My MIL is better than yours…

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Just for balance, blatantly inspired by the other thread - genuine sympathies to those with a difficult relationship but I feel like the good MILa don’t often get a look in on here!
I adore mine, she’s sweet and loving and dotes on my DC while respecting our role as parents. We text most days just to chat. She looks after my DD one day a week to save us on nursery bills and has offered to babysit both kids the evening of my birthday to DH and I can go out. My life is better with her in it. (And FIL, for the record!)

My MiL is complicated. Life has dealt her a difficult hand, and I respect how she has dealt with a lot, but sometimes struggle with how exasperated and over it she can be with us as a result. She wants to be warm and fun, and she understands the boundaries that her MiL trashed with her, and tries to be respectful of them. But sometimes she can’t help herself and does overstep the mark, and has said some very hurtful things to me in the past. She has a temper and her fiery nature is something I will always find hard, but I respect her passion, sense of morality and justice, and openness. We can accept our struggles because we talk about them, unlike my family who fume quietly about things and they fester.

my daughter is also 100% a mini version of my MiL, which adds to the complicated feelings!

Mine too, she’s been gone for 9 years now. I miss her every day♥️