My husband is overweight , it’s crept on gradually starting during lockdown and is a fair few stone (3-4) overweight.
He’s tall so can carry it ok. I completely love him to bits and am totally attracted to him it does not affect our sex life at all.
He carry it all around his belly and chest and recently at the drs was told his cholesterol is elevated (he’s under 40 )
I know it bothers him also, he won’t swim with our kids on holidays etc and he won’t feel comfortable taking his top off (we don’t speak about this but I know this is the reason)
I’ve tried to support him in the past by not buying too much snack things in and cook healthy meals etc . He bought an exercise bike but that now sits gathering dust.
He has a gym membership and when he goes I’m encouraging. But he will go for 2 weeks then stop.
Ive helped him with calorie counting and how I maintain my weight (I’m under 9 stone and I’m pretty sure he weighs over double what I do but I’m short and he is tall!) but it’s only lasts a week or 2.
Im pretty sure he eats (sneaks ?) food. Recently I found a whole packet of after eights gone from Xmas that were unopened - in one sitting ? I know it wasnt me or the kids . Sweeties and crisps are his downfall.
he recently got invited to a formal event last minute but couldn’t attend as his trousers didn’t fit , every time he’s had an event he has to go buy bigger clothes. He was visably upset they were too small again.
sometimes when he is sitting on the sofa his belly hangs out which isn’t nice to look at 🙈
I just don’t know how to help him… is he just going to continue getting bigger and bigger ?
Am I being awful ? Maybe - like I say I am attracted to him but obviously I would prefer him to lose a few stone and I know he would too ! I have tried talking to him but he is VERY sensitive about it … obviously because he knows he is overweight! So can I do nothing and just have to wait until he does it for himself ??