To not want to be hugged/kissed by partner after baby climbing all over me all day

[BeckyBoo16]

DS is 7 months old and very active, crawling everywhere and constantly trying to climb up me during the day when we’re playing etc. I happily let him, I don’t have a problem with it but it is tiring. As is being with him all day while DH is at work. DS is also teething so he’s extra clingy at the moment.

DH comes home from work and I’m usually starting bedtime routine. After bedtime I cook, wash up, wash and sterilise bottles, tidy the living room, kitchen etc. Then we eat and usually DH wants a hug or a cuddle or a kiss etc which is fine but if I push away etc he just moans that I never show any affection etc. I don’t think he understands that I’m just exhausted and after having DS all over me all day I just want to be left alone for a few hours in the evening.

Am I being unreasonable about this? Or do other mums know what I’m talking about?

Ah yes, the 40 minute poo my selfish pig husband likes to pull that shite too. I’ve threatened to book him a GP appt as he clearly needs to see gastroenterologist if he takes 40 minutes to poo.
it’s awful and disgustingly selfish!

Thanks for all the recent replies! I have spoken to DH about it after I first posted and people were suggesting the ‘touched out’ thing. He was very understanding and said he hadn’t seen it from my point of view. As he gets in after bedtime most days from work, DS has already gone to bed or I’m just finished bedtime routine he’s started to cook and clean up in the evenings too. We then have been eating together and then we spend some time apart, I’ll read a book/watch telly etc and he finishes up some work. It’s been a lot better the past couple evenings and we’ve been able to have a cuddle/kiss without me feeling grossed out by it. He’s also been very helpful on his day off from work, doing most of the childcare and I managed to have a nap which was needed! (The 30 minute poo hasn’t changed though, maybe that’s his down time haha)

Very grateful for all the helpful advice from you mumsnetters! Wish I’d sat down and had this chat with him weeks ago haha!

Wow, glad I came across this post!

I have been experiencing this since baby and the blog someone posted was really helpful! I feel so relieved it is normal and there is a reason.