I'm sure this has been discussed before. When we're out and my boy needs the toilet, I make him come into the Ladies with me. Problem is, he's starting to complain about it and wants to go in the Gents on his own. I have let him do this in one particular place where there's never anyone about, so I knew he wouldn't encounter anyone at the urinals. I'm always honest with him but I don't quite know how to explain why I'm not letting him do this anywhere else, like at the swimming pool/gym toilets.
He knows about the Pants rules and personal space and consent but I don't exactly want to spell out what I'm worried about. What do you tell your kids?
AIBU?
AIBU not to explain why a 7yr old can't go in the gents?
FlyingPi · 25/01/2023 23:42
Am I being unreasonable?
516 votes. Final results.
POLLjannier · 01/02/2023 13:42
Why not change the question would you allow your 7 year old in a shop where you couldn't see them? Can your 7 year old go out on their own?
jannier · 01/02/2023 13:42
Why not change the question would you allow your 7 year old in a shop where you couldn't see them? Can your 7 year old go out on their own?
MajorCarolDanvers · 01/02/2023 15:40
Yes. My kids were allowed out to play at that age.
jannier · 01/02/2023 13:42
Why not change the question would you allow your 7 year old in a shop where you couldn't see them? Can your 7 year old go out on their own?
anya21 · 01/02/2023 00:22
It is the age that many will be starting puberty, and thinking of girls in a different way.
CellophaneFlower · 29/01/2023 20:38
Ahhh yes. 9 is definitely the age when they become voyeuristic perverts.
anya21 · 29/01/2023 20:22
i would say 8 is the absolute max age for a boy to be in ladies toilets.
fUNNYfACE36 · 28/01/2023 23:31
Neither it is my duty!
pizzaHeart · 26/01/2023 00:31
I challenge boys who look more than about 7 using the ladies.
@fUNNYfACE36 Is it your job or hobby?
anya21 · 01/02/2023 15:33
Yes . Seven is a good age to start building a bit of independence. It is the age (year 3) where certainly in this village chidren are allowed to start walking to school alone.
I think with regard to ents toilets, a good idea would be to send them in when you know ther is more than one man in there. I caanot imagine a man abusing a child in front of unknown other men (unless he wanted to wak up in hospital)
jannier · 01/02/2023 13:42
Why not change the question would you allow your 7 year old in a shop where you couldn't see them? Can your 7 year old go out on their own?
AlexRoss55 · 08/02/2023 06:05
Not sure why you wouldn't want him to see a grown man using a urinal. I assume he's seen his father urinating. Perhaps you should explain to him what a flasher is and tell him that if an adult either flashes him or appears to be looking at his private parts, he should leave immediately or get help if necessary. But don't listen to me (or anyone else on this forum). If you're really taking him into ladies' restrooms at the age of seven, that's highly unusual, and I suggest you seek the opinion of a child psychologist. I fear you could be doing more harm than good.
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