I honestly feel like I’m going mad.
Me and exP have been separated for just over a year. We have two DDs together 4 & 7. The split was amicable and DDs are with us 50/50, half the week each and every other weekend.
The last weekend he had DDs, they mentioned that they’d met with a lady that exP hadn’t met before, I mentioned it to him when he popped round and he said it was someone he’d met online, and they’d both travelled an hour and a half to meet up. I didn’t say anything at the time as I was still processing. After a bit of thought, I decided to let it slide, it was in the past, it was during the day, so not romantic and what’s wrong with him taking his kids to meet a friend (which is how he would’ve thought of it).
He dropped DDs off this evening, and we were having cuppa and a chat about DDs and school and I mentioned that I thought it was a little weird, and he said that they’d met her and her children yesterday!
I’ve told him that this is a hard red line for me, and I don’t feel comfortable with my DDs being introduced to someone so early, but he genuinely doesn’t see what my problem is! I asked him if he would be happy to take his DPs to meet her and he didn’t think that was appropriate, but didn’t seem to think that an introduction to parents would even equal meeting his DDs.
He really doesn’t seem to think that this is an issue, and I’ve started doubting myself, and thinking that I’ve made a mountain out of a molehill!
Apparently not being able to see her with the children would mean the relationship is going nowhere, even though I pointed out that he has 50% of the week to see her and even offered to have DDs extra days if that made it easier.
His complete refusal to accept that it isn’t appropriate has got me completely questioning myself. He’s a really normal nice guy with no agenda and I’m just trying to work out if I’m the weird one!
TLDR: is it right to take your children on a first and second date with someone you met online?