To leave him to figure it out himself?

[daiseydreamer]

Husband and I are separating, I ended our marriage for various reasons, the way he parents our children, his lack of responsibility, not feeling equal or supported. Him being in denial about his mental health issues, potentially undiagnosed adhd/autism but absolutely no willingness to explore this or change. I just felt alone and as though he was another child I had to guide through life.

We're currently still living together as neither of us has anywhere else to go. The house has been up for sale for a couple of weeks and we've just had an offer we're going to accept.

He's asked me if I will help him sort out where to live when the house is sold. Part of me thinks, no you're on your own now so figure it out. The other part of me knows he cannot do it himself and doesn't have anyone else to help him.

Starting to feel all kinds of guilt on how he's going to cope moving forward. He has a lot of mental health issues which he just isn't facing up to but I've spent years gently and at times brutally trying to support but getting nowhere.

Would it be unreasonable to just leave him to figure it out himself.

This. Ex helps me, I help ex. Mainly so the kids are not impacted.

Bloody annoying sometimes.

Does he not have any other relatives?

@Sublimeursula he had good qualities which meant I just got on with the rest but since having our second the bad has outweighed the good.

No, you have to sort yourself and your children, time for him to be responsible for his shit. Id tell him he needs to speak to an estate agent and leave it up to him. When I got divorced, the ex moved back in with his parents and spent loads of money on being super dad when he had the kids. I was renting until I bought again, but after about a year of renting his own place, he became a lot more frugal! He'll figure it out.