AIBU for not wanting to leave our 8 month old?

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I will preface this by saying I am a man. Basically it's my wife's 30th birthday soon and I've sorted out leave with work to get a guaranteed long weekend before her birthday.

My sister said she would be willing to look after our 8 month son for 3 days. My wife has already accepted this offer without consulting me.

My sister is brilliant, a great mother with 2 gorgeous girls herself and a nice family. However my son hasn't really had much contact with my sister (just due to busy family lives, my son being ill etc.)

So my Son hasn't really built a bond with my sister. As great as a mother/person my sister is she hasn't really built a bond with my son. So I think leaving my son with my sister for 3 days, he would cry and be unsettled the whole time.

I told my partner how I felt and she has now flew off of the handle saying to forget the whole thing, etc...

So now I'm made to feel bad for everything because as most husbands know it's always their fault!

This is not a post bad mouthing my wife she's brilliant, and a great mother and we've not had a 1min alone with each other for years. So I understand why she really wants this.

But AIBU with this? Should we just leave my son with my sister for 3 days?

Thank you in advance for any advice.

Well your response to the OP kinda confirms the notion of "husband = always wrong".

Cut the guy some slack here, he has tried doing a nice thing for his wife. He has also taken into consideration that he might not feel comfortable leaving the baby with his sister. How exactly does he deserve the attack you've just given him? YOU grow up.

If your issue is leaving your son with anyone except his mother you are putting an awful lot of pressure on her. Do you ever go out for date nights or shorter periods of time?
Does your partner plan to return to work? How do you plan to manage this?

I'm sorry but you're being very unreasonable and selfish. You're not willing to take time off to take care of the baby yourself, but are happy to dictate who takes care of him. Gosh, take a step back and think about this logically.

No I couldn’t but mine was a cosleeping breastfed baby who had separation anxiety after I left her for a few hours!

Maybe 1 night would be a good compromise

I’m surprised at the amount of people suggesting that the op stays home with the baby, while he makes his wife have a weekend away with a friend instead of him. I’d much prefer to have a break with my actual husband. I don’t even have a friend I’d even be willing to ask to have a few days off to knob off on a break with me. They’ve got their own husbands they’d rather have a break with.

Well, from my experience having to look after babies for most of the day it is really taxing and hard on the one looking after them for most of the time. In this case , the mum. I honestly think she needs a break and since your sister has experience with children I wouldn’t be worried to be fair.

If I was given this opportunity I would grab it with both hands. Despite social conventions telling that having children it’s the most wonderful of experiences it is really stressful and isolating and can lead to feelings of losing your own identity while having to devote all your energy and bandwidth to a baby that needs your attention fully.

Just take your wife, she deserves it.