It's minor but I've noticed it happens a lot..
My son is 3 and barely needs a booster seat at our dining table, as our chairs are quite high and they're like little arm chairs. A pillow does the job.
Whenever he's at MIL house, she insists on putting him in a high chair. I think it's a bit ridiculous. He can easily sit at the table with a booster and even without, he manages fine. But her house, her rules. No harm done.
Whenever she's at my house with SIL and I set him up to eat. Set his place etc, they're always commenting on if he's ' ok ' to be sitting like that or does he need another pillow or booster seat or high chair. I always say, he's absolutely fine, which he is. They then always want him to use the teeny tiny cutlery or they want him to eat with a tea spoon. I think he eats better with normal cutlery and does just fine. But again, every time without fail, they'll say whether they should get him the small cutlery etc.
It annoys me because it's my house and I've set him up that way and continue to set him up that way, so why do they need to keep banging on about it ? It's just disrespectful. He'll be eating and they'll turn to me and say ' shall I get him a small spoon ? '.
He eats fine, he's just a kid. Sometimes he struggles eating from a teaspoon and manages much better with a big spoon.
Yes, this is a non issue in the grand scheme of life, but it's annoying when people do stuff like this repeatedly.
AIBU?
Would this wind you up from MIL and SIL ?
umbrellaellaeheheh · 25/01/2023 13:20
EmmaDilemma5 · 25/01/2023 13:23
People are annoying! I find most people have annoying aspects to them. They may well find you annoying at times.
If this is your only real gripe with them, I'd let it go. It'll reduce as he gets older and he'll look ridiculous in your MILs highchair within the year. I mean, he's nearly school age.
Raindropsdrop · 25/01/2023 13:24
How does she get him to fit into a high chair?!
It's annoying, not disrespectful though.
Just say he's fine and end the conversation.
ZeroFuchsGiven · 25/01/2023 13:25
Its een a while since mine were that age but I kind of see their point about the cutlery, surely a smaller set would be easier for him to use?
I just picture his tiny hands with massive knife fork and spoon.
I cant comment on the table but again I wonder if they have a point and hes really low down, think how high up you are when you eat and the size difference between you and him.
Suzi9989 · 25/01/2023 13:51
Is it a safety concern? Children in highchairs are more secured. They sound caring not disrespectful 🙄
RoundUpRuby · 25/01/2023 13:58
YANBU. They’re not trying to be helpful (if they were they’d only mention it once). They’re telling you they don’t agree with what you’re doing and think their way is better, so they’re going to keep pestering you.
I also wouldn’t allow them to put him in a highchair. He’s not a baby and it’s unnecessary.
youmustbemad · 25/01/2023 13:44
My MIL does the "is she OK? Shall I just..." thing to my BIL about his 3yo and it makes me want to throw something at her. It's not even aimed at me and it drives me mental. In her case, there's an implication that he's a mediocre parent & doing it wrong, which he 100% is not. So yeah, I would be irritated too. But it all depends on the context, I guess for some it could be an attempt at being helpful.
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