correcting people?

Yep. Not one single person who came across my name written down first ever got it right, it was always Tasmin. I got told off for being rude while correcting teachers on more than one occasion. And then there were the people who, I thought, knew how to say it but would then write it as Tampsin or Tamson. I was very glad to get shot of it at 18.

People getting Alexandra wrong is a lot stranger though, it’s a much better known name. I can understand misreading if the (female) person wasn’t standing right in front of you but getting wrong when she is? Weird.

I feel like shouting at people “For fucks sake my name is Alexandra. It’s really not hard to pronounce”

Do it. 😂

Alternatively, politely say "oh I didn't think I looked like a man?". And call them by the wrong name.

I'm Christina. Not Christine, Kristen or Christeen. I'm also not Chris.
I introduce myself as Christina. I have my Facebook and all other things as Christina. My email address of 25 years is Christina. My name on the work rota is Christina. Birthday and Christmas cards are signed by a very clear, non-cursive Christina.

And yet I'm a fucking Christine. It drives me insane. I constantly correct people on it. One person has known me for years and still refuses to call me Christina. I don't know why. It's not even as if it's a nickname or any easier to say really. She has to know what my name is. My husband and kids quite often say my name many more times than needed in conversation. I need to just blow up one day don't I?

My name is Lauren and I swear I've been called Laura more often than I've been called my actual name! People even do it in reply to emails, which have my name in the email address as well as in the signature 🙄

I've actually considered changing my name to Laura just to be done with it

It’s very strange to say Alexander to a woman. Could they possibly be saying Alexandruh instead of Alexandrah?

Not the same thing but my name is commonly spelt two different ways. I'll email people, put, regards, <name> and it's on my email signature and people still respond by spelling the other way.

It makes me unjustifiably ragey 😂

I absolutely feel your pain.

Ask them if they're trying to offend you. Ask whether they think you look like a bloke. That should at least cause enough embarrassment to make them think twice next time!!

But they sound the same!
Alexander and Alexandra are completely different names!
YANBU op.

Oooooo! What's your name!!?!

Was thinking the same. Would be very common round my way to pronounce the last syllable very flatly as a "druh" or "drer" which when said quickly could sound like "der".

Very strange for lots of people to constantly be calling a woman by a man's name.

OP are you from the place you currently live? Do you have the same accent as most of the people who are saying your name wrong?

OMG @SpanishOnion that's actually quite hillarious 🤣🙈

Nope. I guarantee they are calling me Alexander.

I even received a letter from the council once which addressed me as “Miss Alexander Smith”. I wish I took a picture of it.

absolutely correct them. why should you be called anything other than your name.

I feel your pain. (Also named changed) my name is Gabrielle. You would be amazed how often I get called Gabriel. And Gabriella, and Gaby (don’t use that nickname). Also Georgina (any name beginning with G will do clearly). And more often than can be coincidence…Deborah…🤷🏻‍♀️

YANBU OP. I have a small DD with a beautiful name which is ALWAYS mispronounced because it looks like another name (two letters switched around the other way) and it drives me bonkers/makes me feel guilty! In fact I’ve just scrolled up and another poster has mentioned it!

OP are you from the place you currently live? Do you have the same accent as most of the people who are saying your name wrong?

Yep, Yorkshire born and bred. Lived in Manchester and London during my early 20’s for a couple of years but I’m settled back in my home city.

Experienced lots of different accents, and from all over the country people still call me Alexander.

I’m clearly female too I have size F boobs I can’t be mistaken for a man😂

Have you checked that you are listed as Alexandra on official paperwork? If you are getting letters addressed to Alexander then perhaps there is a bigger issue that people just mispronouncing your name.

Oh my god. I hope my little DD of the same name doesn’t change theirs - but reading your post I totally understand why you did! Why do people do it?! I literally have had to correct everyone professional we’ve met too. Right from the midwives on!

@Talisin so much sympathy for the Tamsins out there! I had a very good friend at uni who is still soldiering on as an adult with most people calling her Tasmin at least 40% of the time. How she hasn't cracked and gone rogue is anyone's guess.

My name is slightly unusual, but similar to a series of standard names.

What used to really piss me off was when I said my name to others, and they 'corrected' it for me as though I didn't know how to pronounce my own name and they did!!

Now, being old, I don't even care!! 😂

Same! A colleague would continually call me Alexander ffs and even put it on my Christmas card! I used to get called Alexandrina at the Dr when I was young and people would have a look and I cringed. My Mum shortened it when I was young to Sandra which I absolutely hate hate hate!! I never say my name is Sandra lol. Some people call me Alex which I like and don't mind them doing that x

My birth certificate, passport, bank cards, driving license are all in my name.

Every letter I’m sent from the bank, NHS, bills etc are all in my name.

The letter from the council that addressed me as Alexander was, luckily, a one off about 6 years ago over an error in council tax. Still pissed me off though 😂

it's not every unreasonable to correct people who say your name incorrectly. Ever.

*ever

Omg yes I’ve also had Alexandrina. And Alexandrea, and Alec, like Alec Baldwin. So f*ing annoying 😅

Ive also had emails at work referring to me as Alex-Sandra or Aleksandra.